I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

I just hope that the Union Flag was covering up his face whilst all this was going on!!!

Prostitition is grim whether it's the man or woman as punter.

Exactly ThinkTheresBeenAGlitch

I don't believe this post is true. The bit about scratching the car jumped the shark. Owww what a silly woman I am, first I gave a drunken blow job to a stripper because I'm sooo horny around naked men and then I scratched hubby's car. Aren't I a ditz!?

The first post was meant to draw people in to saying it wasn't cheating before OP became more specific.

There's loads of posts condemning OP, and some misogyny thrown in too. Apparently women are still slags for having sexual desires. How enlightened we are.

Of all the raucous nights out and hen dos I've been on nothing even remotely like this happened. People from my school still talk about a classmate giving a blowjob to a random in a club bathroom well over 30 years ago exactly because that kind of behaviour is unusual amongst women.

It's utterly ridiculous how many people are on here are yelling double standards or sexism.

On the remotest of remote chances this is true. Fess up OP if you love your husband. You had a choice and now so should he. Personally I think it's a load of bollocks, cream covered or not. It's time sit down with your husband and just spit it out.

Heh. I didn't use the words nice or slut, but I still think any woman who gives a stranger a blow job in public is deranged.

Ah, yet another Mumsnet poster who thinks she's been elected to speak on behalf of women.

I wasn't aware that we were only allowed to make posts that reflect the experiences and behaviours of the average woman.

I am not really bothered what people- mostly misogynist TWAW men- think of MN. Who cares?

I have changed my mind now and think the OP should tell her DH. But ofc she is not going to.

It’s different for some, not for others. Some women do get turned on by attractive male strippers.

I don’t think that recognising that some women behave like this means that all women behave like this, or that even the majority do. Not liking the fact that some women can behave in this way, and wanting to believe they don’t, doesn’t mean that they don’t.

If this thread makes some women realize that not all women are the same and that many women find naked men arousing, then it's probably a good thing.

I think it's worse to say that groups of women go to see strippers to laugh at them.

It's worse to say only gay men would be turned on by a naked man.

It's worse to tell women there's something wrong with them if they find a naked man arousing. That's just slut shaming by the puritanical.

@hammie46i

Low risk of HIV transmission via oral however he is working in the ‘trade’ so I guess that does add a layer of complexity to this situation but then surely all the other women who had a lick would face that scenario too?

Im just kinda glad I don’t do shit like that. I have a conscience for a start.

Can I just say that the mental gymnastics and hypocrisy in this thread are some of the key reasons why Mumsnet has the reputation it does?

Double standards and frankly scurrilous advice like that doled out here are reasons why other forums around the internet have threads called things like "Mumsnet madness" where discussions like this one are copied and pasted, to aghast reactions and much amusement. It's why there are Twitter accounts set up for the same thing. We're a laughing stock.

Seriously some of you people need to take a look at yourselves.

Definitely the most offensive thing about this thread @ShirleyPhallus 🤣🤣🤣

Blimey. I've never gone for a HIV test after giving a blow job? Should I have?

And what’s that supposed to mean?

That sounds incredibly homophobic!

NAHALT!

Sure. Is she going to abstain for another six months after being tested just to make sure she hasn’t picked up HIV? Or is she going to get tested once and decide it’s probably fine?

She has no right to make that assumption without letting her DH choose to make that assumption with her.

I agree. It sounds like something a gay man would say.

I also think this thread is damaging. Not least because it creates some pervy myth that women behave like this on average. We don’t.

Anyone who has seen a male stripper knows full well it’s a complete and utter laugh, not some erotic experience. it is very different to men watching a woman. The whole it’s so horny what with his rippling muscles I just had to suck his cock is beyond niche or ludicrous.

@therescoffeeinthatnebula

she could abstain from sexual contact with her husband until she got the all clear. There’s ways round it.

I would keep quiet if it was a one off and totally out of character. Rightly or wrongly.

People are missing the point. She gave another man a blow job.

If you’re in a monogamous relationship, for sexual health reasons, you cannot keep that to yourself. The OP needs to get tested and she needs to tell her DH.

It’s not right to potentially mess with a partner’s sexual health because you feel guilty.

@BigTitsMcStuffin

I can imagine my husband saying the same.

@BigTitsMcStuffin

I get that. If my husband sucked on someone’s tits a little too enthusiastically and for too long at a stag (which would be hugely out of character for him) I just wouldn’t want to know.