To hate how mums always have to sacrifice their career...

I didn’t feel it was a sacrifice although I worked part time and and could take my son to the play group I worked at.
If you can manage financially without working I would not consider it a sacrifice but a privilege. Children are little for such a short time. Are careers really the be all and end all ? When we look back at our lives I don’t think we will view it as a sacrifice at all .

Also this: “I had a fantastic time and didn't miss a minute of my kids upbringing shame you prioritised work over them.” Even though her husband prioritised work over the kids lol.

“I had a fantastic time and didn't miss a minute of my kids upbringing shame you prioritised work over them.”

What about your husband?

I much preferred being at home with my baby than putting them into a nursery, I’ve worked in early years and seen some baby rooms in them, I wouldn’t leave my dog in the care of four 16/17 year olds.

Those are your words. How is that respect for everyone's choices?

Did your husband prioritise work over his children?

None of those words were uttered by me.

I have respect for everyone's choices. Shame others don't follow suit.

All the Cooking and half cleaning are all my husbands jobs it's obviously more a problem in your home than mine.
Your opinion is becoming laughable.

Keep living in your own wee crazy world.

I had a fantastic time and didn't miss a minute of my kids upbringing shame you prioritised work over them.

I'll let you carry on with your narrowmindedness while I bow out and enjoy my Saturday night! 🍹🍹

We both work ft and neither of us had missed a sports day or a nativity yet?

I do all school drop offs and dh picks them up from the childminder every night at 5.

there’s no juggle there’s no stress. And the kids have both of us present for all school requirements, not only one of us.

And here you are saying no one should judge all while suggesting women who work ditch their kids with 16 year olds and don’t bother supporting their kids at school.

pot, kettle and all that..

Live a little by being satisfied with cooking, cleaning and laundry? I didn’t miss a thing either.

Also didn’t miss a sports day or parents evening. I have a job that allows parents to attend, now mine are older and it’s my team I always tell my staff to prioritise their family. I know they work hard so if they want an early lunch to watch an assembly or sports days that’s fine as I know they will make it up. Happy workforce

Try and get a job with some prospects / promotion (civil service for example) rather than minimum wage jobs. I certainly didn’t sacrifice my career when I had kids, yes it was tough but they aren’t young forever.

if they were unwell we didn’t need to juggle childcare or school pick up and drop offs

I’m not understanding the bit about juggling school pick ups and drop offs. If one child is unwell and you need to take the other(s) to school then surely you need both parents - one at home with the sick one and the other parent to take the well one(s) to and from school.

This is the point I always find quite funny. “Oh we didn’t have to juggle drops offs and pick ups” because the sahm did it all. In my world there is no arguing or juggling drop offs and pick ups or other commitments. Maybe that’s because we both actively want to do things and be involved with our children whereas when it’s one sahp it’s completely unevenly distributed and the father doesn’t engage as much.
My DH doesn’t see picking DC up as a chore or a juggle, he’s happy to get home from work and see his kids, a I don’t see it as a chore or something to juggle either.

I have a career now but wanted to stay at home with our children and didn’t want them placed in a nursery as babies. I didnt want to miss a thing or have someone else caring for my own children. Why would We pay someone to look after our own children when we could afford for me to stay at home no benefits involved!
And no dh diidnt Miss shows etc as he made time to come, he just wasn’t there for drop off and pick up and he didn’t have some high flying career as he’s a tradesman,

we don’t all live for our work, some people want to be at home and care for their own children full time. And financially can do that. I know that may be a shock to your little narrow mind but open up your mind and live a little!

The only young girl in my sons baby room is learning, she isn’t yet fully qualified. The rest are all older and incredibly experienced.

Some nurseries are better than others.

Shhh, don’t say that. It’s all up to the women, they have to protect the man’s big important job. Men choose to miss school things and child rearing as they’re not interested, they’d be just as happy if the kids were in childcare. They couldn’t care less.

I work full time and I haven’t missed anything from school? Your husband chose to miss it. There is such a thing called flexibility. Men choose not to go for it, just like women choose to be funded. Just admit you didn’t want a career and would rather facilitate a man. Be honest.

I work full time and I haven’t missed anything from school? Your husband chose to miss it. There is such a thing called flexibility. Men choose not to go for it, just like women choose to be funded.

I didn’t miss a school sports day, or school show and if they were unwell we didn’t need to juggle childcare or school pick up and drop offs.

I work full time and have never missed a show or sports day either.

The juggling of childcare and pick ups etc isn't really a chore if you're both on board and share it fairly 🤷🏼‍♀️

He didn’t sacrifice his career because I wanted to stay at home. He didn’t. Simple as that.

my children are older one has just graduated and the other is at university. Both went to pre school nursery, primary school and high school.

both children have also said they are grateful that I was at home, I didn’t miss a school sports day, or school show and if they were unwell we didn’t need to juggle childcare or school pick up and drop offs.

being at home worked great for us.

However I understand that it doesn’t work for everyone , maybe you should try and understand/respect others choices too.

So, why didn’t your dh sacrifice his career? Are you going to homeschool?

Only if you don’t choose your partner/husband wisely. Thankfully my dh pulls his weight and isn’t a dick .

personally I much preferred being at home with my baby than putting them into a nursery, I’ve worked in early years and seen some baby rooms in them, I wouldn’t leave my dog in the care of four 16/17 year olds.

would much rather sacrifice working for a few years and be at home for my child.

anything can happen in life, my mum was left a widow at 31 with 2 young children, she worked her ass off with family support to make sure we didn’t go without. That’s what parents do, they make sacrifices .

That’s fantastic. Glad you’ve found something that is a good fit. Congratulations!

Awesome news, Op! Sounds perfect!