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To ask if post 50, you really can tighten up the bingo wing upper arm with exercise?

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GenXsurvivor · 15/06/2023 17:15

Suddenly, over the past few years, everything seems to be heading south, including my upper arms!

I have a serious ‘flap’ going on, something of which has been secured by long sleeved tops!

Now the warm weather is here I realise just how floppy my upper arms have become!

Is there REALLY an exercise that will make a difference? Or post 50 is this really difficult to achieve?

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cheesenpickle · 24/06/2025 23:04

Thanks I will have a look at all your suggestions. I haven't bought weights yet so might get started with Lucy Wyndham Read.

Comtesse · 23/06/2025 23:59

Honestly Lucy Wyndham Read has made a great difference for me - short exercises, just body weight, every day, get on it!

Scorchio84 · 23/06/2025 23:50

Billy Blanks (Tae Bo) on Youtube from the early 2000's does an 8 minute work out that really tightened mine, I've done Yoga & Pilates over the years but the boxing moves really made a difference

Outofthemoonlight · 23/06/2025 23:44

cheesenpickle · 23/06/2025 18:00

I know this is an old thread. I'm 55 with awful bingo wings. I have looked at Caroline Girvan but there seem to be a lot to choose from. I'm a beginner and v unfit. Can anyone recommend via a link please.

First look at Caroline’s EPIC Beginners programme. Use dumbbells that feel comfortable but a bit challenging, say 3 or 4 kg. Listen carefully to her demonstrations and make sure you really know how to do the various moves.

I would suggest EPIC 3 or EPIC Heat as good programmers to start with. Check out a full body session from these or a couple of other programmers and decide which one seems most relatable. And then just do it. Do as much as you can of which workout, and if you cannot do it all, finish it the next day.

HOWEVER, if you are really unfit and a total beginner, you may want to start with something slightly less challenging, such as Lucy Wyndham Read, Rebecca Louise or Popsugar Fitness. Growingannanas is excellent too, as is Heather Robertson.

always remember, challenging yourself is great, but you can modify or substitute - don’t risk injuring yourself. A few sessions with a qualified PT can be a very worthwhile investment!

NB: don’t forget to do the Bowflex 3-minute plank each day. Whatever you do, do that. It’ll make everything else so much easier. Your posture will improve and you will quite simply feel soooo much stronger.

StripyShirt · 23/06/2025 18:11

NewbieSM · 16/06/2023 00:51

Yes you can but you need to be lifting much heavier weights than 5kgs and targeting specific muscle groups mainly your triceps and delts, buts also biceps traps and pecs. Some exercises to try would be triceps dips, bent over rows, push ups, overhead tricep extensions, bench press and flys. Aim for 3 sets of 12 at a weight that feels challenging, you should be lifting a weight that takes you to failure by the 12th rep. Do this twice a week and increase weight once you are completing these without getting to failure by the end. Consistency is key as well as correct form and really pushing yourself, it shouldn't feel easy. Unfortunately nothing worthwhile is easy to achieve. Also consider big lifts that utilise multiple muscle groups, like deadlifts. Good luck!

This is probably it. Yoga and swimming won't do it. Get a proper trainer to teach you some safe and effective techniques to build proper muscle.

Many women use weights that are far too light, for fear of becoming 'too muscular', without having any concept of just how much effort and persistence that would actually take; bodybuilders wouldn't have to inject themselves with God-knows-what if it was really that easy!

cheesenpickle · 23/06/2025 18:00

I know this is an old thread. I'm 55 with awful bingo wings. I have looked at Caroline Girvan but there seem to be a lot to choose from. I'm a beginner and v unfit. Can anyone recommend via a link please.

Outofthemoonlight · 17/06/2023 12:20

GenXsurvivor · 17/06/2023 10:36

@Outofthemoonlight or @FrostyFifi

what size weight would you recommend I start with? Something not too easy but something I can build up on?

I'd start with 3-4 kg, but be prepared to move up fairly quickly. With hindsight, I'd have invested in a set of high quality adjustable dumbbells. It's a faff to change mid-workout, but you could just modify, i.e. do fewer reps with heavier weights or vice-versa.

I started out with a set of 3 kg dumbbells I got via Freecycle, progressed to 5 kg that I now use as light-weights, along with a somewhat cumbersome set of adjustables left behind by one of my son's when he (finally...) moved out.

OriginalFloorboards · 17/06/2023 12:14

I have horses. Age 50. Don’t go to the gymn at all. Totally toned and no bingo wings. It’s all that riding, wheelbarrows and humping stuff about. However, I’ve never got any money as it all goes on them. Definitely cheaper and easier to stick to weights. I wonder if swimming would be good. Other posters will know.

ShowOfHands · 17/06/2023 12:01

I counteract ageing with lifting and have pretty good triceps which help enormously. However, I lift between 5kg and 20kg when working arms. 5kg are only used for the smallest of muscles at my longest lever. Mostly, I use 10+.

The larger muscles provide definition and burn more calories obviously. Serious lifting has improved my shape far more than decades of cardio and light weights.

Get a range of 3kg-8kg to start out. You'll soon want more!

