I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

i think you should come clean and confess all. but not yet. Give it a bit of time for your feelings to calm down - like a few decades. Tell him when you are both old, infirm and senile. But until then don't drink and never nosh off a stripper ever again.

called someone a melt 🤣

Urgh.. thought strippers had rules like no hands and no sex and sex acts?

as for you and your friends- very sad bunch with no self respect..

If my husband had ever cheated in any way, yes of course I would want to know, and I'm sure he would want to know if I'd cheated. Like everyone who gets married, we made vows to each other and we take them seriously, even after 43 years. Any kind of infidelity would always have been a complete deal breaker for me, and I would still leave my husband immediately if I found out about any occasion when he'd cheated. I had a couple of relationships before I met my husband where boyfriends had cheated, and I can't understand how anyone could stay with someone when they know they have had any type of sec with someone else, whatever the circumstances.

Believe me, there's tons of other much worse stuff on here that I'd rather not be true, but I'm sure it is. Seeing how the flame wars go, by that logic you wouldn't believe this is a mostly female site and I think we all agree that it is.

I'm not going to go into the full picture of everything that suggests a man with nefarious purposes on here, but I'm really pretty confident in some cases... and it isn't just because they're saying stuff I don't like.

FWIW, I've never had anyone suggest I'm not a woman even though I've definitely caused consternation regarding some sexual topics. I have had some people suggest that I don't really have kids, though.

Whoah there, calm down and catch your breath. You need a breathing space to work out what 's the point of telling him.

Are you going to make him an ick memory that lasts for life?
Is it to ease your conscience? Will you feel LESS guilty if he knows all?
Or, will hurting him just make both of you feel worse?

Imagine if he was drunk at a stag do and licked cream off some stripper. Would you want him to confess? Or would you really rather not know any of the awful seedy details of whatever guys actually do at a stag.

Think on.

Maybe, but I think there is also a propensity to see gorillas in the mist, and calling ‘troll/man’ is an easy way for someone to dismiss something they don’t want to be true.

I can believe it happens, but something about the choice of audience and nature of it seems off to me. But even if it wasn't intended to draw a certain type of person or a certain type of response, it clearly has. It's a how-to whether it means to be or not.

Real or not, no one forced or tricked posters to say that giving a stripper a 4 minute blowjob isn't cheating. That's actually the most surprising part of the thread for me.

The Fiesta comment upthread was about right.

I can believe it happens, but something about the choice of audience and nature of it seems off to me. But even if it wasn't intended to draw a certain type of person or a certain type of response, it clearly has. It's a how-to whether it means to be or not.

There's no doubt that we do get a number of Herberts here.

i have no idea what the numbers are of women doing this shit versus men lying about women doing this shit. Is that even something that’s been measured/is measurable?

Plenty of us are women and have seen this stuff go on, as well as heard about it from other women 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not sure why it’s being painted as some nefarious conspiracy imagined up by men.

What did you do, Shirl?! Clearly MNHQ have seen the thread if they're removing posts, but presumably they're just hoping for traffic from this one..

As I'm sure your aware what you did was wrong. To both your DH and the stripper.

I can see this ending up in the daily fail by the way. And with all the details you have especially with the scratch on the car, your husband would surley recognise it as you

I'm surprised it's not in the media yet.

The men who lie about women doing this kind of thing vastly outnumber the women who do it. So on the balance of probability, I am unconvinced.

I don’t think it necessarily is a troll thread written by a man. There are women that can and do behave like this, and recognising this isn’t an agenda against women, and nor does it justify and/or excuse men that behave badly.

I'm only a dozen posts in, but this is glorious. A thousand thank yous.

Leaving it up is a green light to squatters.

I have. Nothing done.

And lots of “See! Women are such hypocrites, such double-standards!” in an attempt to deflect from global sex inequality and prevent fruitful discussion about how sexual exploitation falls under MVAWG and contributes to sex inequality.

I can't tell if this is serious.

I'm looking at the somewhat more insidious "see how calm reasonable I am about this and what an irrational harpy you are WHAT ABOUT THE SEX TOPIC AND THE PERVS AND MISOGYNY ON THIS THREAD AREN'T HARMFUL" stuff.

I've just reported the thread. I can't believe nobody else has, but there's been no comment so maybe they haven't. I guess it's up to the control tower.