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I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:48

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

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ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 03/07/2023 12:43

This has to be bullshit.

You texted him,ya right, no one is stupid enough to text their OH something like that. Sure everyone and anyone could see the text.

Story doesn't add up.

Frannyhy · 03/07/2023 12:43

I’ve only been to one of these events, and that was years ago.

The male stripper finished his performance by turning his back and doing a quick five knuckle shuffle to get hard. Then he gave us a quick flash before he went off stage.

ChrisPPancake · 03/07/2023 12:43

@Lostsoul0307 would you forgive dh for doing the same?

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IWFH · 03/07/2023 12:43

MN double standards at its finest.
If a man was on here saying that he'd felt up a stripper at a stag night or similar, he wouldn't get one person supporting him
Yet a reasonable number of people here seem to think giving a blow job to a stripper is not really a problem for a woman and you should keep your mouth shut. That actually might have been better advice before you went.
So sorry OP, I think your behaviour is utterly reprehensible and I'd advise your husband to LTB.

JeandeServiette · 03/07/2023 12:43

Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:40

Update I've ripped the plaster off but gone slightly cowardly I've messaged DH

Wow. That's not a text anyone wants to get on a Monday lunchtime.

Good luck.

marblesthecat · 03/07/2023 12:43

Sorry but imo putting someone's cock in your mouth IS cheating, even if it is a stripper but you know this. If he had licked out a female stripper would you want to know? Anyway I see you have messaged him so genuinely best of luck OP and I hope your marriage works out.

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:42

DirectionToPerfection · 03/07/2023 12:41

Exactly. This is so obviously written by a man.

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I never said all did

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MrsElsa · 03/07/2023 12:42

Licking a stripper knob behind a flag
What in the world

OP why just why. Agree with upthread don't say anything, all you will do is hurt him and especially if you're going to explain it like "I was so drunk and his cock was MASSIVE so much bigger than yours I couldn't help myself honestly" 🤣

Seriously you have to live with this, you know what you did, so deny deny deny.

Just pray you haven't caught herpes or something 🤢

UndercoverCop · 03/07/2023 12:42

I'm no prude and had a relatively wild youth, but I've never been to a hen do where it's normal to queue up to lick the stripper's penis

whynotwhatknot · 03/07/2023 12:41

grim-3 to 4 minutes and everyone just stood there waiting

im suremore than one knows

bengalcat · 03/07/2023 12:41

I’d subscribe to the ‘ what goes on tour stays on tour ‘ stance and say nothing .

DirectionToPerfection · 03/07/2023 12:41

AnnaTortoiseshell · 03/07/2023 12:08

You’re trying to crack on that a group of 20 women all, at the very least, licked cream off a stranger’s penis in front of one another? Absolutely did not happen.

Exactly. This is so obviously written by a man.

isthismylifenow · 03/07/2023 12:41

Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:28

Hoping in vain, I don't even know where to begin in telling him

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You know I woz at that hen party Friday night...

I forgot to tell you there was a naked stripper and a can of cream.

(insert other info of what you drank, who else was there and how much cream was involved).

Then you could end off with:

I ruled Brittania.

TeddySunflowers · 03/07/2023 12:41

I think spending 3-4 minutes sucking a stripper off is firstly gross and secondly I would count that as cheating. If my husband spent 3-4 licking a strippers clit then I'd be very upset. Your husband might give you some leeway because it was a hen party but he needs to know. Especially when a whole room of hens already know.

Am I a prude because I just can't imagine ever wanting to suck a strangers cock in the middle of a messy hen party 🤮 or any strange cock for that matter.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/07/2023 12:41

It's gets better and better!!!!

UndercoverCop · 03/07/2023 12:40

So you and your friends took turns to lick a random stripper's penis?! You need to get different friends and yes tell your poor husband and get yourself checked out

sureigot20 · 03/07/2023 12:40

Your latest post - I call BS.

Are you some teen boy? 🤮

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 12:40

Update I've ripped the plaster off but gone slightly cowardly I've messaged DH

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Zebedee55 · 03/07/2023 12:40

Normally at hen nights, it's more about laughing at the stripper and drinking. Licking cream off is not being unfaithful.🙄

I'd keep quiet, and move on.

BamBamBambi · 03/07/2023 12:40

YukoandHiro · 03/07/2023 12:39

I agree with this, wonder if it's a reverse.

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It 100% happens.

strawberrywhisk · 03/07/2023 12:39

croft89 · 03/07/2023 12:37

If a man goes to a strip club all we see is how grim it is and run for the hills, don't get married, divorce him etc etc

A woman gives a stripper a blowjob and everybody tells her to keep quiet

LMAO

Too be fair there are plenty on here telling her to be honest with him

YukoandHiro · 03/07/2023 12:39

Boomboom22 · 03/07/2023 12:36

Does this really happen? I have been at hen parties with strippers and nothing like this happened. There was cream but not on the actual knob! And noone was aroused we were all pissing ourselves laughing, it's not intimate! Well not in my world.
This sounds like how men view strippers more than women.

I agree with this, wonder if it's a reverse.

strawberrywhisk · 03/07/2023 12:38

YukoandHiro · 03/07/2023 12:37

@strawberrywhisk I stupidly commented before I read the whole thread.

I've guilty of that too at times 😁

BamBamBambi · 03/07/2023 12:38

WoofWoofBeachLife · 03/07/2023 12:37

"A quick lick of some cream that was on a penis, for 5-10 seconds whilst trying not to wet yourself from laughing is normal Hen Night antics"

I've obviously led a very sheltered life then, I'm no prude but if that actually happens it's vile. Gads you have no idea where his dick has been before you chomped on it! Think anal for starters 🤢🤮

I’m sure a stripper washed their knob before doing a strip show and adding cream 😂😂