I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

Say nothing. Deny everything if challenged. Your guilt is your punishment.

No good will come from telling your dh.
Men have fragile egos. And in this case, drunk or not, you sucked another man's penis.

He's not going to react well and you will certainly be taking a chisel to the foundation of your marriage.

If you really love your dh and will never do this again then keep quiet.

This can't be true. If it is its very weird. 4 minutes? What was everyone else doing during that time? Queuing up? 🤮

I find strippers hilarious, not sexy

If you were a man I'd tell you that you're disgusting and your wife should think seriously about leaving you

I think the same for you, OP

IF your story is true

In what way is 'everyone' ok with this? Most of the posts are absolutely not ok with it at all!

I was thinking this .
and that it is adultery

Imagine how many mouths have been on his dick. I hope you get checked for STDs. I've seen a couple of strippers and no one has licked or sucked a cock that I was aware of.

I'd say 'I drank too much, the hen party got out of hand and I spent too long licking cream off the stripper, now I feel terrible'. Then it's up to him if he wants more details or to see it as a stupid drunken one off that he doesn't need to hear the details to.

Oh well that's a drip feed - a BJ is v different from licking a bit of cream off pecs.

Your call. It's not like you had an affair but it is fairly grim.

I’m not sure this is real but I can’t imagine what set of circumstances i would be so aroused I’d be moved to give a stripper in a crowded room of whooping women a blow job behind a Union Jack. Most strippers I’ve seen at hen dos have been funny more than anything.

I wouldn’t tell DH, put it down to a 3/4 minute drunken mistake.

Just wondering what you actually think constitutes cheating.

I'm disgusted by all the vile women saying don't tell him or that it's not a big deal. OPs husband has a right to decide if he wants to stay married to someone who'd suck someone else's cock in front of a room full of people behind his back. Exactly the same women in fact who'd be on here screaming LTB if anyone confided that their husband had eaten out a stripper.

Thing is OP there will be at least one video and the fact you are behind a flag for that long and the stripper has stopped, well, stripping, shows something was happening .

You need to think damage limitation now and at least have some control over how this comes out

Also this is the kind of story rag papers have their journos looking out for so even more important to get ahead and maybe consider pulling this

GRIM 🤮 Sucking off a random stripper that has had all your mates tongues around as well?! Vile.
Also so OP you can't have been that good... 3-4 minutes without stopping most men would ejaculate. Unless he did in your mouth 🤢

That's completely fair enough @strawberrywhisk. Thank you for the apology - completely unnecessary but appreciated nonetheless.

I think it's a very emotive subject for a lot of people but I do agree there's some quite aggressive delivery of opinions.

I mean can't you STI's from that? HPV, that sort of thing? You need sone tests as well as confessing to your husband.

Brian darling, I sucked off the stripper at the hen do. It's ok though MN assures me it wasn't cheating and to be fair his cock was bigger than yours. Tinkly laugh, would you like more peas?

I mean it's not the classiest decision you've ever made but it's not "being unfaithful". Don't make something out of it that it isn't! If you start using that language and tell him what happened he's going to think you're hiding something else...

I apologise for that remark, regretted it soon as I posted it. And I've sort of changed my mind and agree with you, I just don't like name calling and like to be more logical in responding.

@Lostsoul0307 just sit him down and say you need to tell him something. Don't give him the whole back story of 'everyone was doing it' or whatever, just own what you did, tell him you know how unacceptable it is and that you hope he can forgive your moment of madness but you understand if he needs space.

Wow!
That is grim! I’d be disgusted if my partner licked another woman’s bits. It would 100% be classed as cheating. Being tipsy isn’t an excuse. You’re sucked a random man’s cock… I bet he’s filthy! Tell your husband immediately.

This does happen and I agree with @Diorinthecountryy

Well it wasn’t your finest moment was it! But… you were drunk and caught up in silliness and got carried away, it’s not like you’ve been sending nudes to Dave from IT and shagged him in a travelodge is it?
keep quiet. Forgive yourself. Line your stomach before hitting the mimosas in future.
that’s what I’d tell you if you were sat in my kitchen now with a mug of coffee, friend, sister, daughter or whatever my advice would be the above.

Those who think this is ay-ok, would it also be so for DH to go down on a stripper for 3-4 minutes? With an audience?

I think oral is more intimate than PIV. Way more so.

Yes. Go with that.

OP you actually don't sound embarrassed at all you sound very proud. I'm getting this weird vibe too. Probably because it's a load of shite. Let's hope for the husband that that's the case.