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I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:48

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

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romdowa · 03/07/2023 12:04

I mean everyone else was pissed drunk, they all licked the cream from his Penis, you were underneath a flag as well. How likely is it that the others would have noticed you spent slightly more time down there then they did?

FOJN · 03/07/2023 12:04

MrsO3 · 03/07/2023 12:01

@Lostsoul0307 oh goodness. You need to tell DH. You've definitely been unfaithful. I'm shocked at the amount of people on here saying to keep quiet. How sneaky. How would you feel it he was at a stag and ended up 'licking out' the stripper?

It's to protect the husband from being hurt, not to absolve the OP, she will have to make peace with the guilt she feels for what she did.

Twistyripple · 03/07/2023 12:04

This must be a wind up. OPs latests posts about being horny are just daft

AnonKat · 03/07/2023 12:03

I'm calling BS.

But it's interesting to see how many women think that blow jobs are fine, and not cheating!

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 03/07/2023 12:03

mauricemossmylove · 03/07/2023 11:58

if my OH had given a stripper oral sex I'd certainly think that was cheating yeah, sorry

Sorry OP but I agree

FrenchandSaunders · 03/07/2023 12:03

has to be a wind up!

SparklingMarkling · 03/07/2023 12:03

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Goes on in our local strip club all the time. Unofficially of course (private dances in your own cubicle behind the curtain) you pay more of course.

I mean OP did cheat but are we talking a full on Nosh or just a quick gobble.

no good can come of this. Keep quiet and hope for the best.

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:03

Comedycook · 03/07/2023 12:01

That was a silly thing to do...still you seem to excel at making terrible decisions op!

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I know, she confessed to similar but not as far

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BansheeofInisherin · 03/07/2023 12:03

MrsO3 · 03/07/2023 12:01

@Lostsoul0307 oh goodness. You need to tell DH. You've definitely been unfaithful. I'm shocked at the amount of people on here saying to keep quiet. How sneaky. How would you feel it he was at a stag and ended up 'licking out' the stripper?

Furious. It's definitely cheating. I am just saying not to tell him to spare him some pain. Not because I think it is inconsequential.

YoungerDryas · 03/07/2023 12:03

Comedycook · 03/07/2023 11:59

Highly unlikely I'd imagine

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Wouldn’t he have a contract stating that no one could touch his nob? And what about the risk of herpes is licking cream off it is part of the act?

FrenchandSaunders · 03/07/2023 12:02

Where else has that nasty dick been!

Ob12 · 03/07/2023 12:02

Classic Mumsnet, "don't tell him" "what happens on a hen stays..." if this were a man, they would be crucified

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:02

BansheeofInisherin · 03/07/2023 11:59

Don't tell him and hope for the best, because it would really hurt him. And get some support for your drinking. Or don't drink as much.

The drink definitely contributed but honestly it was more how horny it seemed to make me

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NeverThatSerious · 03/07/2023 12:02

Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:59

I'm hoping to hear more of this

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I expect your husband would’ve been hoping you’d not suck another man’s cock, but here we are.

FrenchandSaunders · 03/07/2023 12:02

Christ that is some seedy hen do 😮
It is cheating, how would you feel if your DH went down on a female stripper in front of his mates!

Conkersinautumn · 03/07/2023 12:01

You've the moral compass of an alleycat. Your dh deserves someone with honesty but that's looking that it's not you. If you told someone, it will come out. Because you gave a stripper a blow job in a crowd of people. Class act he married there

MrsO3 · 03/07/2023 12:01

@Lostsoul0307 oh goodness. You need to tell DH. You've definitely been unfaithful. I'm shocked at the amount of people on here saying to keep quiet. How sneaky. How would you feel it he was at a stag and ended up 'licking out' the stripper?

LadyH846 · 03/07/2023 12:01

I wouldn't bother telling him.

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:01

Hoppinggreen · 03/07/2023 12:01

Is that a euphemism?

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No - literal a huge Union Jack flag

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 03/07/2023 12:01

SparklingMarkling · 03/07/2023 11:59

Just take one for the team. Men do it all the time. It’s not right but I doubt they would eat themselves up over it. Excuse the pun.

Really ? Usually if a man gets to close to a stripper a very burly man turns up and throws him out. Unlikely he’ll be fingering and licking a stripper’s ladyparts without paying way more or getting in trouble

Comedycook · 03/07/2023 12:01

Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:58

No but I confided in 1 other that I had done it

That was a silly thing to do...still you seem to excel at making terrible decisions op!

Hoppinggreen · 03/07/2023 12:01

Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:00

It wasn't in front of everyone else as such he had a big flag that I was behind

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Is that a euphemism?

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:00

OhComeOnFFS · 03/07/2023 11:59

Oh god, what were you thinking? In front of everyone else as well? Is he going to hear about this from someone else? You realise 19 women are now saying "At least I didn't do what OP did" don't you?

It wasn't in front of everyone else as such he had a big flag that I was behind

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Hugasauras · 03/07/2023 12:00

This is really bizarre. I can't understand how you find yourself sucking some random guy's cock in a room full of whooping women. But yes this is absolutely being unfaithful and I'd think you should tell him before someone else does.

Comedycook · 03/07/2023 11:59

YoungerDryas · 03/07/2023 11:58

I would be worried that the stripper would report you for crossing a line.

Highly unlikely I'd imagine

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