Hot and bored on holiday

I mean, you went out there knowing the temperature. You went out there knowing you’re going to have hot flashes. What did you think would happen? I’m guessing your DH fucks off all day, everyday leaving you with the kids so you’re bored shitless. That’s the problem tbh.

@DennyDoll Think you've posted on the wrong thread.

I'm sorry, that sounds hard.

Ridiculous comments and I totally get your feeling OP. Holidaying in Spain in July/August sounds like the seventh circle of hell even in a normal year. Can you swap for a holiday house in Iceland or even Denmark instead? Or else postpone the Spanish vacation to a more reasonable season. September/October?

Ive kept quiet with this to him but a bit concerned about my 13 year old son. He’s an only child and still likes to collect tons of soft toys and cuddles his little cuddly dog. He also only likes to wear football kits all the time. My dh seems to think it’s ok for him to not grow up too fast but I'm concerned to be honest and when I mention it to him he doesn’t seem to care . He’s a massive football fan too but other kids his age seem to wear joggers and t shirts etc. he’s also developed a bad tick so am worried something is going on with him. How old is too old for soft toys and full kits ? What do you think ?

Teach yourself Spanish? If you can speak Spanish, try to read a book in Spanish.

Come home Op. Leave your DH to look after and cook for the kids.

Then sell the holiday home in the boring sports complex. Use the money for lots of interesting city breaks out of season and school hols in lovely cool Devon, Cornwall, Wales, Lake District, Ireland or Scotland etc.

Job done and you'll never have to sit in soaring temperatures with throbbing feet and sweating gallons again.

I’m like you op. I don’t really like the heat as it’s hard to do anything. How hot is it there op?

I wonder who will play you in the movie?

So dramatic.

It's fine to not be enjoying it, but I don't think your going to get any of the answers your looking for here.

Nah. It summed up my feelings perfectly.

Admittedly I would be bored stiff in your position and as a fellow peri sufferer the heat would make me grumpy and angry but having saying that I would currently swap with you in a heartbeat, I’m looking after my mum who sadly has dementia which is as much fun as having my eyeballs washed out with bleach.

@BillieShears great addition to the chat, you can just scroll past you know. 😘

Are you near anywhere you could get some knitting needles and wool? Watch some you tubes about learning to knit, download a simple knitting pattern, make yourself something cozy ready for a return to chilly uk. Very therapeutic and calming and time flies.

It's why we dint go to blazing hot places in summer.

I would be happy with the kids in the pool and not dreading the school holiday at home.

Enjoy yourself. I hate the heat too but at least you have your own home to relax in and not stuck fighting for the buffet or sunbed. :-) It could be worse.

What do you expect us to do about it?

She is.

Didn't plan on crying today but this one got me😢 poor you x

No reason at all that you couldn't go sightseeing! An airconditioned car is one of the best places to avoid the heat. Or as someone else has said, go to a shopping centre for a mosey - it would be cool there. If you are anywhere near Marbella, la Canada is good. I'm post-menopausal for the record.

We were in Spain the week before last and it was mid to high 30s. We still went out and about to see the place.

I think it's probably exacerbated because you feel you should be so grateful, and how the other posters have reacted probably reinforced that a lot. You are perfectly within your rights to complain just as others do about private school fees or trouble with the hired help that others wont have.

What sort of things do you normally like to do? If you have access to a car can you all get up really early and go on a adventure before it gets hot? Do you know any other women at the complex you could meet up with? Any friends who would jump at chance to fly out to be with you for a few days, dh can take the kids?

I think a jigsaw is a good idea OP. That should keep you busy for hours.

Or throw some money at the problem and go for a nice massage or something?

Indoor shopping centre is a good shout. You can wander around the shops & stop for some food.

Unless you are confined to school hols, go there in Winter/shoulder seasons. Let it out for the Summer to those who must go then.

I would only go to Med regions between late September to December and January to May. Southern Spain around Estepona/Cadiz has had great weather any time I visited. But once in July was my only visit there. Never again. Blistering. So I understand OP being overwhelmed with the heat.

Go at a different time.

Have you read her update? She enjoys sport. Just not in the scorching heat.

Ah first world problems. At least you’re not being evacuated to sleep in a gym hall!

I get perimenopause chills not sweats. I could really use some heat but I’m stuck at home with no pool, moaning kids, equally shite tv, British weather and a partner who has mild covid but can’t return to work until
negative. Happy to swap. Don’t even want the wine, you can keep that