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How old were you when you had your last baby.

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summerfinn · 18/06/2023 08:45

I was 22 having my first and will be 37 having my last. Just wanted to see is 37 a common age for having your last baby. I never dreamt I'd be pregnant at 37 . I always thought that it was a bit old. Now I'm scared that I'm just being selfish and could have a baby with lots of issues.

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IsGoodIsDon · 18/06/2023 09:20

i was 37 with my last baby. Now I’m 44 and wishing I had them earlier though most other mums at school all seem similar ages.

why do you wish you had them earlier???

Cailin66 · 28/01/2024 09:30

First at 34, last at 39. I would have gone for another but I was physically too tired. My advice is younger is better. That I was luckily to easily conceive and don’t leave it as late as I did.

Ciculita · 27/01/2024 10:28

33

ColdButSunny · 27/01/2024 07:42

35

PurpleFlower1983 · 27/01/2024 07:39

37

DC1214 · 26/01/2024 23:25

43, nearly 44

0rangeCrush · 26/01/2024 23:25

1st - 26
2nd - 35

Both conceived after I’d finished uni and got a permanent job and bought our first house. Been with partner 7 years when first was borb.

Physically my first was a skoosh, but mentally it was hard as I was so young.

Physically my second was difficult; but I was also pregnant during lockdown with a serious health condition, and also working full time and raising my eldest whilst my partner worked away. Mentally my second was a skoosh.

Im not having any more.

TheOriginalEmu · 26/01/2024 23:24

First at 22 and last at 27. I had 5 in 5 years. Still managed a degree and a career and a husband and a house. Though the degree and career came around having the babies. 😂

Purplebunnie · 26/01/2024 23:19

1st at 33, 2nd and last at 37

TrixieFatell · 26/01/2024 23:18

First aged 27

Last aged 38

CountryShepherd · 26/01/2024 23:14
  1. First one at 26.
Asparagus1 · 26/01/2024 22:51

29

Usernamenoavailable · 26/01/2024 22:50

1st and last at 19. I don’t want another child as I’m almost 30 and tired all the time😂

I have a degree, a career and own my home. Although I done it backwards she’s almost 10 and is a wonderful child. She just inspired me to work harder and give her things I never had 😊

EC22 · 26/01/2024 16:45

1st 21
5th 35

Mumof2NDers · 26/01/2024 16:45

bumblefeline · 18/06/2023 09:08

What an odd response, I was working full time from the age of 16 and had a mortgage at 19. Done and dusted with my two kids by 25. No degree though, so that's where I have failed obviously. The child I selfishly had at 20 has one though, is that acceptable lol?

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kisstheblarney · 26/01/2024 16:30

29

Wooloohooloo · 26/01/2024 16:29

First at 25, second at 35. Only difference was my energy levels.

Bythefireside · 26/01/2024 12:52

1st 23
last 37

funinthesun19 · 26/01/2024 12:48

I was 28 when I had my youngest. I’m 34 now and would love one last one but I know it will never happen.

Cotswoldmama · 26/01/2024 12:47

31

Simd1 · 26/01/2024 12:19

33 unless I have another in which case I'd be in my 40s

TheSnootiestFox · 26/01/2024 12:14

quisensoucie · 26/01/2024 09:09

You are being obtuse. Of course a 22 year-old can be more emotionally mature thana 40 year old. It will depend on experience (life and emotional) and a whole host of other factors.
I had a cousin who had never left home, went to work in a shoe shop, stayed there all her working life. No boyfriend ever, only 1 friend (girl). Didn't go out, didn't engage in world events. So yes, she was mature in age, but not in any emotional way
So what if a 22 year old without a degree or your type of travel experience has a baby? So bloody what? It does not make her any less mature than you with your 'experience'.

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I'm not being anything of the sort, I just disagree with you. It is allowed!

Elizadomuchly · 26/01/2024 09:32

I think a 22 year old can be just as mature if not more so than a 40 year old. I work with a 19 year old (I am 38). She really has her head screwed on. She absolutely amazes me with her maturity at such a young age. Yes she is still 19, there will be lots she hasn't experienced yet but I could absolutely imagine her coping well with a baby and being a fantastic mother. Age is irrelevant to how good a mother you can be.
Age often comes with more money, which is useful, but it has it's draw backs that your children will probably have you for less time. There is no perfect age to have kids, every stage has benefits and drawbacks. I started at 31 and wish I had started 5 or 6 years earlier, but equally I am still tempted by another baby now.

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