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AIBU to leave my wedding rings at home for holiday?

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pontipinemum · 11/08/2023 09:22

Am I being over cautious by not bringing my wedding rings on holiday? DH is taking his. We have had 2 sun + sea holidays since getting married and I brought a fake set on both trips. I bring my real rings on other breaks where I know I won't be swimming.

I'm mostly curious as to what others do. I just figure on our upcoming holiday I would just have to find somewhere to store them on holiday as we plan on being in the pool every day so easier not to take them. DH has a simple band which can be hit and won't come off his finger.

YABU - wear your wedding ring on holiday
YANBU - too big a risk of losing it in the sea or breaking a diamond off in the pool

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Riapia · 13/02/2025 14:18

Leave my wedding ring at home when I’m on holiday?
No, I even wear mine when I’m in the supermarket, bet none of you would dare risk that.

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Dontworkmondays · 14/08/2023 20:13

I wear cheap alternative if I’m travelling to destinations where expensive jewellery makes me a target. Other than that don’t worry.

HMW1906 · 14/08/2023 20:12

I wear my wedding ring constantly but it’s just a plain band. When we go on holiday I take my engagement ring but put it in the safe during the day and just wear it in the evening. I very rarely wear it at home due to my job so only wear it when going out so it’s nice when we go on holiday to get to wear it more often.

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 14/08/2023 11:12

YaWeeFurryBastard · 11/08/2023 09:44

But I also don't want to be walking around with £££ on my finger at the beach / pool / holiday in general. My next holiday will be mid 30s with lots of water involved, I'm not splashing around with a house deposit on my finger 😂

Why? My engagement ring is worth 5 figures and I wear it all the time on holiday, including in the pool. It’s platinum and diamond so very hardy and is also fully insured. The only time I really take it off is if we’re somewhere particularly dangerous like outside a resort in Jamaica or Africa.

👆🏻this… I bought a fake the first year and it broke whilst abroad when I was working out in the on site gym! Ever since I realised that my real ring (given I wear it in the gym and lifting at home) is far more hardy and I need to just continue wearing it.

I get it checked every year and polished by the local jeweller who designed it with my husband and built it by hand and the lady there said to my husband who was a bit upset his had a scratch that wouldn’t entirely polish out ‘each little mark is a sign of the memories you made together’ and it changed my view of my wedding/engagement rings substantially.

The only time I would remove now is if we were in a country where wearing it would be considered unwise due to crime levels.

InsomniacsWife · 13/08/2023 18:18

I'd need to chop my fat chipolata finger off to leave mine at home 😂

TrustyRusty68 · 13/08/2023 18:17

Literally never take mine off - regardless of swimming or other activity. If it’s so loose it might fall off, maybe look at getting it resized?

sarah419 · 13/08/2023 09:34

i don’t waste money on “fake” rings - i just wear a plain gold band on holiday and leave anything quite expensive or with stones at home

WonderingWanda · 12/08/2023 22:45

I always wear mine in the pool and sea. I did lose the diamond from my engagement ring a few years ago...was out and about on my daily business at home, not sure exactly when it was lost. It was covered by my home insurance so was replaced.

weasle · 12/08/2023 22:33

I work in healthcare so can only wear my wedding ring for work. So when on holiday I enjoy wearing my other rings. Regularly swim in the sea, pool, sailing etc with rings on when on holiday.
What is the point in having them and not wearing them?!
Sometimes at weekends I wear my rings and might forget to take off to go swimming locally. But they fit well so do not fall off. Always wear my wedding ring even if swimming etc. Will remove if climbing due to degloving risk but can't think of another time I'd remove. Quite difficult to get off!

IsLarryFromSomething · 12/08/2023 22:14

I have worn a fake one when I am worried about losing or damaging my real ones. I fidget with my hands a bit and feel strange without some ring on that finger now.

pontipinemum · 12/08/2023 21:02

@MangoMandy I bought the fake ring for our honeymoon, it's nothing flash at all. I wanted to wear a ring on honeymoon. I wouldn't be bothered to not bring it this time actually or I might wear my Claddagh ring instead

I'm not sure what DH will do, he normally brings his wedding ring it's just a plain band as he wears it about 5 times a year!

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Purplepeaches123 · 12/08/2023 20:45

I just leave my actual wedding ring at home. I rarely remember to put it on anyway. If I have costume jewellery for holidays for going out.

Clefable · 12/08/2023 20:41

I don't take mine off but it's only worth a few hundred quid. I'm not a jewellery person. Intrigued on buying a 'holiday' set of wedding/engagement rings though! I'd just not wear them for a couple of weeks.

42coats · 12/08/2023 20:39

I wear one simple ring and leave my £££ jewellery at home. I hide them in very clever places that no burglar will ever find.

Casperroonie · 12/08/2023 20:39

On holiday now and a few days ago I took off my rings off for fear of them coming off when swimming with my family. I have a wedding ring with stones, engagement ring and an eternity ring and never take them off normally but as I was in the pool I could just picture them coming loose.

I'll leave them home next time.

LisaD1 · 12/08/2023 20:28

I wear my wedding, engagement and eternity ring all the time, they never come off (married almost 20 years). I swim 3 x a week, own and ride horses. I don’t even think about them coming off.

Abbimae · 12/08/2023 20:26

I have a £20 plain band for holidays. Too scared I’d lose my rings!

MangoMandy · 12/08/2023 20:19

My ring is antique gold and I take it off for swimming and anything likely to damage it. Don’t bother with a stunt ring, what’s the point?

LoobyDop · 12/08/2023 20:17

Yet another thread where people are bizarrely sneery about any habits different from their own.

enchantedsquirrelwood · 12/08/2023 20:09

I actually think my rings are safer on my fingers than left at home in case we have a break-in. But I don't go to dangerous countries and I don't swim in the sea. And my rings aren't even worth four figures.

concertgoer · 12/08/2023 19:48

I wear my wedding ring and engagement ring every day.
to be blunt I’d have to have my finger removed to get it off!! … have none of you gained any weight?!

I do also swim three times a week and it’s still perfectly in tact! … 18 years later.

do you take fake cheap husbands on your posh holidays?! & have cupboards full of best linen and crockery you don’t use?

myveryownelectrickitten · 12/08/2023 18:54

This thread makes me feel like I come from a parallel universe! I’m not married but I’ve never liked the feeling of rings on my hand so I never wear any. If DP and I got married it wouldn’t even occur to me to have a ring. I don’t think anyone’s ever looked at me or talked to me differently because I haven’t got a ring on? I often have DP and/or kid in tow with me so it’s if like I get chatted up!

Maybe if I did wear a ring other people would treat me differently in some magical way? Would I feel like a character out of a sixties movie being treated like a Proper Married Lady? I’m totally intrigued now!

Bluebellsparklypant · 12/08/2023 17:57

I don’t take my engagement , wedding ring or watch on holidays. I have other rings I use instead as I’ve got used to wearing them & use a swim watch. I think it’s just what you feel comfortable with

RampantIvy · 12/08/2023 17:57

OwlBabiesAreCute · 11/08/2023 09:33

I just wear mine all the time!

So do I. Mine doesn't ever slip off while swimming or ever. It is quite a snug fit.