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I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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Lostsoul0307 · 03/07/2023 11:48

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

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Motnight · 26/08/2025 12:39

veryfluffyfluff · 29/04/2024 12:27

STILL A ZOMBIE THREAD

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Yep!!

lotsofpatience · 25/08/2025 23:14

He is going to find out one way or another.
Your marriage is over, sweetheart.
You fucked up big time.

YehaaYessir · 25/08/2025 23:09

I worked as a male stripper for a couple of years when I was a uni. I got into it through a guy at the gym.
I can tell you this sort of thing is more common than you think. I'd usually get one sometimes more full on BJs during a job, and it wasn't just hen do's either. 30th and 40th birthday do's we're just as bad.
The posts saying that a professional male stripper wouldn't allow this made me laugh. I was 19 - 20 at the time, full of hormones and getting paid to get blow jobs sometimes from very attractive and ahem, very talented, women. It was the best job of my life!
All the people saying women don't get turned on by male strippers, I can tell you that's not true either. Some women were quite reserved and obviously not enjoying my show, but a lot of them were as horney as hell once the prosecco had been flowing. A few times I had someone pass me their hotel room number.
If I were single I'd probably still be doing it (although how the dad bod would go down I'm not sure 😄)

veryfluffyfluff · 29/04/2024 12:27

SquashedSquashess · 20/01/2024 06:58

ZOMBIE THREAD

STILL A ZOMBIE THREAD

IvorTheEngineDriver · 29/04/2024 11:15

Do not say anything.

Michellepies · 29/04/2024 10:55

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SquashedSquashess · 20/01/2024 06:58

ZOMBIE THREAD

kisstheblarney · 20/01/2024 02:43

coxesorangepippin · 20/01/2024 02:39

You need to learn to keep your mouth shut

^^

😃😲

GrinGrinGrin

coxesorangepippin · 20/01/2024 02:42

Oh the comments on here 😂

coxesorangepippin · 20/01/2024 02:39

You need to learn to keep your mouth shut

^^

😃😲

Evenmorelostnow · 20/01/2024 02:15

K8ate · 17/01/2024 20:25

I guess the only fair thing here is to give her dh a free pass to lick someone else's vagina.
He should be given that option by the op.

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I would concur.....

K8ate · 17/01/2024 20:25

Stratocumulus · 03/07/2023 11:56

Do not tell him.
What happens at a Hen Party stays at the hen party.
What good will it do to tell him? Assuage your guilt? I don’t think so.

It will just open a can of worms you can do without.
Stop thinking about it and keep busy. Time will dull the memory and probably give you more perspective.

I guess the only fair thing here is to give her dh a free pass to lick someone else's vagina.
He should be given that option by the op.

SpinCycles · 19/07/2023 17:28

I'm not debating with you. Most people don't leave over something like this. In fact those that shout the loudest....

Many give advise about leaving but when it's their turning they are not leaving

What the...?!? Who is staying with a husband/ partner who does stuff like this?

Of course most people would leave, because they have some self respect.

Being single isn't like some kind of curse, you know, that one needs to stay in a shitty relationship where people lie to you and cheat on you to avoid. 🤣

What a bizarre comment.

Whatkindofuckeryisthis · 19/07/2023 17:01

Gytgyt · 03/07/2023 20:46

I'm not debating with you. Most people don't leave over something like this. In fact those that shout the loudest....

Many give advise about leaving but when it's their turning they are not leaving. 😳

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😆 most people don’t leave their partners who perform oral sex on a random stranger?! Ok then!! Speak for yourself.

In my opinion and I can probably speak for most friends relatives… this behaviour would be a deal breaker. Depends how high your standards are.

EggWind · 10/07/2023 22:18

doorstopper123 · 09/07/2023 08:48

Omg, i can't believe you sucked the stripper's cock OP!

🤣

don't tell him . No way

No no no

Bury this deep in your mind and never let it out

😂😂😂

Gooniesnecersaydie · 09/07/2023 11:06

What a strange evening.

To quote Kitty on Victoria Woods TV programme in not knowing how to respond, " i just thought 'What would the Queen Mum do?' so I just smiled and said we shall have rain by teatime"

doorstopper123 · 09/07/2023 08:48

Omg, i can't believe you sucked the stripper's cock OP!

🤣

don't tell him . No way

No no no

Bury this deep in your mind and never let it out

Evenmorelostnow · 08/07/2023 05:42

ManateeFair · 03/07/2023 12:18

Yes, it's cheating to suck a stranger's dick at a party. Of course it is.

However, I do not think your DH will benefit in any way at all from being told about this. I would say nothing.

Honestly, if I'd done this I'd hate myself for it. I really would. But I wouldn't hurt my boyfriend by telling him about it. You'd be telling him for your own sake, not for his - you'd be making yourself feel better by unburdening yourself, but at the same time you'd be hurting him and potentially wrecking your marriage for both of you. Unless you really want to throw away your relationship for this, keep quiet.

Yes it's cheating to suck someone's dick for 3.26minutes.

OP's husband won't benifit from knowing????!!! Is she sucking your dick too?

In what world would you consider a
person not knowing their partner had been unfaithful ok? It sets the tone for the whole duration of the marriage..... Like fuck if you would stand by and be OK if your partner had fucked around..... IT PROBABLY HAS AND WILL HAPPEN AGAIN.

Evenmorelostnow · 08/07/2023 05:27

NeverThatSerious · 03/07/2023 12:02

I expect your husband would’ve been hoping you’d not suck another man’s cock, but here we are.

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NeverThatSerious - 100%

Not sure OP has checked this thread since the original guilt and posting.

Avidly awaiting a response from the OP!

Evenmorelostnow · 08/07/2023 05:25

100%

Evenmorelostnow · 08/07/2023 05:06

3.26? Very precise.... From a recording maybe?

Newusernameaug · 06/07/2023 22:18

Thanks for the feedback and glad I helped in your time of need!

It’s an unusual thing to have experience of but I have a very good knowledge of the male stripping world and this is an every day occurrence for them!

Glad you’ve decided to deal with it yourself, and move on. We all do things we’re not happy with and it’s about recognising them, acknowledging it and growing from the lesson. :)

DrSbaitso · 06/07/2023 21:42

ImtheFlag · 06/07/2023 21:29

Oh he definitely wasn't an Etonian, I can assure you of that.

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But he made a mess?

SquirtyCreamConfession · 06/07/2023 21:37

And I’m pretty sure the enthusiastic nosher didn’t go to Roedean.

ImtheFlag · 06/07/2023 21:29

HeadacheEarthquake · 06/07/2023 20:40

I'm so sorry squirty... It's wimbledon now so hopefully the rest of you goes on a nice eton mess in the garden. In a bowl, not on an Etonian's knob. Thoughts and prayers🙏

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Oh he definitely wasn't an Etonian, I can assure you of that.