Hot and bored on holiday

Is your DH spending any time with you and DC? It does sound a bit boring TBH. And I'm in rainy Ireland where we are on the verge of being washed away.

Is there anywhere near by you could go for the day?

Wintering and Yellowface both great reads

Perhaps
"Rewire your Mindset"
"Women who Think Too Much"
"The Art of Happiness"
"How to love yourself, be happy with your life, and heal negative thoughts"

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight.

Snap. Which is why I am as happy as a pig in shit in wet 16 degrees Scotland. When I want to go out I will put a rain jacket on and will enjoy it. Rain isn't ideal but manageable and much preferable to 30+ degrees - I would be hiding indoors for the whole holiday!

What on earth possessed you to agree to this holiday?

Do you also get to go on holiday to places that you enjoy and where he does the majority of parenting?

I’m with you OP. A couple of friends had holiday homes on the continent and my DH and I talked about it because it seemed a very easy thing to have when children are small. But, I’m like you. I don’t like sunbathing, I get hot and bothered. I’m certainly not exercising when it’s boiling hot so what does that leave? All friends sold theirs when children got to teen age because they didn’t want to go any more.

Pretend you’re in a sauna and sweat off a few pounds 🤐

A few ideas, as being on a holiday you don't enjoy sucks. No one would like that despite the 'tongue in cheek' comments.

Do you have a laptop or tablet? Could you (subscribe to if not already done and) go on Netflix/prime/YouTube and watch a really juicy series? I'm enjoying "and just like that". "Succession" is also good.

Could you get up first thing in the morning and do some light exercise while it's a bit cooler (e.g. yoga off YouTube, walk on the beach, golf)?

Could you do some "theme" dinner nights at home or a cocktail-making evening one day (e.g. Spanish theme: make tapas, drink local wine, watch a "Spanish" film - like Ferdinand . Italian theme: make pasta drink Italian wine, watch an "Italian" film - like eat pray love).

Could you make the most of continental habits and have dinner at a restaurant super late, when it will hopefully be cooler.

Is there a funky/classy bar you could go to - this may feel different to a nightclub- Even in a posh 5* hotel.

Look for places with air-conditioning- bars, restaurants. Could you go to the cinema and watch Barbie, Oppenheimer, Mission Impossible one night?

I have a house in Spain. I don't go there this time of year (haven't actually been since pre covid). We don't stay at the villa all day though (lovely pool and acreage). That would be boring. We plan little day trips, go to markets in nearby towns, a bit of shopping in the winding streets of villages, eating out too., and the supermarket fish counter is amazing - plus we don't have air on so nice place to cool down for a bit! But yes it's hot, and that requires frequent stops to have something cold!

So you read slow...not sure what your point is?

I can read a book a day when I am on holiday, sometimes more, read them all in their entirety.

I’m a bit of a speed reader myself but 3 books in 5 days in amongst daily tasks would mean the books hadn’t really got my attention.

or perhaps the amount of pages matters.

Get up earlier and go out before it gets too hot?

stay indoors and nap during the hot hours and go back out at night for nice meal?

listen to a podcast? Radio? Music ?

do you like any sport? Hiking, swimming, tennis? You can do these early or late when it’s cooler?

Any museums or sight seeing near by or in next town/ city? You could go on a day trip, make use of their air conditioning. Buy a personal fan that you can carry with you?

Could you all go on a drive? To the mountains maybe? A picnic in the shade somewhere? Usually the higher up you go, the cooler?

boat trip, usually shaded and cold sea breeze might help?

I’d love to be in the UK on a grey day, going for a walk or able to cycle or play tennis or garden. Horses for courses….

Sadly, it has been far too wet to be able to do any of those things where I live. I saw animals lining up two by two yesterday it was so wet. I don't mean gentle rain, but torrential rain ALL day.

This is why you have had some snippy replies. Everyone is suffering from cabin fever.

If Spain in summer is too hot for you could you not just stay at home, and the children just go with their dad?

I consider that a done deal then! I'll book the last week in July and the first week in August off, and book my flight nearer the time.

Can you house swap it next year?
Or suggest him and kids go there and you go elsewhere for a change on basis they like it you don’t.
If answer is you need to go as childcare while he enjoys his hols then that makes your point it’s not a holiday for you.

Agree with this

There are some hideously bitchy women on this thread...

OP sounds like my idea of hell! I can cope with up to about 24 degrees then I am miserable. I hate sitting around "sunbathing" get bored very easily and want something to do....I can only sympathise as I would be itching to get home if I were you!

Yes, this was me last year.

This year, we're going to the Arctic.

And mine, to be fair

It sounds like DH is getting a way better deal out of this than you are.

I sympathise OP. I remember going on a much looked forward to holiday after a horrendous battle with cancer.

We were returning to a fitness resort we had loved before.

I found it was quite different now I was in menopause, five stone heavier from the treatment, incapable of walking far due to my legs chaffing and generally being exhausted nevermind actually working out. The heat was insufferable.

I was utterly miserable.

A few days before the end I discovered the canoes on the resort beach. Hallelujah. I spent the remaining time drifting along the water in the breeze.

Could you hire a boat or something?

Otherwise go into the house, whack up the aircon and go for a netflix marathon. It's your holiday, you don't have to do the sun lounger.

And sorry but the wine isn't going to help (sorry I know you don't want to hear this but it really is true.)

OP, I read but 3 books in 5 days would mean I was just skimming over the words because the book didn’t really interest me.

That means you read more slowly than the OP does. It doesn't mean the OP is skimming. I can easily get through seven or eight books in a week if I've got not much else to do, and I don't skim.

I am a similar age and I can't drink anymore. Not rose, not anything. It sends me into an existential crisis. I would find better books, cool off in the pool and do some yoga/meditation videos on my phone.