Are you ok with your husband/wife/partner liking bikini pictures?

I'm not a pearl clutcher or a prude

You suggested that ‘lusting after anyone’ was perverted and sad, so yeah, you are definitely a pearl clutcher and a prude, sorry.

Perfectly OK to find it a bit cringe that a man is clicking Like on randoms from a reality show in their pants, of course - I’d roll my eyes at a man who did that. It’s also fair enough to feel that within your own relationship it would be disrespectful for you and your husband to express attraction to a celebrity in front of each other.

But it is prudish to suggest that people are creepy perverts for privately thinking anyone who isn’t their spouse is attractive, or for having a little crush on an actor or something.

Do you honestly never see a picture of a man, just in passing while online or reading the newspaper or watching a film, and privately find them vaguely attractive? Never? Really? And if you did, would you feel guilty? Because in a lot of posts you’re suggesting that’s disgusting and embarrassing. You are the very definition of a prude. Which is fine, but at least own it instead of pretending you’re not.

Buffy, angel or bones fan, or different show?

Apparently 😂

🤣 So women letting themselves be looked at by men is why we ended up oppressed and the patriarchy existing?

And look what that’s done for womankind. Objectified, oppressed and subject to patriarchal ideas of what constitutes desirable and worthy.

No thanks.

You don't follow celebs on social media at all then?

No, I tiktok abit (no Facebook or insta) for recipes and make up tips and follow some feminists, but no celebs.

Never watch a film because a certain attractive actor is in it?

No. Why would you?? That's a bizarre reason to watch a film.

Never google a celeb you fancy?

No, I don't.

I'm not a pearl clutcher or a prude as some have insinuated. But I have been with my husband for 21 years and we are in a mutually respectful relationship, and I wouldn't be with anyone who followed and liked women in bikini's on social media, because I don't like men who see women as sex objects.

The type of men who like these pictures, are usually also into porn, which is a no from me.

Everyone is different. We all have our standards.

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It's a big tacky which would turn me off

I don't think I've ever noticed my husband liking these types of pictures. But, I get mega girl crushes and force him to look at insanely good looking women in Instagram all the time - I'm sure he doesn't feel 'forced' to look at them mind you 😂.

We both watch love island together and I think I point out how wonderful Maya Jamas boobies are before he's even noticed 😂😂😂.

On a serious note, I don't think of be bothered if he liked pictures in social media of famous women. I like them too!! But I think I'd lose my head if it were an ex girlfriend or something 👀😭.

I wouldn’t be remotely bothered. Men have looked at beautiful women for thousands of years.

Agreed.

Of course people find other people attractive. I just don't think making that attraction obvious to your spouse and any other social media mutual you may share is either particularly kind or respectful.

So some bloke is mindlessly scrolling, tongue out, to pictures of some random love island bikini body? And pointlessly ‘likes’ them?

That a grown man with a wife and young child spends his time even doing that would suggest low-intelligence, low engagement in his family life and pervy. Just no. Ugh.

I wouldn’t accept it, it’s not jealousy, I just think it’s creepy. I couldn’t be attracted to a creepy man.

I'd be more fucked off with my husband for looking at Love Island shit than liking pictures of someone's bethonged buttcheeks. I expect him to enjoy more high brow debauchery.

Not really, to me it’s the same if DH muttered under his breath “phowar” everytime he saw an attractive woman I’d find it unappealing. It’s just not manly to my mind, it’s childish.

I guess my idea of an appealing man is the strong, intelligent competent type, not someone who gets arthritic thumbs from liking pictures on social media.

By pornographic do you mean porn?

Maybe it's the context?

I often like photos/videos of certain people in films I like on Reddit or Instagram. It's not like I'm ever going to meet them, it's just silly teen crush style nonsense. My DH often sees my comments and pokes fun at me by responding with "you've got no chance 🤣😭" etc.

But tbf im commenting on photos of men my age or older, I'm not a 58 year old man commenting on 20 year old love island girls. (I'm in fact a chubby old 40 year old woman commenting on Pedro Pascal/Kayvan Novak/Nick Offerman etc, so very age appropriate)

Another one not bothered here and if anyone dare start banging on about the 'cool girls'... 🙄

DH will often show me stuff he's been sent on his WhatsApp group which I either eyeroll or laugh at, it's really no big deal. It's just women showing off and if I looked like that, I'd show off too!

Which is the normal reaction for any normal person.

Always the same in these threads.

Heterosexual men 'liking' photos of attractive women = perverts.

Utterly bizarre.

It's not about 'boundaries', it's entirely about justifying ludicrously petty jealousy.

It's not about the fact that someone finds other people attractive. I'm sure my husband finds many women attractive. But I find liking pictures of other women or celebrities disrespectful personally.

It would give me the ick, Dh so far has thankfully behaved like an adult not a teenager. It’s just a bit letchy isn’t it.

If DH did it occasionally I wouldn't mind at all. If he was constantly ogling and liking pictures of women in bikinis then I wouldn't be impressed!
But the odd like is fine. I like sexy photos of certain actors.

I would not be happy if my partner was doing this. I'm not a particularly jealous person either.

I just think it's disrespectful.