I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

@JudgeAnderson are you the Psi judge from 2000AD?😁

You could have nipped into Costcutter on the way home, grabbed a can of squirty cream and acted out your lusty high-cholesterol dairy based desires on DH’s prong I suppose, then he’d have felt t’benefit too

He will probably get sent the video at some point, so how can you live with yourself, constantly worrying over when this will come out?

I chickened out and told him something else that's much more low key - it might be wrong but what good can come of telling him

I don't know. Maybe the fact you'll save him the embarrassement of hearing down the local pub, or on a night out in a years time when you bump into some of the other women who were there, or he stumbles across a social media post about the evening. He'll hear about it at some point.

Also maybe so you can give the bloke an actual choice of whether he would want to stay with someone who can happily suck another blokes cock when she gets a bit tipsy?

By not telling him you are being incredibly selfish. You are basically saving your own skin and not thinking about whats best for him at all. Only whats best for you. All that bollocks about not wanting to hurt him. Nope, its about not wanting to own up to the massive huge fuck up mess you've managed to put yourself in.

If you had any respect for your partner and any sort of remorse you'd just tell him what happened, beg his forgiveness and start doing what you can to make amends. Not add lying to the list, the cheating is bad enough. Think about it OP. You'll end up getting yourself into why more of a mess than you already are, and may end up eventually telling him because your guilt is too much, by which point it'll be far worse.

If he can't forgive you, then that's up to him. That's not your choice to make really now is it?

You've made the right decision. No good would come of it...and I would have told a bloke the same.
But if it turned you on then you might want to bring a few fantasies in to your bedroom.

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No but his furious “OH” might 😂

It’s the school holidays in Scotland. Just saying.

This literally had me laughing out loud.

Sorry OP, but you need to start grovelling because now you're going to have to admit to two 'mistakes'.

Same, some stranger waving his dick in my face is likely to piss me off more than anything!

Chewies?! I think you’re doing it wrong!

So bascially you are picking out the posts telling you not to worry, and giving a stripper a blow job on a hen do is just a bit of fun, and ignoring all the rest 🙄

I pity your husband, and hope karma sets this right one day as you clearly don't intend to.

Honestly I'm not sure but there is enough support for me to keep quiet and deal with my internal guilt and shame

Earlier you said you know you need to tell him.

If you don't, someone else will.

If you were that drunk, you certainly won't have been discrete when performing the act or when telling your friend afterwards.

@whumpthereitis

I know. Why wouldn’t it be possible for a woman to do this? Some bloke waved his massive cock infront of her and she couldn’t resist 🤦‍♀️. Not the first, not the last.

So you scratched the car and then sucked off a stripper?

Nice.

What must he have done to deserve such a DP eh?

This thread is amazing.

I’m laughing at the amount of posters thinking this can’t possibly be true and must be posted by a man because a woman would never.

And how are you going to explain it when he comes down with a raging case of herpes?

If you’re real, you are a poor excuse for a human being.

What the fuck did I just read.

😳< My face reading this!

For those that are saying it's not cheating, I'd personally disagree and this would be a hard boundary in my marriage. I think some of you women sound far more accepting than me...

Just out of curiosity, had the shoe been in the other foot and OP told us DH licked whipped cream of a strippers vagina and continued for 3-4 minutes, would you still consider this as an innocent mistake? Would you be saying that he shouldn't have said anything because its unnecessary hurt?

OP, my advice is to tell DH (I saw that you text but backed out). He has a right to know. What he does with the information is up to him but you can only apologise and ask for forgiveness. Keeping it a secret make the whole thing worse IMO.

Isn’t she, proper lol on both 🤣

don't be stupid. You weren't unfaithful and don't need to tell him a thing.

😂😂

how many times is too many tho? so she doesnt tell this time cos it was 3 minutes. what about a next time? what if your DP is only snogging individual women once a quarter not every time he goes out? like whats the line for cheat but dont tell?

i mean if you're trying to get yourself off on the details, there's probably better written stuff on the internet. if youre genuinely confused about all these women licking some floppy flaccid penis, my singular experience of a ladies night would suggest they would get it hard enough to do the job so the cream doesnt drip off the end

If my DH, in a moment of drunken madness, got up to something with a stripper, I'd rather not know - providing it was a one off and he was otherwise a faithful, good husband. Ignorance is bliss in that scenario.
If my DH was frequently cheating on me and pursuing other women I would definitely want to know and would leave him.
For this reason I wouldn't tell your husband.