Hot and bored on holiday

pinkhousesarebest · 18/08/2024 11:10

In fairness, in that sort of heat, boredom sets in very quickly We have had it for two weeks now where I live and you can’t go out. Everything is Burt to a frazzle. Give me a bit of mizzly Irish rain any day. ( point of origin).

Sahara123 · 18/08/2024 10:59

skippy67 · 24/07/2023 13:15

Sending thoughts and prayers to you at this difficult time OP.

🤣👍

nuttyroche2 · 18/08/2024 10:50

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roundtable · 27/07/2023 18:56

olympicsrock · 27/07/2023 13:53

Update: I’ve adjusted to the heat ( it’s been less humid too) and had a much better time over the last few days. Actually enjoying chilling now. I often find it hard to switch off and relax on holiday as I am such a workaholic.

Gave myself a bit of a kick up the backside and had a serious chat with DH about him not buggering off for the whole holiday to do sport leaving me in charge of the kids . Also not doing holidays at the hottest time of the year

Planned evenings with friends and food after 9 pm so less sticky and it has been nice to have adult conversation/ company.

Also made a firm decision to lose weight and prioritize myself more at home instead of work and looking after the kids.

Thanks to those who understood the bigger picture and cheered me up , gave me good suggestions.

Glad to hear it op. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. I hope you get some decent and fun family time.

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olympicsrock · 27/07/2023 18:43

Demolishthecreamcake · 27/07/2023 16:46

Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!

I spend my whole life sorting out other people’s problems and listening to others thanks.

Being fed up of being hot is just as valid as being fed up of the rain. Surely mumsnet is a reasonable place to talk about menopause and marriage problems??

Having a decent salary doesn’t mean I can’t feel unhappy. Those saying “read the room” should consider that.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 27/07/2023 18:02

Demolishthecreamcake · 27/07/2023 16:46

Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!

But the phrase 'read the room' refers when someone has added inappropriately to an existing conversation. OP has not posted this on the cost of living board.

Crikeyalmighty · 27/07/2023 17:21

@olympicsrock Yep I think peak season isn't for me either- I just end up frazzled- maybe if I lose 4 stone I might tolerate it more!! I do like hot weather but in small doses of an hour or two at a time! It doesn't help too that I'm not great at lying round in it for hours as I get stiff

MargosMangos · 27/07/2023 16:54

Demolishthecreamcake · 27/07/2023 16:46

Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!

Maybe you should RTWT as take note of @olympicsrock replies
She has definitely listened and your response isn't necessary

Mirabai · 27/07/2023 16:54

Demolishthecreamcake · 27/07/2023 16:46

Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!

Offs. Akaik OP is a surgeon. She’s entitled to a decent break imo.

Lottapianos · 27/07/2023 16:53

'Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!'

Oh do get a life. People are allowed to be pissed off, even if their circumstances are way more fortunate than many

Demolishthecreamcake · 27/07/2023 16:46

Maybe listen to some of the criticism, it may make you less self-absorbed and able to read the room better in future!

PollyThePixie · 27/07/2023 16:38

Well done OP. 👍

SequentialAnalyst · 27/07/2023 15:20

So glad to things have improved.

Gave myself a bit of a kick up the backside and had a serious chat with DH about him not buggering off for the whole holiday to do sport leaving me in charge of the kids . Also not doing holidays at the hottest time of the year

Am also glad to hear you had a serious chat with DH.
Mine didn't do serious chats, not about holidays, not about finances, not about housework. Eventually I divorced him.

It took MN to see what was happening to me. That's why people have been gently probing for info to see if you had an abusive relationship but hadn't yet realised it.

all the best OP

mainbrochus · 27/07/2023 14:19

well done OP.

REMEMBER: PUT YOURSELF FIRST, no one else will. And the whole family will benefit if you are happier and fitter.

Dixiechickonhols · 27/07/2023 14:10

Glad things improved Op enjoy the rest of your hols.

Lottapianos · 27/07/2023 14:00

Good work OP! So glad things have turned around 👍

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olympicsrock · 27/07/2023 13:53

Update: I’ve adjusted to the heat ( it’s been less humid too) and had a much better time over the last few days. Actually enjoying chilling now. I often find it hard to switch off and relax on holiday as I am such a workaholic.

Gave myself a bit of a kick up the backside and had a serious chat with DH about him not buggering off for the whole holiday to do sport leaving me in charge of the kids . Also not doing holidays at the hottest time of the year

Planned evenings with friends and food after 9 pm so less sticky and it has been nice to have adult conversation/ company.

Also made a firm decision to lose weight and prioritize myself more at home instead of work and looking after the kids.

Thanks to those who understood the bigger picture and cheered me up , gave me good suggestions.

OP posts:

BadLad · 27/07/2023 05:14

I always like it when I can use this picture.

Grrrrdarling · 27/07/2023 01:31

olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 22:56

Yes - have been to Cartagena. Nice place

I haven’t made it to Cartegena but stayed in Cabo Roig a few times & loved it. Such a relaxed area, marina round the coast to the south is lovely & the beaches are practically empty in summer as locals are at work & many tourists stay in the bigger towns like Torrevieja.

Grrrrdarling · 27/07/2023 01:21

olympicsrock · 24/07/2023 13:09

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

Think you need to either go away earlier or later in the year when the temps are cooler or reconsider where you have a holiday home.

Going forwards climate change is only going to make temps rise more & in already hot places that rise will be felt more significantly & quickly than at home.
Even the weather here has been quite unbearable at times this year & last but that is more due to how close it is here when it gets a over 25° & that is due to our country’s general moisture levels.

adriftabroad · 26/07/2023 17:48

Go OP, go and teach English! 😂

Dixiechickonhols · 26/07/2023 16:13

Lottapianos · 26/07/2023 16:06

'She should arrange to volunteer at a local children's centre or teach English whilst she is on holiday ??? Seriously? Are you assuming that Spain has no rules and processes around DBS'

I know! 😂 This place is unhinged sometimes....

I think most of respondents have missed fact Op is in sole charge of children (young enough to need constant supervision in pool) while husband is off out cycling and golfing for hours.
What she’s supposed to do with the children while she’s volunteering.
I also can’t imagine the logistics of finding a volunteer role on your 2 week holiday.

Antoninus · 26/07/2023 16:08

Sell the house then

Lottapianos · 26/07/2023 16:06

'She should arrange to volunteer at a local children's centre or teach English whilst she is on holiday ??? Seriously? Are you assuming that Spain has no rules and processes around DBS'

I know! 😂 This place is unhinged sometimes....

Skodacool · 26/07/2023 16:02

Do some swimming then you might lose a bit of weight. Really, OP, complaining about the situation you are in is a bit much!