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Clique at gym classes

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Ykn · 19/06/2023 16:49

Not really an AIBU but posting for traffic.

The clique at the exercise classes at my gym are really spoiling it for me. They are a group of around 4 or 5 women who all know each other and the instructor who takes one of the classes, they save each other spaces at the class, stand in the same area of the studio each class, exclude others from their chats, glare and ignore newcomers, and even regulars who aren't in the clique.

One of them even looked at me like she was going to kill me when I arrived at a class last week.

I'm going to start looking for classes at different times, or a new gym.

How do you/would you handle such a clique in your exercise classes?

OP posts:
KrisAkabusi · 19/06/2023 17:12

Ignore them anyway. Talk to the other people. Life's too short to be bothered by unimportant things like this.

Original poster
Ykn · 19/06/2023 17:09

KrisAkabusi · 19/06/2023 16:56

Ignore them. It's only four or five women out of a class of what, twenty? Who gives a shit?

There's a maximum capacity of 10 at each class.

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Ontheperiphery79 · 19/06/2023 17:06

Just ignore them.
If I go to classes, I'm there to exercise and have fun. It's nice to shoot the breeze with people if I know anyone, and overtly hostile people aren't great, but if people want to act like dicks, let them cracking on with it.

Dacadactyl · 19/06/2023 17:02

I just ignore them if my efforts are rebuffed.

I tend to get to classes early and chat to anyone who is waiting outside the studio when I get there though. Ive never had an issue.

If someone genuinely gave me the cold shoulder then I'd just ignore them from then on in.

YeahIsaidit · 19/06/2023 16:59

Just ignore them, if a bunch of adults want to act like a group of school kids, just let them and get on with your work out, I couldn't get worked up about it

Azaeleasinbloom · 19/06/2023 16:58

Another one who ignores and gets on with it. I may not be in with the clique but I have enough gym acquaintances to pass time in the queues / say good morning to.
Don’t overthink it - do you get what you want from that gym? Those classes? If not move on.

Curseofthenation · 19/06/2023 16:56

I would find that quite funny. They sound very sad.

KrisAkabusi · 19/06/2023 16:56

Ignore them. It's only four or five women out of a class of what, twenty? Who gives a shit?

blacksax · 19/06/2023 16:54

I go to a dance class and there's a little clique of women who behave like that. I absolutely couldn't give a flying fuck, and I just get on with my day.

Sigmama · 19/06/2023 16:53

Just ignore them and get uber fit whilst doing it

FrenchandSaunders · 19/06/2023 16:50

I just ignore and crack on with the class .... I think you get these sort at lots of hobbies/groups. I'm not there to make friends, not interested in their 'group'.

I do, however, save a space next to me for my friend if she's running late, lots of people do.

Tipintorecession · 19/06/2023 16:50

Depends how much you like that gym I guess, not a nice feeling though