Parents sleeping in living room so child can have own room

I saw a picture on Facebook of a zig zag room divider with bunk beds. I'll see if I can find it. Would need a clever joiner but could be worth it

Could you have a caravan on the drive for dd 15. Or I think the idea of your bedroom for dd13 day room and then sleeping in with her sister is a good one.

Basically put it over a sofa. I'm leaning towards your 15 year old sleeping there if you go to bed at the same time. She can use headphones and watch her stuff etc. But you need enough headroom so she can sit up and lean in bed, read, homework sprawled across etc. Prob a desk as well, only small.

DD15 and DS10 in the 2nd bedroom, with some demarcation of space. DD9 in a single in the same room as Mum and Dad in a double. DD13 in the box room. Given that parents are taking turns sleeping with the youngest anyhow, seems to make sense.

I know it's not ideal having opposite sexes sharing a room, but some privacy could be provided by curtains, dividers, other solutions mentioned here. It is better overall than the adults losing all privacy, which is not great for anyone in the long run. Keep working with all the kids about keeping their own space clean and tidy, never easy I know but when you have a lot of people in a small space,it has to be done. Good luck.

Like this so it's above the window and you don't lose much floor space

Is there no way you can get on a housing association or council list? Your kids are really overcrowded with mh conditions, you can be earning a good wage and be on the list at least? It looks like you could easily section off part of your living room, how high are your ceilings? If quite high why not get a double high sleeper with a proper sofa Underneath, either a futon or just a normal sofa if you can get a high sleeper. Then either you or anyone can sleep there.

DD13 in boxroom
Parents in back bedroom next to bathroom.
Other 3 kids in largest bedroom split in 2 across width by large bookcase/unit.
2 boys in bunkbed nearest to door.
DD15 at window end.
Could also put a light curtain on a tension rod across the gap in the shared bedroom

Their bedroom I guess? 15 year old isn’t going to go to bed earlier than parents I doubt. It’s totally unfair for a 15 year old to have no personal space and nowhere to study though, unless the trim can be sectioned off

Could you move the dining table to the living room and put a sofa bed in the kitchen?

I appreciate not the nicest sounding scenario, but if it has a door would it afford you more privacy? Could you also partitions this off from the kitchen with a curtain in the evening so you aren't faced with looking at cupboards and the cooker and fridge etc?

This sounds so difficult and stressful!

Controversial suggestion for mumsnet, but could you have them sharing boy/girl instead of boy/boy and girl/girl? Your youngest boy is presumably in bed fairly early so if dd13 was sharing a double room with him that bedroom would be quiet in the evenings as he'd already be sleeping. All playing done downstairs. The other dd and ds share the other double room and split both rooms as much as possible even if just a throw hanging from the ceiling. You and DH have the smallest?

For me, sharing a tiny room with my DH would still be preferable to sleeping in the living room.

I'd also instigate a strict rule that bedrooms are quiet places for relaxing and sleeping - all food, TVs, games, etc, should only be downstairs.

Are you suggesting the solution is a 7 and 11 year old share a single bed? And their 15 year old sister has to share a room with them? Yes that’s bizarre!

OP would you get any priority for HA or council
house due to your daughters disability and mental health?

How old are the boys? Is it really unthinkable that opposite gender cannot share rooms?
are their better pairs you could swap?
that bunk bed divider looked amazing.

what about the 15 year old having the living room. Maybe you could at least relocate her belonging and have her only in the bedroom to sleep?

I'm rather baffled at those people telling OP to put the kids in the living room.

Where are the parents meant to go when the kids go to bed??

You look like you have a good downstairs space between kitchen and living room. You can take space from the living room. Try Alara room dividers from B and Q. It's all screw in and slot.

You won't have natural light as your cut off will be before the window and no door. But it's still your own space.

If you divided the largest bedroom in 2 the boys would still have roughly the same amount of room as they have at the moment and eldest could have the other side. Not ideal as someone wouldn’t have a window but might be do-able. Or could you divide off a small section of the living room for a single bed for the 13 year old?

I might be shot down for this and seem weird but I will say it anyway..

It my suggestion of the triple bunk doesn't work then just put the 2 boys in a single bed bunk! Again they are little and this would be totally ok if everyone is ok about it! The little scared one will likely be the happiest then x

Could you not give your 13 year old your room to keep all of her belongings and use it as her own space, but then she does the actual sleeping in the room with her sister.

So to all intents and purposes she has 'her own room' just doesn't sleep there?

What are your bedroom walls made of? If they are just light partition walls, you could make the two big rooms into three smaller box rooms.

I think everyone’s being overly harsh on the 15 year old… the OP has already said she has possible ADHD so a lot of the issues in her room sound normal for a person with ADHD.

Like this sort of thing.. sure you can get them much cheaper than this Btw x

I struggle with the attitude that the person paying the bills gets the better sleeping arrangements. The 13 year old can't exactly contribute to the rent and none of this is anyones fault. I think DH needs to understand that 6 people in a 3 bed house of different ages and individual needs is going to require some compromise.