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Original poster

To stay on contraceptive pill until menopause?

37 replies

Merrz · 15/06/2023 18:53

I'm 35, finished having children. Was on the pill for 13 years from 16 until 29, worked very well for me, no issues with it. Came off the pill to have kids, took a year to get pregnant which I think was down to having been on the pill for so long and my body taking a while to get back to normal cycling, happened a lot faster with baby no 2. Haven't been on hormonal contraception for 6 years but now wondering what I do long term, DH won't get the snip. AIBU to just go back on the pill for the next 15 maybe 20 years? Slightly concerned how much it slowed down my cycles/bleeding when i was on it before but if I'm not getting pregnant again, does it matter? What other reasons are there not to stay on it for that long term?

OP posts:
holaholiday · 15/06/2023 19:55

Also perhaps suggest to your husband about using condoms til menopause if he won’t have a vasectomy,if that’s not what you are doing already?? I certainly wouldn’t choose the implant over the pill if I was happy with the latter.

PuffinsRocks · 15/06/2023 19:54

FinallyHere · 15/06/2023 19:35

now wondering what I do long term, DH won't get the snip

No snip, no PIV sex seems a reasonable way forward for me.

Simples.

Ever heard of condoms?

porridgeisbae · 15/06/2023 19:52

I thought they (NHS at least) don't recommend the pill after a particular age due to a higher risk of stroke etc.

The first hormone free coil (I started getting a bad reaction to hormone pills) was awesome. The second I had to have taken out due to pain, but I have an awkward tilted pelvis

I would recommend trying the coil, if you don't like it you can always have it taken out.

holaholiday · 15/06/2023 19:52

I’m sure there are plenty of women who stay on it if they suit it, the women they normally advise not to carry on are those who are smokers and those who are obese due to increasing risk factors with age. As the pill increases breast cancer risk I think perhaps some people may choose to come off if they have worries due to their family history

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 15/06/2023 19:51

FinallyHere · 15/06/2023 19:35

now wondering what I do long term, DH won't get the snip

No snip, no PIV sex seems a reasonable way forward for me.

Simples.

Let's all emotionally blackmail our men in to unwanted surgery. Way to go!

Original poster
Merrz · 15/06/2023 19:50

I think DH would be persuaded to have the snip if he had to but he's not keen. It seems everyone once they're finished having kids go on some sort of major long term contraception (the snip/implant etc) and I really just wondered if there's a reason why people don't just carry on with the pill, is it just so you don't have to worry about taking the pill every day or is there other reasons?
Sorry if I'm posting in the wrong place, couldn't find a contraception board.

OP posts:
ThePuma · 15/06/2023 19:37

FinallyHere · 15/06/2023 19:35

now wondering what I do long term, DH won't get the snip

No snip, no PIV sex seems a reasonable way forward for me.

Simples.

Are you assuming the OP doesn’t enjoy PIV sex?

FinallyHere · 15/06/2023 19:35

now wondering what I do long term, DH won't get the snip

No snip, no PIV sex seems a reasonable way forward for me.

Simples.

ErrolTheDragon · 15/06/2023 19:29

I was on the pill till I was 51 (the GP didn't notice when I passed 50). It suited me fine, I have (had?) PCOS and Marvelon kept the symptoms under control. I'd often run packs together, not bleeding is a bonus imo.

If there's a pill that suits you, of course YANBU to take it. Otoh, If there isn't one which suits you then don't.

JRHartleysmum · 15/06/2023 19:25

I turn 50 this year and have taken the mini pill for over 15 years since having my kids, no periods !!

OhmygodDont · 15/06/2023 19:23

I mean my dh has had the snip and I’m going to stay on it as long as I can because I use it to stop my periods. They have to grab it out my cold dead hands 😂

JinglingSpringbells · 15/06/2023 19:22

I don't understand why you have posted this in AIBU.

What is 'being unreasonable' got to do with a choice of contraception?

It's 100% your choice.

If you are worried about risks, talk to your GP or maybe ask on the Women's health forum on MN.

It's licensed for use up to 50 in non-smoking healthy women.

Talk to your GP about any concerns of the FPC.