1stWorldProblems · 17/06/2023 11:53

TRX Pilates worked for me - only do an hour a week but my back & arm muscles have tightened up impressively. You use straps & your body weight to do resistence exercises.

FrostyFifi · 17/06/2023 11:36

I think when I started my heaviest weight was only a 5kg @GenXsurvivor
And you might find that you want to use lighter ones than that for some of the particularly upper body workouts while you build your fitness up.

I've bought heavier weights a bit at a time as I've progressed so it was never one large outlay.

GenXsurvivor · 17/06/2023 10:36

@Outofthemoonlight or @FrostyFifi

what size weight would you recommend I start with? Something not too easy but something I can build up on?

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GenXsurvivor · 17/06/2023 10:34

@Back21970 is there one specifically for arms?

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Back21970 · 16/06/2023 15:30

I came across Wall Pilates on FB, not been to a class and only do a couple of exercises but finding them very effective -a quick Google will show you a few basic moves on YouTube.

There are some paid Apps but I’ve not bothered as yet with these.

FrostyFifi · 16/06/2023 13:51

LOL - I know all about collecting weights... If I'd known what I was letting myself in for I would have invested in a top quality adjustable set. As it is, i started out with 3 kg dumbbells; currently using 8 kg and 12 kg. If I come across a reasonably priced 15kg pair I'll grab it - because I know I'll get there at some point

I have just taken delivery of a pair of 12.5kg ones! They'll be used for RDLs, rows etc. Buying it all at once would be a nightmare cost-wise but as you say you work up so it's only a new purchase every few months.

GenXsurvivor · 16/06/2023 13:43

@Outofthemoonlight i really need to give this a try. Hope that I do see results. Don’t know if I’ve got too much ‘bingo wing’ for it to ever bounce back but you never know!

I’ll check out growingannanas HIIT too!

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Outofthemoonlight · 16/06/2023 13:34

FrostyFifi · 15/06/2023 23:55

@Outofthemoonlight You beat me to it. She is life changing. My muscles and my collection of ever-heavier weights are growing.

LOL - I know all about collecting weights... If I'd known what I was letting myself in for I would have invested in a top quality adjustable set. As it is, i started out with 3 kg dumbbells; currently using 8 kg and 12 kg. If I come across a reasonably priced 15kg pair I'll grab it - because I know I'll get there at some point 😎

Outofthemoonlight · 16/06/2023 13:26

GenXsurvivor · 16/06/2023 10:21

Just had a quick look at Caroline Girvan! Wow, her arms are amazing!

If I could get a little bit more toned I’d be happy!

Off to buy some weights!!

You absolutely, totally will not regret it.

Persevere, and you'll start to feel better within a fortnight.
Give it a month and you'll think "wow - am I actually doing this?"
After 3 months you'll feel like a different person - both inside and out!

NB: for anyone who finds Caroline too intimidating, I'd recommend Growingannanas HIIT with weights. Similar format to Ms Girvan, i.e. very professional and easy to follow, but less challenging.

Scyla · 16/06/2023 10:55

Elektra1 · 16/06/2023 05:32

I had my testosterone levels tested on NHS. It was very low. GP would not prescribe testosterone though. She said that despite NICE guidelines they are not allowed to prescribe it "to see" if it makes a difference. I got it privately. It made a difference. GP might now prescribe it as I know it works for me.

That's good, I might go back to the GP as I've used it for a year now and they ought to consider it.

GenXsurvivor · 16/06/2023 10:21

Just had a quick look at Caroline Girvan! Wow, her arms are amazing!

If I could get a little bit more toned I’d be happy!

Off to buy some weights!!

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Pekkala · 16/06/2023 06:55

Another Caroline Girvan fan here - Iooking back at old photos my arms used to be much larger and looser than they are now. I'm early 50s and did loose a fair chunk of weight as well, but am stronger and more toned than I've ever been.

GenXsurvivor · 16/06/2023 06:33

Thanks so much everyone!

Loads of great suggestions!

Looks like it’s something that can be achieved but through hard work.

I need to lose at least a stone and want to firm up but mostly those bingo wings! I can hide my stomach and thighs but don’t necessarily want to have to hide my arms forever more!

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Elektra1 · 16/06/2023 05:32

Scyla · 16/06/2023 00:18

I went private and got testosterone as I was low, they do blood tests, which the NHS didn't.

I had my testosterone levels tested on NHS. It was very low. GP would not prescribe testosterone though. She said that despite NICE guidelines they are not allowed to prescribe it "to see" if it makes a difference. I got it privately. It made a difference. GP might now prescribe it as I know it works for me.

pinkginfizz9 · 16/06/2023 01:52

Yes!! My mum is 55 and was very overweight like BMI 45+ .She has been doing weights every day as well as dieting for about 6 months and has made a phenomenal difference to her body shape ( and very little loose skin which i think might still tighten up some more). No bingo wings now!

TheRealHousewife · 16/06/2023 01:24

Scyla · 16/06/2023 00:18

I went private and got testosterone as I was low, they do blood tests, which the NHS didn't.

Thank you.

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