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7.5 year age gap kids? 2/3 kids?

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Duckduckie · 07/08/2023 09:52

Is 7.5 years between the eldest and youngest too much? It would then be 4.5 years between the middle child if we had a third.

i came from a family of 5 kids and oldest, I felt like I didn’t get much attention, I think my parents preferred babies to actual kids at times. I worry about giving my kids enough attention and if they will be emotionally supported (something I think was missing from my childhood)

I worry about days out and giving my kids opportunities I never had; theme parks, adventure, travel etc.

Yet I have an urge to have a 3rd child. I had a TMFR with a third a year ago which is also a worry as I think that would have a been a great age gap. Maybe it’s all meant to be? But we could ttc and I could have that feeling of completely my family. I feel a bit all over the place mentally!

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Ponoka7 · 07/08/2023 09:57

There's a ten year age gap between my eldest and middle one. They are close, it was my eldest that took her to her first festival etc, ideal really. The two year age gap was to get one out of nappies and walking, in the days of cloth nappies. If you wasn't pregnant within eighteen months you'd get a home visit from the priest. They are irrelevant in today's world.

WannaBeRecluse · 07/08/2023 09:56

There's 13 years between my eldest and youngest. The eldest is grown up now and is positive about their childhood years and never felt neglected. Maybe some people find it easier than others to share their attention around? It takes work to make sure each child gets their fair one on one time but should be manageable with just three. As for all the other things, that's about priorities and finances. Only you can answer that.