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Hot and bored on holiday

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 13:09

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

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letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 20:56

PrincessofWellies · 24/07/2023 20:48

Cadiz, Tarifa, Jerez are worth a visit if you have access to an a/c car.

There's also the most amazing beach at Bolonia.

We would always hire a car when we go - must put those locations on the list!! We've also driven to Seville, Gibraltar and into Portugal. Went to Valencia this year for a change and loved it.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/07/2023 20:55

@letthemalldoone
Ooh thanks for the tips - have holidayed a couple of times in Estepona but haven't been to the other less well known places you mention . We go to the wider area quite frequently as it's so easy and decent weather out of season (would hate in the summer)

PrincessofWellies · 24/07/2023 20:48

Cadiz, Tarifa, Jerez are worth a visit if you have access to an a/c car.

There's also the most amazing beach at Bolonia.

letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 20:41

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/07/2023 20:36

I agree - it's OK if you are able to have multiple holidays but not if it's your one holiday a year .

Is it Estepona you like? (Most western place I can think on C-D-S)

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Estepona and beyond - San Luis de Sabinillas, Puerto de la Duquesa, San Pedro de Alcantara. With a mooch in the Old Town in Marbella and a walk round the harbour in Puerto Banus (though Duquesa has a lovely little harbour too!). Mijas is nice though a bit hilly - not keen on Torremolinos/Fuengirola/Benalmadea - it's less touristy further west. Love it there!

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/07/2023 20:36

letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 20:07

Headphones maybe?

I don't think I'd like to go to the same place every year anyway. There are so very many locations to visit and flights to take lol!

I think the only place I've been that I keep wanting to go back to is the western Costa del Sol.

I agree - it's OK if you are able to have multiple holidays but not if it's your one holiday a year .

Is it Estepona you like? (Most western place I can think on C-D-S)

Cherrysoup · 24/07/2023 20:27

Loveys · 24/07/2023 13:21

Thoughts and prayers

snort 🤣

Find a decent restaurant with air-con. Go late, like the natives. Most shops have air-con, having lived in Spain, unless you’re somewhere really out of the way. Go shopping, get in the pool.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/07/2023 20:26

Sitting drinking rose and reading sounds lovely! What do you want to be doing?

Just get really nice things that take no cooking to eat in your villa and chill.

letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 20:07

Headphones maybe?

I don't think I'd like to go to the same place every year anyway. There are so very many locations to visit and flights to take lol!

I think the only place I've been that I keep wanting to go back to is the western Costa del Sol.

Keykaty · 24/07/2023 20:01

Get hammered on Rioja now OP, the hangover you'll be trying to cure tomorrow will pass the day. 😂

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 19:45

@goingslightlyinsane thanks for a lovely list of things to watch.

Sadly the pool area is no music allowed . But I do exercise in the pool even though it’s very warm.

@ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea yes that’s right. It’s lovely in May / October but I can’t see myself agreeing to come for more than a week next summer/ maybe beginning of Sept if at all . We are tied into school holidays. We need to rent it out next summer / most of the year so we can afford a different holiday if that’s what we want to do. Seriously conversations.

The ‘curry’ was inedible so that was a good start to a diet… I’ve retreated to the patio as too grumpy for human consumption.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/07/2023 19:01

Can I just clarify - you own the home you are staying in OP? If so then you and your DH probably need to have a serious conversation in respect of management for future years - eg visit your home during the holidays October - May and let it out the rest of the time? Or would you consider selling so that you don't feel you need to go there every holiday to make use of it ?

If you enjoyed the heat previously , maybe you will again post-menopause, but I think summers are due to get hotter .

Iwantmyoldnameback · 24/07/2023 19:00

Get your music on get in the pool and work out. Time will fly by you will tone up and burn off some energy.

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 18:53

@Whatkindofuckeryisthis
I can lose weight but you will still be nasty.

I feel really sorry for anyone else not enjoying their holiday or missing out especially those in Greece. Rain sounds like bliss to me.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/07/2023 18:49

LakieLady · 24/07/2023 14:16

Fancy an exchange visit?

I'll swap two weeks in my house in the beautiful south downs national park, lovely view from the window, fantastic country walks on the doorstep, just a few miles from the buzz of Brighton but with lovely villages and country pubs close by, for two weeks in your holiday home in the horrible heat and sun of Spain. I realise this is a big sacrifice on my part, but I'm generous like that.

You'll need to bring a few jumpers, a set of waterproofs and some wellies.

Would you also offer an exchange to someone living in an ex council house in the West Midlands ?

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Desperatenow1 · 24/07/2023 18:40

letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 18:37

He could still retire there - win win .... 😉

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Took the words right out of my mouth.

You're a stronger woman than me Olympics - I would be booking the next flight home!

letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 18:37

olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 18:33

I’ve also said I don’t want to retire here!

He could still retire there - win win .... 😉

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 18:33

I’ve also said I don’t want to retire here!

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 18:31

He offered not to play golf tomorrow. I told him to go anyway as I’ll be staying in the villa anyway.

He offered Gin and crisps . I said no thanks as I’m fed up of being fat and some lovely people here have reminded me that alcohol doesn’t solve all my problems .

A day of Netflix tomorrow sounds just the job.

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 18:27

To make you laugh further at my misfortune DH has cooked and instead of using the hot curry paste just to marinade / fry off the meat with a curry sauce added as a base he has made a whole curry of the hot paste.
🤣.
I’ve told him we are not coming here next summer. He didn’t like the idea of a boat trip with cycling 😔

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Lilyhatesjaz · 24/07/2023 18:16

I feel sorry for you, I would hate your holiday and would definitely rather be in rainy uk.
I think people would have been less nasty if you were on a package holiday which just shows the envy.
In fact if you were on a package holiday you would have more chance of finding other people to chat to.
Next year send DH on his own, use the rest of the flight money to book the kids into a fun holiday activity club and have some good days out on your own or with friends.

Lottapianos · 24/07/2023 18:04

'Reading comprehension and nuance on here can be extremely poor.'

You can say that again! And far too many people just jumping at the chance to revel in someone else's crap situation and accuse them of first world problems

zerofuchsgivenTBH · 24/07/2023 18:00

On Netflix I watched the Taylor Swift documentary at 3am when I couldn't sleep and really enjoyed it.