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Help me do this pl - splitting holiday villa costs

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captainmarvella · 06/08/2023 07:25

Morning. Planning a landmark event celebration next year in pool villa in a very sought after destination spot.

Bedroom 1 - DH & I
Bedroom 2 - Best Friend and her DH
Bedroom 3 - Friend's teenaged kids (2)
Bedroom 4 - Friend's BIL & his DP
Bedroom 5 - Friend's BIL's adult child

Villa rental is 3000$ / week. Friend has suggested that each family pays 1000$.

I feel grumpy that the split is a threeway when my DH and I will use only one bedroom. But DH says not to make a fuss as it is a long awaited celebratory holiday and by being tight we will cast a shadow over the happy planning stage (we are not rich AT ALL but a bit more financially secure than my friend's or her BIL's family)

AIBU in thinking that I should be paying less for the villa rental.

OP posts:
JC89 · 06/08/2023 07:34

YABU. In a villa you use more than just the bedroom! You'll be getting just as much use out of the pool/living area/kitchen/garden/being in the destination etc.

TravelSpam · 06/08/2023 07:34

That's an easy split per bedroom imo.
Or if you could afford to throw a bit extra in there, that would be good, but the expectation of a 3 family split is quite unfair

alszq · 06/08/2023 07:33

Yeah it seems unfair

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captainmarvella · 06/08/2023 07:33

GunkyAndGungey · 06/08/2023 07:28

It should be split by bedrooms, surely. 5 bedrooms total, so $600 per bedroom per week?

This is my opinion too. I don't know why I am expected to subsidize for the other two families, without even a request or a discussion about it. Just a tone deaf whatsapp group message to split it threeway.

I want to say something but DH is stopping me, saying not to bring it up and make things awkward as "an extra few hundred dollars would not bankrupt us". but something about it doesn't feel right.

OP posts:
PragmaticWench · 06/08/2023 07:32

As the children in this are almost adult age, or actual adult age, then I'd say they should be treated as such in the costs. So split the overall costs by room.

MsCathy · 06/08/2023 07:32

At the very least the friend's BIL adult child would pay their share?

drpet49 · 06/08/2023 07:32

Split per room

W0tnow · 06/08/2023 07:31

Split by bedroom, or by person, surely?

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captainmarvella · 06/08/2023 07:29

For context, friend, her DH and I have known each other forever, I'm close with her family too as we were neighbours and grew up together, but working in different continents as adults. We kept in touch, active whatsapp group etc. This is the first time we are planning a group holiday abroad, mostly because friend is now in a position to afford them. Now we are in our 40s.

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GunkyAndGungey · 06/08/2023 07:28

It should be split by bedrooms, surely. 5 bedrooms total, so $600 per bedroom per week?

PerspiringElizabeth · 06/08/2023 07:28

Honestly if you can take the hit just do. Life’s too short. See it as being a generous friend. Enjoy your holiday.

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