Crop top for 9 year old?

He is being weird. He needs to stop equating puberty/ normal development with sexualisation.

I bought bra tops for my 9 and a half year old recently because she was getting sore nipples. On closer inspection we realised she was starting to get breast buds. It is perfectly normal to get breast soreness and the start of breast development at this age - even younger for some races apparently!

I found out that girls breasts are beginning to develop 2 years earlier than when I was her age (mid 90’s).

It wouldn’t be surprising that your partner is a bit ignorant about normal breast development though, lots of us are not well educated on this.
completely off point - When reading about breast development I learned something else I had never been told. Apparently, the last stage of development, which takes place at 35, is the degeneration of the milk ducts. This surprises me because we have so many older mothers now and people are always talking about the low breast feeding rates and no-one is talking about this?

It's not about keeping warm. PE is communal changing and if everyone else is wearing a crop top and not a vest then I understand why a girl might want to wear a crop top like her peers too.

My dd starting wearing one when she noticed others at school doing the same.

This! We started getting more body aware and it was a way of feeling a bit more covered up. As long as she is comfortable in them, where's the issue?
Some kids and teenagers wear crop tops without anything over them! and I in my mid 30s wear one in the gym! Nothing sexual about them.

Yikes, he really thinks girls don’t develop before secondary school? He needs a biology lesson. It’s up to your DD what she wears. Crop tops are just short vests anyway.

EXH is going to get a bit of a shock when she's 17-18 and still wearing crop tops😮

My 9yo wanted to start wearing them last year, so we bought some cheap pretty ones from Primark (some white, some colourful). She doesn't wear them every day but if she wants to then they're there. She also still wears a vest if it's cold enough. So do I!

If your DD wants to wear crop tops, then I really don't see the issue.

My daughter is 9, coming to the end of year 4 also and wears one everyday. I can already see where she is developing. She helps choose them etc and understand she is being to grow up and change - I don't see anywhere you are being unreasonable! X

Maybe he is hating seeing his daughter growing up and trying to keep her a little girl?

Crop tops are ideal for this age!

My boobs are small and I can't run at all or walk up and down the stairs without them hurting if I'm not in a bra. Even in a normal bra I have to hold them to run. It's nothing to do with back strength, the actual boobs themselves hurt. Some people's boobs are more painful than others.

Before anyone says it - it's totally normal. I've also had two mammograms recently. There is nothing wrong with my boobs.

My boobs are reasonably large, I only ever wear a bra for sport. I wear a crop top for work because it’s not socially acceptable to not have them loose in a professional environment but I don’t wear either if I’m at home. You build up back strength and muscles

Back in my day, so dinosaurs and the like, we just went vest then bra (when it was needed). Nowadays it seems to be more vest, then cropped vest/cropped top, bra. I think the advantage of the second option is that cropped tops tend to be a bit more close fitting, and that may be helpful in the early stages of development - even when there isn't really anything visible there might well be some tenderness in that area, and the crop top may provide just that little bit more padding as well as also making her feel less self-conscious.

I completely understand about normalising wearing a bra, I started developing in Y6 but didn't start wearing a bra until secondary school and remember absolutely hating the sensation of having a band around my chest.

No children myself but my niece is 10 and has started developing, she's been wearing a crop top for the past year.

@user1469094475 is she wearing them without other clothes?

My DD was difficult to get into a crop top, and she needed to wear one. She now needs a bra and she is finding it hard to make the switch.

I think there is a very good case for getting them used to wearing them before they need them tbh.

If she asked for them fine (my dd did). But "normalising wearing a bra"? WTF??

If she wants to it’s fine.

But I don’t think you need to normalise wearing a bra she’ll just do it when she needs to like everyone else. If she has breast tissue that’s different.

But I wouldn’t suggest it or think about it without taking the lead from the child as I don’t see the difference between a 9 year old girl without breast tissue and a 9 year old boy.

She means normalised for her daughter - so she's used to wearing undergarments, not because it needs to be normalised for society.

My dd is 9 turning 10 and she wears them. She has just started developing getting breast buds and she felt uncomfortable. She likes to wear them to dancing and gymnastics especially. She also wears just them at home when it’s hot. It’s normal I think.

My 10 year old has been in crop tops rather than vests for a year or two now. She is already developing and will need something more supportive soon I think.

I think it’s a bit sad that you feel the idea of wearing a bra has to be “normalised” in advance and that you think she will need more than a crop top when she developing. Maybe for sport but the idea that anyone has to wear a bra at any other time is not really true.

But if she asked to wear them and chooses to then it’s her decision and nothing to do with her dad.

DD is 7 and is starting to develop a little bit already. She wears crop tops now to get used to it as she’ll need a bra quite early.

I had my first one at about 9 or 10 years and that was average in my primary school.

I didn’t bother until DD started to develop a bit. Equally he’s in for a shock if he thinks this is only secondary.