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To be pissed off with seatbelts?

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TheAverageJoanne · 01/08/2023 12:51

I'm clearly doing something wrong as in every car I've had I'm strangled by my seatbelt. It always seems to ride up and find its way around my neck.

What am I doing wrong?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/08/2023 17:38

Makes me really cross that so much in the world is designed for men

BillaBongGirl · 01/08/2023 17:37

PrrrplePineapple · 01/08/2023 17:29

It's boobs which are the issue. Seatbelts slide up and over them. This is not an issue for flat chested people!

Boobs are no issue for me, or for this woman who has boobs larger than mine.

BillaBongGirl · 01/08/2023 17:35

UndercoverCop · 01/08/2023 16:35

@INeedAnotherName that was my point, lots of people saying seatbelts are not designed for women because women are short and have boobs which get in the way. Neither of those things applies to me but I'm still a woman

I’m 5 foot nothing with fairly large boobs and I have no issues with seatbelts once I’ve adjusted the height of them, so the comments make no sense to me either.

BillaBongGirl · 01/08/2023 17:32

GingerIsBest · 01/08/2023 14:49

Becuase instead of sitting flat, across your body starting at your hip and ending at your shoulder (as it does for a man) the seatbelt slides to sit on the side of your breast. So, as a driver, the seatbelt starts at your hip but instead of being straight, it goes up along the left side of your left breast then from there it goes to your shoulder. This makes the angle much closer to being horizontal and drives the seatbelt into your neck.

? My seatbelt crosses between my boobs, not to the side of them, so it goes from hip, across my sternum between my boobs and then to my opposite shoulder.

PrrrplePineapple · 01/08/2023 17:29

It's boobs which are the issue. Seatbelts slide up and over them. This is not an issue for flat chested people!

Judellie · 01/08/2023 17:27

This happens to me too as i'm short with big boobs. Even worse tho are those machines where you have to take a ticket to go thro the barrier, I can NEVER reach and end up sending my passenger out of the car to get it, if i have a passenger.............

TenderDandelions · 01/08/2023 17:05

blobby10 · 01/08/2023 13:34

I'm 5ft 9" and have that problem in some cars - admittedly I have a short torso compared to leg length but its not just a short person issue.

Interesting, I'm not short either - I'm 5'8" and my seatbelt is set on the lowest setting, but it still happens. My DH is 5'10" yet my legs are longer than his (I have to have my seat further back than him, despite him being taller and slouching). Perhaps this is my issue also.

I am blessed with erm, ample, bosoms, and have this issue mainly if I'm wearing either a sports bra or something silky. If I can force the seatbelt to sit between my boobs then it's OK, but a sports bra that has no "separation" and anything silky just sends the seatbelt swooshing to the left of my boobs and digging in my neck.

I too have wondered what would happen if I had an accident. I'm not sure what the answer is though - short of some sort of full body harness!

marshmallowfinder · 01/08/2023 16:49

Good idea, but for short people, it can take you up away from the pedals a little, so depressing the clutch becomes even harder with a short leg!

talkingdeadscot · 01/08/2023 16:36

alexdgr8 · 01/08/2023 16:33

remember it is a head restraint, not a head rest.
it is not meant to be comfortable. it should extend above your head, with the main part of it at the middle of your head.
it is to prevent your neck being extended backwards in an impact, to prevent your head riding over the back of the seat.

The top of my head comes to the bottom of the head restraint. I always thought that wasn't a problem but would be if my head was above the restraint.

UndercoverCop · 01/08/2023 16:35

@INeedAnotherName that was my point, lots of people saying seatbelts are not designed for women because women are short and have boobs which get in the way. Neither of those things applies to me but I'm still a woman

Hesma · 01/08/2023 16:34

Lower it at the top where the belt meets the car. I only found out about a year ago you can do this… game changer!

alexdgr8 · 01/08/2023 16:33

remember it is a head restraint, not a head rest.
it is not meant to be comfortable. it should extend above your head, with the main part of it at the middle of your head.
it is to prevent your neck being extended backwards in an impact, to prevent your head riding over the back of the seat.

talkingdeadscot · 01/08/2023 16:27

Yusay · 01/08/2023 16:13

You’re short. Get a clip that pulls the crossbody seatbelt down.

