I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

I couldn’t keep it quiet I’d be too worried he’d find out. Besides you can catch all sorts from a blow job so now you need to get checked as well.
people saying it’s not cheating..how can giving a blowjob to another man be a faithful act? If her husband had licked out a stripper do you think you’d approve of that?
OP you made a huge mistakes and how honest you are with him boils down to how likely it will be that he finds out and how he’d respond.

If a man goes to a strip club all we see is how grim it is and run for the hills, don't get married, divorce him etc etc

A woman gives a stripper a blowjob and everybody tells her to keep quiet

LMAO

"A quick lick of some cream that was on a penis, for 5-10 seconds whilst trying not to wet yourself from laughing is normal Hen Night antics"

I've obviously led a very sheltered life then, I'm no prude but if that actually happens it's vile. Gads you have no idea where his dick has been before you chomped on it! Think anal for starters 🤢🤮

Really grim and definitely cheating. DEfeinitely not ok, and just one of those harmless things. You gave another man head, in public.

The H of someone I went to uni with performed oral sex on a stripper at his hen do, the father of the bride was there and saw the whole thing, I don't think the wife was ever told. I could not be around any of them after fnding that out.

@strawberrywhisk I stupidly commented before I read the whole thread.

Honestly if you absolutely have to tell him then sit him down and say at the hen party the stripper had whipped cream all over him and we did this thing where you had to lick a bit off. I was drunk and got a bit carried away and probably crossed a line for a moment or two.

Then apologise and beg forgiveness.

Would I consider it cheating if my partner did it, probably yes. But like it or not, there is quite a significant difference between the use of male and female strippers. My objection to female strippers is more based on the power imbalance and objectification of women. Male strippers don’t have that element, they just don’t.

It’s pretty grim yeah I agree but it’s not an affair, it’s a stupid one off tipsy moment where you’ve got carried away.

Don’t mention he had a massive cock for gods sake!

Sit him down today and just come out with it, don't over think it. It could be one of those things where the build up and overthinking it is actually worse than the doing it. Like ripping off a plaster, get it over and done with. The longer you leave it the worse it will be as more time will have passed. Just say I have to speak to you about something I've done. I've feel awful and the guilt is consuming me, you need to know...
Good luck @Lostsoul0307

@Lostsoul0307 do you only need to tell him as you have a guilty conscience or would you want to know if he'd done the same. Will it do any good or will it be likely to end your relationship? Some people can't get over what was for you a bit of a wild night. Think carefully before you say anything at all as it will hurt him regardless.

Does this really happen? I have been at hen parties with strippers and nothing like this happened. There was cream but not on the actual knob! And noone was aroused we were all pissing ourselves laughing, it's not intimate! Well not in my world.
This sounds like how men view strippers more than women.

There would be so many LTBs if this was about a man going down on a stripper on a stag do.

Some of you must live very tame life’s if you can’t believe this is real.

Iv been to hen dos like this😂😂

OP, if there’s no chance your DH will find out from the rest of the hens then just keep your mouth shut and don’t mention it.
It’s a one off, no need to ruin your relationship over it.

Actually I can well believe the OP to an extent. When I was younger at a ladies night at university that had two strippers. Both my flatmate and friend got pulled up separately for the whipped cream section by them. My flatmate was horrified and refused to lick cream from anywhere but the guys chest. My friend on the other hand who had a boyfriend who at that very moment was at my boyfriends house playing poker with him and their friends decided that she was more than up for it.

Similarly he had a large union jack which he was using to shield things, unfortunately from where we sat we could see everything and the whole room could tell what was going on by the facial expressions of the stripper and it lasted a lot longer than my flatmate who was back at her seat embarrassed and angry that she had cream in her hair and her make up was ruined.

Said friend thought the whole thing was funny especially when she tried to slip stripper her number at the end of the evening without a thought for her then boyfriend.

I was mortified then and rather angry that I was asked not to tell my boyfriend what had happened. Its most definitely cheating and just because it was a stripper doesn't make it better.

If the role were reversed would you be OK with your DH licking whipped cream from a strippers vagina? I also suspect you would have been ripped a new one on here if you were a man.

Frankly your DP deserves to know about it, unless this stripper wore a condom you're putting your DH at risk of a potential STI, you broke his trust, you now need to live with the consequences of your choices.

She'd be disgusted, and rightly so.

Think of lowering yourself to that level, though...🤢

Jesus I wonder what the “not really cheating” lot would think if it was a man giving oral sex to a female stripper for 3/4
mins. She had another man’s cock in her mouth for several minutes she wasn’t just licking off some whipped cream.

I wouldn’t tell him OP but make sure you never do anything like this again!

Out of a group of 20 on a hen party, 5 will be dieting, 3 will be lactose intolerant, 2 will be gay, 2 will be off men right now, 4 will be shy, 4 will refuse to take part in a sexist meat market...

I refuse to believe that the one that's left noshed off the talent for 4 minutes behind a Union Jack.

Just quickly lifted this from Google

How common is STD with oral sex?

The risk of getting or transmitting an STD through oral sex is generally lower compared to vaginal or anal sex, though it is still very much a possibility and a risk to be aware of. STDs transmitted via oral sex can infect one's lips, mouth, throat, genitals, or anus.

I'm still shocked that a group of women partook in this.

Pretty sure my DP would consider me going behind the flag and putting my tongue anywhere near his penis as cheating, and I'd agree.

For goodness sake, perhaps it was broad shoulder's the 6 pack and the significantly bigger than average cock

The room full of friends?

Are you all (including your husband) going to the wedding? You'd better hope nobody gets drunk and starts reminiscing.....

JFC, 3-4 minutes is a full on BJ. Did he ejaculate op?

What kind of skanky ass hen party has women queuing up to lick a strangers cock behind a flag? And HE got paid for it? Sounds like a bad porno 😂

Grim. Sex workers/prostitutes is hard to forgive but maybe it's more the kind of thing you would both find acceptable?

That is fucking grim, would you want him to tell you if he licked a strippers genitalia?

Grim 🤢

Yes you need to tell him. Sit him down and explain what happened.

this can't be for real. wtf - std would probably cross my mind too like other people have said.