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I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:48

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

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Rosietheravisher · 06/07/2023 12:44

MaryMcCarthy · 05/07/2023 11:21

So you offered some advice, then you changed you mind and offered the exact opposite advice?

Based on the above, can you see why MN is an AWFUL place to ask for advice?

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I don't see that. I see that MN elicits a lot of different ideas (advice) and the op and everyone else can weigh them up and decide what they're going to do. No-one automatically acts on advice given, do they? We do what we feel is best for us.

So, someone changing their mind is neither her nor there as far as I'm concerned.

Motnight · 06/07/2023 11:41

wutheringkites · 06/07/2023 11:39

@Motnight

I'd like to hear from the flag too.

🤣😂🤣

wutheringkites · 06/07/2023 11:39

@Motnight

I'd like to hear from the flag too.

Motnight · 06/07/2023 11:28

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

I am surprised that the husband hasn't made an appearance earlier in this thread.

Just waiting for the stripper now 😬

Butchyrestingface · 06/07/2023 10:04

GoodChat · 06/07/2023 09:28

Fuck me i hope this is the husband Grin

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Do not say “fuck me” on a thread like this. It may be taken as an invitation.

GoodChat · 06/07/2023 09:28

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

Fuck me i hope this is the husband Grin

MXVIT · 06/07/2023 09:26

YoungerDryas · 03/07/2023 11:57

Do male strippers actually engage in prostitution like that - performing actual sex acts in front of people like that? Don’t they have boundaries? Very odd.

About as many boundaries as the OP it seems! What a bizarre reply.

hammie46i · 06/07/2023 09:24

This thread has well and truly jumped the shark

DrSbaitso · 06/07/2023 09:21

Butchyrestingface · 06/07/2023 09:12

Is it appropriate to point out SPAG errors at a moment like this?*

*Asking for a friend.

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On this thread, I think it's pretty clear that anything goes.

HeadacheEarthquake · 06/07/2023 09:17

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

Que diable...? Wine

Butchyrestingface · 06/07/2023 09:12

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

Is it appropriate to point out SPAG errors at a moment like this?*

*Asking for a friend.

Blondey2023 · 06/07/2023 09:06

TakeMyStrongHand · 06/07/2023 08:18

Is this you @Lostsoul0307 with a name change or has your DH found the thread?

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Well this took a turn 😳

TakeMyStrongHand · 06/07/2023 08:18

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

Is this you @Lostsoul0307 with a name change or has your DH found the thread?

Evenmorelostnow · 06/07/2023 06:03

Looks like you have truely fucked it haven't you?

Give you a few days to sort your shit out. You better not be here when I get home Friday.

MaryMcCarthy · 05/07/2023 11:21

BansheeofInisherin · 04/07/2023 13:02

I am not really bothered what people- mostly misogynist TWAW men- think of MN. Who cares?

I have changed my mind now and think the OP should tell her DH. But ofc she is not going to.

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So you offered some advice, then you changed you mind and offered the exact opposite advice?

Based on the above, can you see why MN is an AWFUL place to ask for advice?

ThisIsNotThePostYourLookingFor · 05/07/2023 10:26

@Anon1612 There is a difference between having standards, morals and values and being extremely judgmental as you have just proven yet again in your post because of course being a swinger means your going to have std’s and a life full of drama doesn’t it?

TwoWorldsCollided · 05/07/2023 07:32

theGooHasGone · 05/07/2023 04:24

Whole lot of fucking yikes in this thread. OP doing this and then lying to her husband about it is one thing, but the apologists saying "oh it's not that bad, you don't have to tell him" are even worse! Not exactly advancing the cause here!

The apologists are the minority though - the poll says 85% think OP is unreasonable.

5128gap · 05/07/2023 06:39

theGooHasGone · 05/07/2023 04:24

Whole lot of fucking yikes in this thread. OP doing this and then lying to her husband about it is one thing, but the apologists saying "oh it's not that bad, you don't have to tell him" are even worse! Not exactly advancing the cause here!

What cause would that be?

Anon1612 · 05/07/2023 05:20

ThisIsNotThePostYourLookingFor · 04/07/2023 17:07

Jesus. It’s 2023 and women still cannot enjoy sex without being branded as mentally unwell or ‘cheap’ or think lowly of themselves.

@Anon1612 you and @BansheeofInisherin may wish to lie down in a dark room with some smelling salts once you hear that there are swingers clubs round the country where they hold ‘greedy girls’ sessions and people can watch!😮 and it’s verrrry popular.

In swingers clubs couple goes in and both have agreed to whatever is going on,not my thing I am one mans woman and as far as i know my husband is one womans man- we like our life without drama and std-s.

why assume if someone has standards,morals and values they are prude?

theGooHasGone · 05/07/2023 04:24

Whole lot of fucking yikes in this thread. OP doing this and then lying to her husband about it is one thing, but the apologists saying "oh it's not that bad, you don't have to tell him" are even worse! Not exactly advancing the cause here!

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 05/07/2023 03:04

@Sleepydoor throwing themselves at a stripper is quite a step away from a 4 minute blow job in front of a bunch of hens. I don't think this is a genuine post, it does not ring true.

Sleepydoor · 05/07/2023 01:20

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 05/07/2023 00:40

@Sleepydoor He mainly performed at shows, but sometimes parties. I know women did throw themselves at him, but he and the other strippers were very wary about anything happening. I always found it all quite laughable and deeply unsexy to be honest.

But you agree that the women did throw themselves at the strippers, which is the point, since many women on this thread insist women would NEVER, too deeeeeply unsexy, etc.

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 05/07/2023 00:40

@Sleepydoor He mainly performed at shows, but sometimes parties. I know women did throw themselves at him, but he and the other strippers were very wary about anything happening. I always found it all quite laughable and deeply unsexy to be honest.

Sleepydoor · 05/07/2023 00:30

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 05/07/2023 00:24

Sorry, but I call bs. I used to date a stripper, and he would have lost his job if this happened as it is essentially prostitution.

did he go to private parties like in the OP's case?

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 05/07/2023 00:24

Sorry, but I call bs. I used to date a stripper, and he would have lost his job if this happened as it is essentially prostitution.