Please tell me some joys of living alone

Those beautiful plants you’ve been nurturing in the garden for years won’t be “pruned” to within an inch of their lives or pulled out as if they were weeds.
The garage/shed won’t be full of rubbish or “just in case” items.
From now on you alone dictate when people come and go in your home.

I split with my exH after and affair. I got my confidence and joy for life back.

Oh and when I took the kids out for the day leaving the garage door wide open, and therefore the house to anyone who fancied coming in (thankfully no-one!), there was no one screaming at me for being so stupid 🤣. Lesson well learnt without any raised voices 😬

The toilet seat will always be down and no man pee splash round the edges

Ooh how exciting OP!
Are you staying in your home or getting a new place?

I know we have a child-free mumsnetters section, but I wish we could get a solo by choice board as well. There are so many women living peaceful, contented, fun and fulfilling lives out there. And we get this question so often from people who are newly single and scared for the future. I wish more could be done to send the message that being solo doesn't mean you've lost at life, sometimes it means you've won.

I too split with my husband after he cheated, and lived on my own for the first time in 25 years. First time ever really. God it was bliss, you will learn to love it (there is indeed an acclimatisation phase - I have been there). Do what you want, eat what you want, watch what you want, decorate how you want… peace, quiet, and calm.

No snoring!!!! No having to get up in the middle of the night every single night to go into the other room.
No shaving hairs in the sink. No cup left on the side above the dishwasher that is empty.
I need to leave my DH 🤣

It will be all yours. No hobby crap taking up space.

Your home will become a place of joy. Whether you shut the door after a long day and run a bath, or invite a friend over, or fill the fridge with your favourite food, you are your priority. And the only skids you'll ever have to clean are your own 😂

The sound of silence. No being forced to hear crappy TV/audiobooks, listen to whinging about anything and everything, endure the snoring etc.
Being able to move to find a cold spot in the bed.
Keeping the house clean and tidy, but also able to leave things lying around if wanted.
Fridge full of food you want to eat, eating at a time that suits you, cooking one meal not endless variations so being able to eat it while it’s hot, not waiting patiently for others to finish.
No ironing bloody shirts!!

Omg so many things but mainly less cleaning!!

You can date and bring new sexy men home for some romance and fun 🤩 (when and if you're ready)

It's clean and tidy.
No one moved my things.
No one else's alarms snoozing.
Watch what I want on tv when I want it.
Have my own friends over whenever I like.
Decorate however I like.
Eat what I want and when I want it.
No one else uses up the hot water.

When I first left DH I was worried I wouldn't cope. That was 30 years ago and I coped brilliantly and loved life as a single woman.

I've had a partner for the last five years, he lives a 10 min walk away and he's the most amazing man but he's not moving in here, I value my own time and home too much.

I cannot begin to explain how wonderful it is to live alone.

It is all about freedom and lovely if you get yourself in a routine and start fostering new friendships.

I see my house as my sanctuary, I am active at work or outside with my friends but my home is like a soothing device, either for myself at the end of a long day or when someone needs a cup of tea and a good chat 🙂

You will get to love it , but the first few months take a bit of adjustment.

Good for you, OP, for taking charge of your life! I'm sure everything feels shitty right now but it will get better.

I lived alone for years and found it heavenly. Everything is on your terms. Want to lie on the couch eating pringles and watching trashy TV instead of cooking dinner? Go right ahead. Want to decorate your home according to your tastes and your tastes alone? Go right ahead. Want to step into your peaceful home and close the door behind you after a full on weekend of socialising with friends? Yes, that bliss will be yours.

What everyone already said. Plus…………….

Not having to deal with someone else’s arsehole family!!

It’s brilliant. If you leave a place tidy, it’s still ok later. If you want to eat something from your fridge, it’s still there. It can be really fantastic as you are in control. Best wishes xx

Living alone in a blissful clean quiet sanctuary. No mess or smells. No tension or having to compromise on your wants and needs. Judt absolute peace and quiet. Being able to put yourself first. Having a nice new bed with lovely new pristine bed linen. Eating whatever you like at meal times. Being able to live in peace and have freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want. You will love the freedom.

Yep..what everyone else said. I'm sure you're going through seven kinds of hell now..if you head over to the Relationship board you'll find plenty of emotional and practical support but please don't see living alone as anything other than full of positives. If you aren't already at all handy, watch some you tube and put some flat pack together, put a shelf, paint a room. It will make you feel great.

Living alone is bliss. I can't imagine permanently living with a man.

*You can do everything YOUR way. No need to explain anything. No one to criticise your method.

*You can keep the hours that suit you best with no obligation to think of anyone else, their expectations or intimate desires. Sleep the day away or get up and have a busy day doing your own thing. Lovely.

*No washing, drying and ironing someone else’ dirty washing.

• No planning, shopping and cooking fkng food when you’re having an off day but need to be a good wife/partner and expected to sacrifice yourself on that altar.

*Peace, perfect peace. No noisy snoring, no boring repetitive conversations, no expectation of anyone else to do things for you.

The list is endless. It’s bliss.

Im not currently single but I can remember what it was like and some days I hanker for all the good parts of single life.

I have a little wooden sign "Wild and Free". This sums it up for me.