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Exhausted feeding my family

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winterrrain · 12/06/2023 10:42

It's not even a large family.

2 children and two adults. My Husband, my son aged 10 and my youngest aged 2.

My eldest and husband eat three cooked meals a day. Every day. They also expect a plate of fruit and a plate of salad to be out in the evening to snack on.

They all eat at different times and won't eat the same food. My Husband only eats his own country's cuisine and my Son doesn't like spicy food.

They reject any ready meals or processed food (I guess in a way that's good but he odd cheat meal I'd like as a break).

My Husband also likes a drink of tea made with milk and Cardamon in which is a faff to make and he has a few times a day. He also has a milkshake which contains banana and nuts in the morning.

My Eldest has a hot chocolate in the evening and water throughout the day but brings me the glass each time to refill as he will only drink it with ice and lemon in which he apparently can't make himself 🙄

They're both quite fussy and don't like a lot of food which can be batch cooked but my Son will eat spaghetti bolognese and shepherds pie but only the meat can be frozen he won't eat the mash if it's been frozen and he can easily tell.

I'm spending all day cooking and cleaning up after the family.

I work three days a week from home. Husband works full time from home.

My Eldest has a cooked meal at school.

They both like an omlette for breakfast. No toast and butter or cereal for these two 🙄

They have hot meals for every meal of the day.

Since I had my youngest I'm struggling with energy to do it all to be honest.

AIBU?

I don't think there's a solution unless I tell them to get their own food 😂 But wanted to know I'm not being unreasonable.
Any tips to make things a little easier?
Any batch cooking recipies I could think of?

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Sissynova · 12/06/2023 10:46

Or maybe this is a completely normal day of food for a family?

No it isn't remotely normal to cook for every whim of your husband and children.

If you are working 3 days a week why on earth are you making your husband a milkshake every morning followed by multiple complicated drinks??

Why have you pandered to everyone wanting different food at dinner and served at different times??

None of this is remotely similar to a normal family food dynamic.

Nordicrain · 12/06/2023 10:46

Why do you make all these stuff? Your DH wants a faffy tea, tell him to make it himself. Same for meals other than what you are planning to cook for the family.

TheSandgroper · 12/06/2023 10:46

Nope. Nopitty nope. Not normal at all.

Sorry, no real advice except to decide what you absolutely will do, what you absolutely will not do, tell them and stick to it like glue.

otherwise, say goodbye to your sanity.

MathsNervous · 12/06/2023 10:45

One cooked meal a day is reasonable, all the rest is not. They have legs - they can get their own.

winterrrain · 12/06/2023 10:43

Or maybe this is a completely normal day of food for a family?

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