I bought my daughter some crop tops recently to wear under her clothes. They're brightly coloured with wide straps and don't remotely resemble a bra, IMO. She's coming to the end of Year 4 and has recently had lessons on puberty in school.
I've heard through my daughter that her father (we're separated) thinks she's far too young and that crop tops are unnecessary and inappropriate. He's letting her wear them anyway but he's been commenting negatively about it.
Today I spoke to him about it to explain that IMO, this is precisely the correct age for crop tops (if she wants to wear them - she doesn't have to). He said it should not be until secondary school, when she is developing. IMO that's far too late as the whole point is to normalise the idea of growing up and to prepare her for wearing bras. When she's developing, she'll need bras, not just crop tops.
He didn't seem to agree but just said he'll let her wear them 'because you say so'. I asked him not to make disparaging comments because it's making a big deal about something that is simply an age appropriate item of clothing, not much different than out 6 year old preferring to wear trunks now rather than briefs.
AIBU?