To not want to be thought of as old?

My best friend tells me I'm old constantly, has done since I was 20. The CF 😂
In lots of ways I am. Shes 10 years older than me but she is a teenager mentally.
Excellent fun to hang out with, she really is. But I like my old ways about me.
I like that I can't name the kardashians but I can tell you about things I've read on local history.
I didn't massively enjoy my youth in all honesty and mid 30s I'm happy in my own little bubble of interests and seeming older than my age.
Don't let this woman's probably out of context comment bother you.
💐

Ageism is awful and something that really needs to be addressed!

I'm seeing my 50s (I'm 56) as fit and fabulous but sadly not everyone shares this view (especially all those thirty somethings who have interviewed me and not given me jobs because they don't want to work with someone who they see as being 'their mum's age').

I say f u ck them!

He had probably told her that you were the same age and when she met you she said something like ‘she was a little bit older than I was expecting’
And then the ‘message’ got mutated along the way

Aye

Bitch

Tell her, OP, you do not mind being "old" as it is denied to many.
People like my 17 year old cousin, 22 year old friend, 26 year old friend and 33 year old Uncle who died way too soon.
I must be bloody ancient to the likes of her then at 58.

Well I suppose . Boyfriends mother is an inconsiderate twat ,If boyfriend had any respect for girlfriend he wouldn't repeat it , if daughter had any respect for her mother she wouldn't repeat it and the OP wouldn't have a reason to feel like she now does .

For the moment I have thought that's what your boyfriend's mum said and had to re-read the whole thing. Because otherwise it makes no sense to me at all. All current generation mums having their first children north of thirties are "old" then. But that's just the norm, no one is having children at 17 anymore.

@BrendaMcPherson "Has she been 44 and you'd been in your 70s, I could understand the other mom saying this."
Could you? Why?

Bit old for what, ffs!

Old is subjective. When I was a child I thought 30 was old.

tbh it wouldn’t bother me, if im happy with who I am, comments from others like this I tend to let wash over me

I think this probably hits the nail on the head.

When I got engaged at the age of 30, the MIL of my soon to be SIL told my fiancé that I was old!! In any case the joke is on her now as her youngest child is 36/37 years old and not in a relationship, so what will she say when he does get engaged 🤔🤭

She may perceive herself as still a ‘young thing’ who has a bit of an issue with the idea of getting older, whereas you may be a bit more mature (appropriately so) in your manner; hence the comment.

I think this is most likely the reason for her comment. We all grow older and there are many things to enjoy about each stage of life. If she is trying to convince herself she’s not aging—good luck with that!

Who is she t judge?!
Her opinion is irrelevant, plus, it's very unlikely that the 17yo's will end up marrying so I'd take it with aa pinch of salt and carry on with my day. Not worth fretting about.

I’d be quite surprised if that was actually quite what was said - sounds like a case of Chinese whispers as a previous pp said!

So weird that she described you as old, then her son described you as old to DD, then dd told you she described you as old.

All of them have been rude tbh.

I would give the mum a wide berth and would consider how much you’re doing for DD’s boyfriend. He seems to be be getting too big for his boots.

🤣

My man is 70 and I'm 54... we still laugh and joke like we're children! No way is 52 old.

70 is the new 50! 😊

It depends on the context.

Bf might have suggested the Moms hanging out and she's just said she's nice but seems a bit older than me so not really got much in common. Old isn't specifically an insult

😘 You're only as old as the man you feel!

Hmm. That reeks of her having massive issues with ageing & looking young. I'd also interpret that as she's probably quite shallow: & so she wouldnt be my cup of tea. Don't feel hurt. She's massively insecure is all.

I think she's rude tbh.

She shouldn't have told her son that for her son to tell your daughter, who in turn went and told you.

Plus you know its not even true anyway if people say you look younger than your age.

I am older than you and I've been told I don't look my age either. I would be offended if someone said I looked old, not only because who wants to be told that they look old, but also because people say I look younger than my age so if someone said I looked old, I would think their being nasty.

For me this is a 'red flag' because she's saying something unflattering about you to her son, and in turn it got back to you.

Well then she's not 'emotionally mature' which she should be at her age.

All it's done is create disharmony and a bad feeling. It says alot about her personality doesn't it.

Bit old for what? To be alive, for her to talk to? Is she a bit thick?!

This... There is no need whatsoever to have anything to do with your offspring's partner's family ... My two adult children have been with their partners 8 to 10 years, and I can count on the fingers of one hand, the amount of times me and DH have met their families.

It's just been one wedding, and one christening, and a couple of big birthdays ... We have met both families 3 and 4 times respectively ... in 8 to 10 years. We don't need to know them, and we have no interest in being in contact with them. And they feel the same. They must do, as they never show interest in meeting, just like we don't. 😆

They are pleasant enough, but completely different to us. We literally have nothing in common.

My parents and DH's parents met just TWICE... at our wedding, and the Christenings of our 2 kids... They are only 14 months apart in age and we had them Christened together when they were 6 months and 18 months old.

I'm definitely not old. I was only born in 1947.