Doesn't work. I'm 5' with no boobs, and not only does the seatbelt strangle me the headrest doesn't adjust. When I look for a car I have to find one where my feet are safe on the pedals. To find a car where my feet reach, the seatbelt is comfortable and the headrest is in the right place is impossible. Even small cars don't fit properly. I just go with whatever I can get at the time as long as the pedals are okay.

Yusay · 01/08/2023 16:13

You’re short. Get a clip that pulls the crossbody seatbelt down.

ZestFest · 01/08/2023 16:12

Me too, it's a real danger and if I crash I won't be protected, I'll be strangled. As previous posters have said - designed by men for men.

BananaBender · 01/08/2023 16:02

Fluffy fake sheepskin seat belt buddies are essential for me. I’ve adjusted the seat belt to its lowest height on the side wall but it still cuts across my neck. I hate it and it’s uncomfortable. The fluffy seat belt buddy makes it soft and actually helps to hold the belt in a more comfortable position because it must kind of grip onto my clothes. The buddy sits between my boobs and tends to stay there and keeps the belt away from my neck.

I bought one for my DD too once she was out of her child seat. Same problem with the belt cutting across her neck but the seat belt heights in the back seat can’t be adjusted. She’s also short.

HopityHope · 01/08/2023 16:01

Barrell · 01/08/2023 12:53

Never had this issue.

And this is helpful because?

Ponderingwindow · 01/08/2023 16:00

The strap always shifts to between the breasts and that aligns it with the neck. No amount of adjusting can fight that.

The design is inherently flawed.

Shopper727 · 01/08/2023 15:59

My car seatbelt is fixed it doesn’t move up or down which is a pain tbh. Wonder if it’s to do with boobs, my chair moves so I try that but my neck does get it from the seatbelt too it’s not comfy at all. Also short so maybe it’s a short persons thing as well but v annoying

INeedAnotherName · 01/08/2023 15:55

UndercoverCop · 01/08/2023 15:42

I'm 5'9 and fairly flat chested. I'm still a woman!!

Boobs alone don't make you a woman. That is insulting to women who have had mastectomies due to cancer. They are still women afterwards.

@Bromptotoo thanks for the Halfords tip. I don't think my fluffy ones will survive winter.

Bromptotoo · 01/08/2023 15:47

Mrs B has this problem. Adjusting the belt mount on the B pillar helps but she uses a soft slipover pad that came from Halfords.

We had an earlier version (French I think) that was meant for a child and had a teddy's head on it.

UndercoverCop · 01/08/2023 15:42

I'm 5'9 and fairly flat chested. I'm still a woman!!

Wednesdaysotherchild · 01/08/2023 15:41

5’8” and this happens to me (large boobs) - I use a clip. I’ll take the safety risk over the skin of my neck being rubbed red raw. But yes, something needs to change!

Topseyt123 · 01/08/2023 15:36

I encounter this problem in some vehicles. It seems random which ones it happens in. I'm 5'2" and do carry some excess weight.

The seatbelt cutting into my neck is one of my pet hates. Off now to Google for some pads to make it more comfortable.

Franticbutterfly · 01/08/2023 15:24

Totalwasteofpaper · 01/08/2023 12:54

This is still a mans world.

they are designed for men.
Like bricks which fit in a mans hand easily not a woman, architects folios which fot under a mans arm but not a womans, room temperature in offices which is set lower to mens comfort ...

My hands are like shovels. I can carry 3 pints in them at one time. Maybe I should give bricklaying a go! 🤔

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