Keeps walking ahead & leaving me behind

Seriously ignore the serial posters that just like to be controversial or can't see that because something isn't important to them it might legitimately be important to other people.

The question you haven't really addressed is what you're going to do about it. Are you at least planning to tell the DC that it upsets you when they run off, so that you're not consistently on your own? It would be a good idea to ensure they're not as rude as your DH when they have their own families.

I'm not sure how you can change your husband's behaviour. If he doesn't listen when you say that something upsets you, then he's either incapable of caring for others or he doesn't respect you. That in no way means you're not worthy of respect. It's much more about him and his attitudes than about you.

It wouldn't even occur to me that going to see this as a family means we all have to arrive at the exact same moment. Tbh if there were children who are old enough to be allowed safely to run on ahead I'd have expected them to do so.

You would still "experience it together, as a family".

We were visiting this place together, as a family. So yes i expected that wed experience it together, as a family, without this needing to be explicitly pointed out. Why else even bother going together?

While it is very clear that your husband is a dick, did ou actually ask him and the children to wait for you so you could see this attraction together@Gotthetshirt1? Did they realise it was so special to you that no-one else could see it first?

It simply wouldn't have occurred to me to worry that DD or DH might see Niagara Falls/the Taj Mahal/Mount Fuji before me, and I wonder if that was your husband's thought process?

Disrespectful he should wait for you. My nans husband use to do this and she had mobility issues always made me feel uncomfortable and he was horrible

OMG this has really hit home. My DH does this to me literally all the time. Went away to Italy a couple of years ago and he marched on ahead of me in the dark walking back to our hotel through an unknown city centre. On the 20 minute walk he never once looked back to check if I was there or not. Done it again this weekend because he was more interested in getting to the pub where we were meeting friends than walking/talking with me and his DD. Even my daughter (18) commented on it this time- think she is old enough now to start working him out sadly. I am very overweight and a slow walker but other people manage to walk with me. It's more that he shoots on ahead and doesn't even look back. Lots of other issues going on but this post made me realise that it isn't normal behaviour and that I'm done with making excuses for it

YANBU. It’s so rude and how typical that you were the one to organise the whole trip

There are some tales of some really horrific men on here aren't there? Upshot is, these men don't want to be part of family life, and they don't want to be with their wife/partner. They wish they were with someone else (their mates, or the golf course, or the footy.)

No-one behaves like this, fucking off ahead of the person they are with all the time, and ignoring them, if they care about them, and they want to be them.

I am gobsmacked that some posters are defending this behaviour. My DH has NEVER done this. I have had boyfriends in the past who did though. They didn't last long with me. So disrespectful and rude and nasty.

Men barging on ahead just reminds me of the Xbox games I play, where you have to say get through a town to meet some one.

There is a nice road to walk along but it's much more efficient to just run in straight path, barging any npc in the path out of the way.

So yes, I now try not to speak and am subdued. However, I'm then a miserable bitch! I can't win. So I give up.

If I question him I just get told I'm a bitch/mental/miserable/nag/he will make me pay all the bills.

@Gotthetshirt1 does your husband disrespect you in other ways? It's not just about someone being faster and walking ahead, it's a lack of respect and consideration of your feelings.

Please leave him, for the sake of your child.

My "D"P alwaysa walks ahead of me. He is definitely a narcissist and an abusive bully though.
He is able to walk faster than me, he's a foot taller but I can walk fast and try to keep up. However, if I had to stop for a reason; he wouldn't wait. We have a 4 year old and he'll just walk off ahead and leave me behind with our child, who is occasionally refusing to walk any further/moaning for one reason or another and I get left behind to deal with it. I've said I don't see what the point in is going out together if he runs off ahead.

He has no patience. I eat slower than him too (as does our child) and he will get up and wander around or go outside and leave be alone.
He can't even bare listening to me talk, interrupts constantly and used to tell me to only give one word answers (I barely speak now and only answer when spoken to as I've been conditioned to just shut up).

This is lovely. It sounds like the polar opposite to the OP’s relationship , too.

