How long after having baby did you and DP have sex?

6 months

I've had 3 straight forward, vaginal births and no tears / grazes / stitches etc. I was lucky to recover from labour quite quickly and easily (first took a bit longer recovery wise but I was feeling physically back to normal within a few weeks, DC3 was in NICU so I was up, showered and dressed within 30 minutes of delicery whilst DP went with her). However newborns are relentless so there was no sex for a while. Can't remember exactly but was probably within the month with the first 2 children. DC3 was born with a rare genetic condition, was in in NICU for weeks and was NG tube fed. She had to be fed every 3-4 hours (we'd set alarms overnight) and I pumped for 6 months. We didn't have sex for a very long time!!

Out of interest there was no elusive "6 week PP check up" for me? I was asked a few questions when the babies had their check but that was it. Was also told I'd need to book another appointment if I wanted to go back on the pill.

😧 you haven't had sex in 11 years?

A year. We had a child that didnt sleep and we did 5050 nights, we were both knackered.

I went to bed at 7pm for most if that year and we were like ships in the night.

5 years later it's back in full swing, we are close as anything and the bedroom is better than ever.

Be kind to yourself and eachother.

Bloody hell what a nasty nasty comment!

Everyone different to you is wrong and must be with a man who’ll cheat and be desperate to keep him…..fuck me what desperately unpleasant individual posted this.

About 3 weeks (OUR choice, not his only)

Two and a half weeks after our first (ouch, that was a bit fiery). 9 weeks after the second, but I had an episiotomy and a vaginal prolapse, so that wasn't so easy 😆

I think it was 3-4 weeks. I had a v small tear and felt pretty ok down there so we went for it. It wasn’t sore or anything.

I was told to have sex as soon as I feel ready and reminded about using protection, I wasn’t told to wait 6 weeks at all.

Around 6 months after first baby, subsequent babies a bit longer than that, it wasn't so much that I hadn't healed physically, more to do with hubby's attitude at initially 'not getting any',
His bad attitude and sulking made the process of getting my libido back much longer than had he been more understanding of what a woman goes through during pregnancy and birth,
Men who want to understand about these things and can waive their entitlement to sex fare better in the long run.

4 months for me. However it was painful. For some reason I wanted to persist and ds2 was conceived during that one time!!

6 months both times.

A couple of weeks each time, as I recall. No pressure from my partner at the time. I wanted to feel like 'me' rather than just a mum 24/7.

I think it was around 6 weeks for me. And I got pregnant very quickly, as my second was born 11.5 months after my first!

I waited 3 weeks... I did have stitches but just healed up pretty quick I was lucky.

And I had an odd reaction where I my drive rocketed and wanted it daily. Don't think that's the norm.. and I wouldn't expect that reaction a second time around 😂 also I think because birth was bad and was in neonatal with baby, I used the sex more for comfort and to feel close to my partner rather than a sexy thing.

I had a forceps delivery with my DS, and my stitches did get infected. I wasn't very well for the first two weeks or so. I waited until I was 6 weeks PP to have sex. I wanted to have my check-up first to make sure all was well. I have a high sex drive though.

I'm almost 7 weeks PP and we haven't had penetrative sex yet. I had a vaginal birth which required internal and external stitches, I still don't feel back to 'normal'. I'm not worried about my libido though, that's still in tact and we've been intimate in other ways since about 5 days PP although this was centred mainly around him in those early days as I was feeling quite beaten up down there 😂

A couple of months after first baby and sooner after second baby.

Some women it's a lot less and others it's a lot longer.

Only you know how your kind and body feel.

1st baby - around 7 months.
2nd is 5 months and my sex drive is zero so won't be for a while. I'm so knackered and touched out from breastfeeding, I'll only occasionally give my DH a kiss or hug cause I just want my body to myself when the kids are sleeping.

DH never pressures, never comments. He knows this is normal and knows my drive will come back eventually.

I can't remember with my first three, but my fourth was about 10 days old I think. My libido has never suffered after having a baby.

Well my baby is 19months now and we still haven't. I don't even think about it. I spoke to my husband who said he knows I'm not happy with my weight and I'm exhausted etc so he knows not to push me in to anything and essentially is very understanding.
Also cosleeping with the baby and our 3.5 yr old so DH is in another bedroom for now. I imagine once we get our bed back things will start up again!

I think some people forget that they have an open wound the size of a dinner plate inside their womb and a stretched cervix after birth. There is a reason you're medically advised to wait the six weeks.

A few weeks.
No I wasn't pressured by DH
No he didn't cheat when I was pregnant 😂
Felt ready and we still have a very active sex life now and DD is 2.

I get people wait a few months but years? Really? If it's years I'm guessing it's probably not birth related as to why you're not having sex unless you were badly injured.

Surely you can't blame the birth over a decade later.

About 2 months something like that. Even if someone doesn't have any tears or stitches with my medical hat on I'd recommend waiting for the 6 week check for penetrative sex personally.

The important thing is when you feel ready (and your partner of course) and don't feel like I have to by x time or whatever. Plenty of ways to feel intimate besides as well imo. I'd say a few years on our sex life is good.

My episiotomy took 1 week to feel normal, I was lucky.

You certainly were. Mine was like sitting on a barbed wire fence for weeks.