Keeps walking ahead & leaving me behind

Why is OP not allowed to enjoy seeing something with all her family and enjoying their expressions? We don’t all like the same things but this is one innocent thing she likes. Some people like dining out together or creating things together. I don’t get the criticism. If I knew my partner really found this special within my power I’d want to do it for them even if it isn’t that important for me.

Men barging into women who they expect to make way for them is very well documented. My DD decided last year she was consciously not going to move for the boys in the school corridor anymore, and she says they look completely shocked when she stands her ground and makes them move instead

OP, I genuinely doubt your H will change, how that pans out is up to you. Sounds like it's indicative of other odious behaviour.

But you can, and should, correct your kids, and teach them this is not kind or considerate behaviour. Talk to them about all of it when your H isn't there. Their future partners will thank you, as will anyone they think they can barrel through just because they want to.

It's ill mannered, you're raising young adults, they need to be taught what is acceptable, and how to treat others with consideration.

4. Nowhere did i mention being obsessed with capturing perfect social media moments. I wanted to experience this together as a family - we were on a family holiday. Not for anyone else.

You said repeatedly it had spolied your perfect family moment. It's irrelevant whether you had social media in mind or not. It was your notion of something that had to happen to all of you at the exact same split second - except nobody apart from you was bothered. And you all got to see whatever it was.

You have a legitimate complaint if they all steamed on ahead and no one kept you company on the walk up, if you wanted company. If I were your husband I'd accept that as fair criticism. But if you then over egged it that the perfect family moment was ruined, I'd find that cloying and irritating.

ExH did this. To keep up I would have had to half walk/ half jog. I'm not a slow walker, it's just that my legs were shorter. I talked to him about it many times, he never got it. One of the many reasons why we're now divorced.

Maybe you can harness him to a trolley/sled of some sort and have him pull you along whilst you take in the sights in comfort!

In all seriousness, tell him you find it rude and disrespectful and that you won’t be going places with him anymore unless he can learn to consider others.

I intensely dislike men who don’t realise that in the normal scheme of things they will make more ground ( however fast you walk ) because the average man has LONGER LEGS. Of course he should slow down and walk at your pace. The last time a man did this to me ( work colleague ) I had a little sit down, meandered about a bit and made him fucking wait. Not that it would have helped you, OP, but maybe when it isn’t important sloooowwwww dowwwwn. Don’t speed up.

I was agreeing with you !

My ex did that sitting in the car thing too

Rubbish, you’re not built differently to anyone else. I’m a faster walker, my dog now has arthritis and walks very slow, there’s no extreme effort on my part to slow down. I mean almost every single mother on the planet has managed it with their toddlers. Thinking you’re entitled to barge other people out of the way just because you can’t possibly be expected to slow down and consider others like OPs DH does, is incredibly arrogant.

I don’t think this is actually about walking quickly vs. Walking slowly. My Dad was a very fast walker and it meant that I’d get lost in crowds. He’d also do that thing where, once the other person arrived at “the thing”, he’d be pretty much ready to go.

I used to go out with someone who was sulky. When he was sulky he would walk really slowly (he was 6 ft 4, he could walk quickly when he wanted to). When I kept going at normal speed, he would then march past me.

There’s a mum at my children’s school who, when we are walking together, doesn’t make room for me on the pavement.

The OP feels like she missed out on something important to her because her husband didn’t accommodate her.

I’m a fast walker, I find it really unnatural to walk slowly, it’s uncomfortable even, I don’t zoom around everywhere (maybe to slow walkers it seems like I do) and barge through people, I will walk slower if I have to, but it doesn’t come naturally at all and I would prefer to walk at my natural speed and wait for someone, but out of politeness I do try to match whoever I am with. If they are really slow it’s quite unpleasant though.

But then don't you intervene and say, 'For heaven's sake, stop rushing them, let's all slow down and enjoy this'? Or if you already do, what happens?

My hubby used to be a fast walker, not so much now with his health issues, and what i used to do was slow down even more that i normally would and just amble along at my own pace and sod everyone else, lots of times he had to stand around waiting for me to catch up lol

Stand your ground on the pavement. I would say loudly - single file children - and absolutely not step into the road.

I read it the same way, all about how it benefits them.

but this time it meant missing a big moment with my kids.

Have you asked your kids to slow down?

You’ve tried telling your DH but nothing changes, so why not try telling your kids that you’re walking as fast as you can but you just can’t keep up.

It would annoy me if you were dawdling and I probably would walk on ahead as I hate walking too slow but it sounds like he’s not even stopping to wait for you to catch up which is the dickish move.

IME once you adapt your pave to the slow walker they get ever slower. It's like they want to be at the back.

Granted I am talking about one in particular.

Because it's all about how the companion benefits them and nothing about just enjoying being with them and sharing their experience. Maybe that's how you see others and that's why you see nothing wrong with it. Or perhaps you've misread it?

I don't understand your second paragraph at all as it seems to support my argument not afishcalledbreanda's. Perhaps you're confused. Or as usual just being contrary.

I went on a treasure hunt in a colleagues group. The two tall chaps had to rest because of aching backs caused by trying to walk at smaller people's pace. Walking slowly can be difficult for a zoomer.

My partner is a zoomer and will barrel across roads like a dog off the lead, while I hesitate and check for speed of oncoming cars. I'm convinced from many many things that he has ADHD.

Although we're about the same height, he's mostly constructed of legs, while I'm mostly constructed of bum.

My mother is elderly with arthritis and often has to remind me to slow down for her. I'm mortified, because I don't like feeling left behind, myself.

I'm an in betweener.

With your husband, try writing it down. Calmly, clearly, how it makes you feel when he doesn't consider his wife who can't quite go at his pace. Tell him you appreciate his enthusiasm and energy and would also appreciate if he'd bear in mind that you'd like to be walking together as a family. You'll try and pick up the pace, he'll try and moderate his, to meet you in the middle and set an example of consideration and compromise to the children.

The OP doesn't "do speed walking". She says she is a "regular speed walker" in that she walks at a regular speed.

My husband does this. He is 14 inches taller than me and can't seem to help it. My two dc are much taller than me also, so if we're all together I often trail behind. I just yell out "oi, slow down, wait for me".

I honestly can't believe you needed that many words to say "my husband walks ahead of me and it annoys me, what can I do?"