Tbh OP this should have been dealt with years ago when he started to tell the children off for being slow. We've all encountered idiots like the OP's DH. It's especially annoying when they don't allow you time to grab a toddler out of their way. OP as said, have a word with your children without your DH, but I don't see why that wasn't done and you didn't make it clear to them that they were to walk with you.

I was always a naturally fast walker until age and some conditions caught up with me in recent years. Thirty to forty years ago, my mother had similar issues to what I have today and I definitely felt no pain in adjusting my naturally fast pace to suit hers. I just walked more slowly.

So no, I truly cannot see how walking more slowly can possibly cause pain, what about when you stop or sit down or lie down, are you in agony at that point? Have you actually sought medical help if walking slowly causes you such pain because it is bizarre.

It surely it is not hard to understand why pressurising somebody to exert themselves more than their body can naturally endure can cause issues.

I feel for you OP. It appears you husband is inconsiderate, however, it may not be intentional. My mother was a fast walker. I remember struggling to keep up with her. However, she has passed on her habit of walking fast on to me. This is second nature to me. I struggle to walk slow - in addition, I am a bit impatient. My mother is now old and now walks slow. She actually told me that she doesn't like walking with me because I walk too fast. The irony!

An exBF of mine used to do this. I am disabled due to arthritis and use a walking stick when I'm out and about and walk fairly slowly. ExBF was constantly walking on ahead of me. He'd get about 30 yards in front,'realise' that I wasn't beside him,then stop and wait for me. This was done on repeat for the whole duration of wherever we were walking to. I regularly said to him why didn't he just walk a bit slower to start with?! What used to really infuriate me was when we were trying to cross a busy road. I have to bide my time and judge carefully when I will be able to cross comfortably. He would frequently dash across when it was safe for HIM to go, leaving me standing there. I told him he was rude and inconsiderate. Just one of many reasons why he is an ex.

@bellac11 its as physically painful for me to walk slower as it is for you to attempt to walk faster. It is as difficult for someone to slow their walking speed down as it is for someone to speed it up. Walking fast causes you pain, walking slow causes me pain. You saying someone can just walk slower is as daft as someone telling you to walk faster.

I havent read the full thread but Im an incredibly slow walker and people tel me that its really annoying to walk slowly for them. Not sure I understand that as surely you just walk slower but apparently they cant walk slower and I cant walk faster.

Well clearly the OP's family don't think it's a big deal. They went on a family trip. They all went to see whatever it is they went to see. They all saw it.

Your analogy about dining out makes no sense.

Blimey there’s a lot of embellishment here.

Read what I actually wrote again, nothing about refusing to slow down or barging people out of the way so I’m not sure where you’ve dragged that out of.

I’ve said that I slow down (for kids, arthritic dogs, older people and DH or whoever else might want or need me to) but it’s a constant effort and it’s uncomfortable. If you don’t understand that people’s brains and bodies work differently, that’s fine but it’s a bit odd to just make things up to try and prove a point.

My XH did this generally. Would walk in ahead and cross a road leaving me and two toddlers waiting to cross.

But to be fair I'm not sure I'd get that wound up about getting there a few seconds after everyone else. I'd just be in the moment enjoying it myself and then connect with everyone else. At least when we I took my DC to the Grand Canyon that's how I felt - I wanted to feel the wonder myself and soak up the atmosphere - it wasn't just about the first few seconds and seeing there faces.

Regarding 4 & 5. Well I posted on page 2 and I do think your DH and by extension your children are being really quite rude. But I also thought you were being somewhat over the top when you are going on about being "robbed off special moments" by not seeing things at the exact same time. I remember when we were on safari my DH spotted a cheetah about 30 seconds before I did, it doesn't mean the moment was ruined, we were both there, both saw it, both talked about it afterwards, it was still a shared moment.

It is a bit ironic that you feel the need to point out that nowhere have you mentioned being obsessed with social media, but then you make your snide remark about others not caring about sharing moments with others when actually nobody has said that either - people have just said that not clapping eyes on the same thing at the exact same time does not need to ruin the experience.

But I will reiterate, that in every other respect, I do agree with you that your DH is not acting well here.