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Hot and bored on holiday

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 13:09

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

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cocksstrideintheevening · 24/07/2023 14:22

OP why did you buy your holiday home there? Did you used to like cycling or golf?

ManateeFair · 24/07/2023 14:22

So, basically what you're saying is that you are on holiday, in a property that you own, and you are incapable of amusing yourself there even though it's your own house and you could fill it with anything you want in order to keep you entertained? Don't want to watch sport or Jeremy Clarkson? Then watch something else FFS.

What an absolute nightmare, owning a second home and having a holiday in it. Really tough week you're having there, OP.

Caspianberg · 24/07/2023 14:22

Meanwhile I’m in scorching south europe, but live here.
So I have had a toddler off on nursery holiday (11 weeks summer holidays), and still have loads of work to do despite the heat. It would be pretty luxury to sit in shade and read

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 14:22

Sounds perfect - a bit like our normal home. I’m up for a staycation next year!

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letthemalldoone · 24/07/2023 14:22

PollyThePixie · 24/07/2023 14:08

OP, I read but 3 books in 5 days would mean I was just skimming over the words because the book didn’t really interest me.

Are there any class you can go to in the complex, yoga, spin. You’d be keeping busy and doing yourself some good also.

And don’t bother about the sarcastic comments - some things are best left ignored.

I can easily read a book in a day if I'm sitting out in my back garden, and that would be over the course of the afternoon/evening?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 24/07/2023 14:20

I hear you OP. I think this sounds very much something your DH wanted to do. I wouldn't be pussyfooting around in the morning so he can sleep his lazy arse in to 10am. If he was up a bit earlier, he could suffer with you! Or maybe he wouldn't be quite so lively at night, re restaurants etc. When do you get to pick what you do?

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 14:19

That’s the thing . I’d don’t have any of my stuff here.

@PupInAPram good thought. Maybe I need to buy some crafty stuff .

@BillieShears you too dear! .

@Positive41 that’s what I need to hear . At least there are sunbeds and a patio . I know I’m lucky.

Well I’ve turned on the music to lift my mood a bit. The wine has numbed my soul a little . Arranged to see a friend for dinner .

Really the challenge is that DH and I want different things out of a holiday.

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CandyLeBonBon · 24/07/2023 14:19

Sending thoughts and prayers op 🙏 Flowers

DoubleTime · 24/07/2023 14:18

Sign yourself up for an online course - do Open Uni. Or learn some Spanish and then go practise it when it gets cooler in the evening. And why don't you join your kids in the pool ?

Dixiechickonhols · 24/07/2023 14:16

It’s not really a family holiday if he’s in bed then off on his own cycling or golf.
If it’s not working for you book something different next year.

LakieLady · 24/07/2023 14:16

Fancy an exchange visit?

I'll swap two weeks in my house in the beautiful south downs national park, lovely view from the window, fantastic country walks on the doorstep, just a few miles from the buzz of Brighton but with lovely villages and country pubs close by, for two weeks in your holiday home in the horrible heat and sun of Spain. I realise this is a big sacrifice on my part, but I'm generous like that.

You'll need to bring a few jumpers, a set of waterproofs and some wellies.

cafenoirbiscuit · 24/07/2023 14:14

Get into the shade and start some Pinterest boards of snow scenes and arctic landscapes

willWillSmithsmith · 24/07/2023 14:13

WorkCleanRepeat · 24/07/2023 13:20

You need a better book 😉

You can read ‘Spare’ that’s about a privileged person complaining, you might relate 😁

UtterlyBeastly · 24/07/2023 14:11

Swim in the sea
Read better books
Eat lovely food
Drink more wine😂
Chill out

I am going to Cyprus next week and its very hot, these are the things I am going to be doing

littlebopeepp234 · 24/07/2023 14:11

olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 13:09

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

But it’s always going to be hot in Spain in the middle of July so why choose to go abroad? And if you really must then why not wait until October/ February half term when it will be cooler, especially at night.

Pebblesontheside · 24/07/2023 14:09

Obviously you are massively BU for everything in your post, but also - you are never too old for a nightclub!
Why not go and have a dance a bit more often and it might sort out some of your other problems

Windchimeswinter · 24/07/2023 14:09

I'm playing my violin

Mammajay · 24/07/2023 14:08

It's like autumn here today and I love it. The heat is so draining. I'd come home early and enjoy our maritime climate.

PollyThePixie · 24/07/2023 14:08

OP, I read but 3 books in 5 days would mean I was just skimming over the words because the book didn’t really interest me.

Are there any class you can go to in the complex, yoga, spin. You’d be keeping busy and doing yourself some good also.

And don’t bother about the sarcastic comments - some things are best left ignored.

lavenderlou · 24/07/2023 14:08

I get your point to an extent. We were in holiday in France last year where it was unbearably hot (unusually so). We like to get out and about to do stuff on holiday and it was too hot.

However, I know I find golf and lying around the pool boring so I wouldn't have bought a holiday home in a place where those are the options.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 24/07/2023 14:07

How tragic My heart bleeds for you

Dulra · 24/07/2023 14:07

Drink more of that cold Rose on the patio. Maybe mix it up a bit have an Aperol spritz every second drink

Hopelesscynic · 24/07/2023 14:06

I don't think YABU, OP. There's only so much you can do in that kind of 40+ degree heat, even with a swimming pool.
Personally I do beach holidays for the children's sake (they love it) but if I were on my own you wouldn't see me there. I'd much rather be up in the mountains, hiking and long walks, njoying the gorgeous forest, waterfalls etc. Or some other place that at least offers things to see/do away from the heat.

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olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 14:06

Whoever suggested a laps of the pool challenge - that’s a good suggestion . Might do it to motivate myself . Need also to get out my trainers or Pilates stuff from the bedroom as DH sleeps til 10am and I’m creeping around in the morning. I’ve been getting up at 6:30 am to enjoy the cool of the day.

The gym here is really expensive so that’s a no.

I’ve spent lots of time in the pool with the kids. I take them every Saturday and play with them in the pool at home .

So I’ve told DH that I’m fecking bored of spending all my time sitting around while he plays golf and cycles. He doesn’t like the beach . We need to rethink holiday plans while heat intolerance is such an issue for me.

To make you all laugh - it’s even too hot for DH to cycle!!! Our extreme sports mate almost collapsed with heat exhaustion yesterday after a bike ride.

Well about to take the kids to the pool again. It’s like a bath in the water At least they are having a ball.

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tattygrl · 24/07/2023 14:06

Sweetashunni · 24/07/2023 13:15

Yeah. It’s in a heat wave because climate change. Caused by people consuming more than they need. Flying abroad, owning multiple houses, I mean you’re only one person but aren’t we all?

Sorry but I completely agree with this.

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