I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

So you assaulted a stripper.
Yes it's horrible just from crossing strippers boundaries (yuck) let alone anything else.

Regardless of your sex, the disrespect this shows to your partner would make it a relationship killer for me.
Luckily I assume this post is not real as people always love to push the idea that women are predatory towards strippers.

So what are you going to tell him

And the moral of the story is, it's important to know when you open your mouth and when to close it.

For the absence of all doubt, closed when in the presence of strippers and open when being honest with your partner.

Cannot believe how different the relies are to this than if it was a man who had gone down on a stripper for a few mins. I would count it as cheating and it would be over.

A skeezy lying cheating alcoholic is every man's dream wife. It is known.

It was the bit about not having enough to eat thaf did it for me.

How is this thread still here??

This wins the internet for me today, “if I’d have had advance notice I’d have mentally prepared myself not to give a blow job stripper, but I can’t begin unprepared for this difficult situation, I just couldn’t help myself “

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I wouldn't tell him, NOT because I don't think it's cheating (it is and it's horrible) but because it will cause so much hurt and your husband will probably not be able to get over it. If you have a happy life together and children etc.. I'm not sure it's worth all that carnage for the sake of being honest about something so stupid. Especially if it's out of character for you and you really don't believe you will cheat ever again. You will just have to live with the guilt. If you're not happy in your marriage/think you could cheat again, then tell him/leave.

This might be controversial advice but that's my opinion.

It really is at times, not all the time but a lot of the time. There’s massive double standards applied and huge generalisations and/or lumping of all men into one pot of cheating, lying, drinking, drug taking, adulterous, aggressive, violent scum bags.

The argument of “well other websites do it towards women” may well be true but it’s the weakest argument. It doesn’t make attitudes on here right.

In context of this thread, whether it’s true or not, it would be like saying OP sucked off a stripper so it’s fine if her DH goes down on a female one. Neither of those two things are fine.

I would consider that cheating and it the relationship would be over for me.

But as your a woman you’ll get a free pass on MN.

To all the posters saying it's no big deal and not to tell her DH... would you think the same way if roles were reversed? I.e Husband goes down on a stripper for 3-4 mins like OP said? That's cheating on his Wife isn't it?

For what it's worth OP I went to a hen do last year and there was a stripper there that got naked and aroused. We drew the line at touching 'it' though, as we are all married or in relationships. I would absolutely come clean to your DH.

"The Commodore!"

I must have missed that episode Keeping Up Appearances.

Thank you for everyone's comments, they're hilarious 😂

I actually feel sorry for your husband but hopefully someone else gets their fanny out for him soon x

This is still here??

You're telling him to make yourself feel better he gains nothing. Keep it to yourself and let that be your punishment

If your hubby was going down on a stripper (after 18 others had been there too) at a stag doo would u let it slide?
Gross.

Nah, loads have read everything and still defend it. It may be a set up but it’s like shooting fish in a barrel…

There are always people on stripper threads insisting that women go to see male strippers only for a laugh (never because they find it arousing) and that men are never allowed to actually have physical contact with female strippers, despite many stories, videos and pictures proving otherwise. Some people are very good at believing they know how the world works and blocking out anything that contradicts their beliefs.

I don’t agree with any level of cheating and yes you messed up, but this is good advice. Keep your mouth shut and laugh it off if any of it comes out. It’s a lesson.

If the other person who knows ever brings it up - act surprised, you never did anything. It’s something you would remember no matter how drunk you were. You remember nothing so it didn’t happen.

Its not a sexist cesspit of hypocrisy; that would be pretty much every other website on the internet (using the correct definition of sexist).

Some people just really can't stand a popular website existing with a strong female voice, centred around women and challenging misogyny. Some of those people come on here and start ridiculous threads, very much like this one!

If you read the thread, you'll notice that most people don't think this behaviour is ok from a man or a woman. You'll also notice it isn't remotely true.

I would only tell your husband if you are prepared for this to cause him a great deal of pain and/or the end of your marriage.

Get yourself to the GUM clinic pronto, stay away from him til you’ve got the all clear or taken your antibiotics, and for god’s sake keep your mouth shut which is what you should have done on the hen do.

It took 17 pages, but someone had to allude to gargling. You should be ashamed of yourself.

"Bingo!"

This thread is a set up - deliberately misleading first post so that all the posters who only read that and then reply are assuming the OP's actions to have been mild hence a number of replies which say it isn't cheating and is ok. A small number saying it's cheating but she shouldn't tell, a tiny number saying it's fine. Most posters correctly calling it out as fiction! And far more condemning it than condoning. Plus the depressing number desperate to jump on it as proof of double standards, the same tedious crowd who always bleat 'what if the genders were reversed' with no basis or understanding who swoop in on the minority answers and crow about it.

The OP's last post about having plenty of support on here confirms their agenda clearly enough! They really haven't even tried to make this convincing.

Stupid to let too much alcohol harm your relationship,

That doesn't seem to apply to any threads on MN concerning something a man may do when alcohol is involved, difference is....

It's not the alcohol harming the relationship, its the OP and her ability to control herself from putting a man's cock in her mouth and giving it a wobble.