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Hot and bored on holiday

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 13:09

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 26/07/2023 13:46

minpin · 25/07/2023 22:08

I think a lot of posters here are not hearing what you are really saying OP ! You need more stimulation. You obviously feel there is more to life than just lying around reading … I think you should hire a car/get a taxi and go and see some LIFE! Maybe you need to achieve something .. like helping at local dogs home/children’s centre/teach English etc. hope you find something with meaning.

She should arrange to volunteer at a local children's centre or teach English whilst she is on holiday ??? Seriously? Are you assuming that Spain has no rules and processes around DBS, references then? And that these are things she can do during what is also the Spanish summer break ?

TedsmumLulu · 26/07/2023 09:40

Sitting here in my winter pyjamas in sunny Scotland 😂 but to be honest I wouldn’t like to be on holiday in southern Europe in the middle of summer .
I really enjoy temps 18c to 23c but can cope of its up to 30c especially if there is AC , shade and a pool .
In your shoes I’d be off to an air conditioned mall to get ice coffees and mooch around the cool shops , find an air conditioned beauty salon to get nails done 💅🏻 see a movie , sleep in the day walk and go out late at night ?

Gingernan · 26/07/2023 06:02

Leave the kids with hubby get on a local bus and see a bit of the place.Take some pictures. Sunbathing is bad for you and boring.

wellstopdoingitthen · 26/07/2023 00:20

My heart bleeds for you op.

myfaceismyown · 26/07/2023 00:04

Lots of people making fun of OP. I am also overweight so set goals when I swim to try to improve my stroke, and swim more laps, setting my own targets. I compete with myself so it is fun. I also sketch and take a small watercolour set, which absorbs hours of my time. As for DCs, finding fun games for them is always rewarding. Simple things like scavenger hunts for 10 things beginning with C in the native language. You have to join in though. Actually talking to my DCs and finding out what they see of their future, what they like about their life now....conversations you would not have time for at home. When it is hot taking a power nap at midday benefits everyone and eating later does not matter when there isn't a time restraint in the morning. Afterwards a cool moonlit stroll talking about your hopes and dreams can be fun. Try to enjoy this time OP.

BaconChops · 25/07/2023 23:17

Dixiechickonhols · 25/07/2023 21:16

If you read full thread I think she was lacking any adult company.
In same way lonely pensioners ask the time etc.

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Meadowland · 25/07/2023 23:11

YANBU. I don't think some people are understanding just how hot it is out there. There's nice hot, and there's unbearable hot.
I too would hate it OP, not being able to do anything.
Give me the cooler northern climate any day.

Ukrainebaby23 · 25/07/2023 22:59

Time to read a book would be nice ....all the rest of the stuff an unbelievable bonus

pollymere · 25/07/2023 22:54

It sounds like it's not your sort of holiday. You probably need to be somewhere cooler with things to do. You are clearly feeling guilty for seeming ungrateful when actually you sound miserable.

We decided not to have a holiday this year after realising it would be expensive and very rainy.

minpin · 25/07/2023 22:08

I think a lot of posters here are not hearing what you are really saying OP ! You need more stimulation. You obviously feel there is more to life than just lying around reading … I think you should hire a car/get a taxi and go and see some LIFE! Maybe you need to achieve something .. like helping at local dogs home/children’s centre/teach English etc. hope you find something with meaning.

FlipFlop1987 · 25/07/2023 21:50

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kennycat · 25/07/2023 21:47

Are you in a city? Could you join the local
Facebook page and find some compatriots?

kennycat · 25/07/2023 21:46

I’m m also in Spain but on my own. It’s hot but I’m walking around seeing stuff then occasionally sitting down to read/ have a drink/stare at the scenery.
listen to a podcast maybe??

doorstopper123 · 25/07/2023 21:38

Just eat, drink, swim repeat

sounds ideal to me

Dixiechickonhols · 25/07/2023 21:16

twilightcafe · 25/07/2023 19:28

OP has money, time and a smartphone.
Plenty of means to find something to do.

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If you read full thread I think she was lacking any adult company.
In same way lonely pensioners ask the time etc.

Pres11 · 25/07/2023 21:14

Champagne Problems!

Answersonapostit · 25/07/2023 20:45

I would play my miniature violin for you but I can’t because Im swimming down my local high street in this glorious July we are having, my menopausal overheating is working for me as it’s so fucking cold and windy. Poor you it must be awful though having to eat out and come back to your villa and watch your kids having a great time. Count your blessings and get yourself in a better frame of mind.

ThunderThighs123 · 25/07/2023 20:43

JMSA · 24/07/2023 13:11

Diamond flip-flops too tight, OP? Grin

😂😂😂

Pepsi2001 · 25/07/2023 20:41

Shame sorry you having to endure this !!!!!

Arona · 25/07/2023 20:24

If you have a Kindle read the Pucking Around series by Emily Rath if you haven't already that will definitely entertain you for a few days 🥵 (might make you even hotter though 😂)

Toomuchtrouble4me · 25/07/2023 20:05

I’m DREADING my holiday next week - we don’t even have a pool, I just don’t know why I agreed to it! I hate swimming in the sea and will be a nervous wreck when kids do. I just really really don’t want to go but I’ve agreed and DH and kids are looking forward. I KNOW 100% it will be too hot, DH will have us off on long hikes to somewhere full and kids will be bored nightmares. Give me a week here in Blighty in the rain with kids booked into football club anytime.

HamstersAreMyLife · 25/07/2023 19:36

olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 16:17

We are here for 2 weeks so another 9 days - last year 3 in the summer. Going home to the UK last year the heat intolerance was even worse. I’m on HRT and it’s better this year as no hot flashes just hot all the time.

My ideal holiday would involve riverside walks, beautiful scenery , boats, little towns to explore, pub lunches. I’m not fit enough to enjoy mountains at the moment. Maybe Scandinavia?? The weather in the UK this June was perfect for me. I work so hard that not much time for fitness at home.

I enjoyed a yoga retreat pre Covid. Likeminded company , lovely activities. Enjoyed skiing holidays prekids but don’t anymore… childcare responsibilities etc.

DH and I were worried how I would handle the heat before we came.

I’m going to have a sleep and hopefully wake up less grumpy.

Oh @olympicsrock you have made my year. DH wants to get a holiday home in Europe where he's from and for all the reasons you have said I have always refused for fear of being bored out of my mind quickly. I like camping in the uk with long walks lol. I'm using this thread to back up my holiday home refusal

twilightcafe · 25/07/2023 19:28

usedtobeasizeten · 25/07/2023 19:16

Which could be the reply to any post….

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OP has money, time and a smartphone.
Plenty of means to find something to do.

twilightcafe · 25/07/2023 19:28

usedtobeasizeten · 25/07/2023 19:16

Which could be the reply to any post….

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OP has money, time and a smartphone.
Plenty of means to find something to do.

BaconChops · 25/07/2023 19:24

Jeez, is this a genuine post or do you just like to brag? Get a grip woman.