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Considering Cam girl work when I can't work traditionally

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metintheclass · 09/06/2023 23:45

Hear me out

I am a FT carer and need to catch up on some sleep whilst my DC is at school.

That leaves, roughly, 3 or 4 hours a day for a job of any sort.

Ideally it'll be something self employed because my DC has a lot of medical appointments sometimes and this is tricky when a job is already term time only in a school, which I've left before as it was getting a bit silly with the time off

I've looked into those remote live chat jobs - an example is something like Argos or whatever, you click on chat to an agent and someone helps you. That sort of thing. But I've found 0

I'm thinking Cam work might work? Or at least worth trying? I'm not bothered about showing myself... my flesh is mine to keep. Nobody is touching me.

I have even thought of taking in ironing but there are companies who are big around here who already provide this service. The same goes for dog walking

I live in the countryside sort of semi rural and there is a local dog walker and doggy daycare type of place that provides safe open fields and stuff for dogs! So you would have ridiculous competition

Any advice and help would be appreciated

Before caring, I was a secretary in a hospital

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BoldHazelShaker · 17/07/2024 20:36

I don’t think the cam market is saturated. A friend of mine recently joined AW and in her first week she made £800 after fees. She doesn’t expose her lady bits or boobs but does take her top off and is sat in a pretty bra. The main thing with cam is being real and there is a big demand for curvy and plus sized models. It’s mainly what comes out of your mouth rather than clothing that comes off your body. My friend averages out around 600-1k a week.

I did it whilst I was doing my masters. It paid well and I didn’t show my face. I made a killing by selling stockings and Primark pants that I wore whilst camming!

Annieawakelate · 03/12/2023 10:18

I think no one can say do and no one can say don't. Only you really know, and if any doubts I'd definitely heed the contributors' caution. The job is what it is - taking off your clothes. But also sides to it - and yes I have - that didn't grasp till did; primarily that it's as much about chat as flesh. You're a naked social worker, for men with often no love in their life, but who still want to share their day and report in to someone. The market is saturated but chat's the key. A friendly hello when people come back, a fan club that earns them a crown by their name for joining. A room in cyberspace where they feel special, and fulfil a function in someone's life. Which means giving more of yourself, making it more personal than maybe planned. So you have to be very good at mentally pigeon holing, as living a double life in a sense. And yes they are frustrated, perverted, their brains drained of blood, but essentially it's you corrupting them. You set the fundraising goals and targets, and blush meanwhile. First time strippers command a value higher than Vegas veterans, you don't need to be good at it. The emotions just need to seem real and frequently are. This isn't Princess dress up make believe, there's for most a genuine high to the power that you hold, and bodies respond. Which poses the moral dilemma does having a big orgasm whilst doing make it cheating. Lines get blurred, you allocate time, but emotions seep into one another. And there's no turning back, you can quit but screen captures won't, everyone is recorded at some point, and your image posted or sold. The legal copyright warnings simply don't work, it's a sleazy industry commercially speaking. So is it worth it? Financially the answer is yes, the market is saturated for good reason. And with girls from poorer countries, not the girl next door. You will earn but the price is personal privacy, people will think they know you, and if they do they'll judge. And your partner must support your lifestyle choice. Good luck with!

girlfriend44 · 30/10/2023 21:04

How horrible.

DahliaJ · 30/10/2023 21:03

There was a really interesting tv documentary about cam.girls. Just can't remember the name of the series.

It did show the amount of work involved.

PaperDoIIs · 30/10/2023 21:00

How much commission do you charge?😬

KarmaStar · 11/06/2023 19:09

Thing is,once it's out there it's totally out of your control.your private parts,your poses and words will forever be out there.
Think very carefully.

Queenbee25 · 11/06/2023 18:18

Agree with @AngryGreasedSantaCatcus with onlyfans and seemingly everyone doing that, the market is saturated, like I say i steered away from cam sites as they take too much commission. I suppose ive carved out a good niche doing domination and i find it far more lucrative, I'm naturally dominant though and enjoy bossing men about so I've landed on my feet 😆

If it was me starting out i would start with the worn clothing sites, sell content, gather some regulars and take it from there. If you're brave enough to do camming you can do it via skype and charge for a block of minutes, that way youre not paying out to any middle men. And can choose what you offer and set boundaries.

In terms of earning, for me the financial submissives are the biggest spenders with the least amount of work! I sell maybe 2 or 3 vanilla items a week, knickers, tights, but most of the time im rinsing subs and if i sell items to them its at a jacked up price!

Just remember to set boundaries ie no face reveal, nothing extreme, and stick to them. Personally i dont like camming not just the paying middle men but i like to be in control and set the rules, thats just me though!

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 10/06/2023 20:29

The thing is, cam work is not what it used to be. The market is saturated and the ones making money put a lot of hours and effort into it, either by building relationships or doing very niche/extreme stuff. It's not as easy as log in, shake your hips and the money just flows.

I mean sure, you can give it a go, but you need to have realistic expectations about it.

Queenbee25 · 10/06/2023 20:19

Speaking personally ive not done cam work on sites mainly because they take quite a lot of commission off you, but ive sold underwear, tights, shoes etc on various sites, also sold content. Most of my niche is being a mistress type though so i never got naked, it was more about the tease, and also did/do financial domination and having submissives do tasks, this is all online though, never met any in real life.

It does take a lot of work at the beginning to get going, at the moment i have about 5 regulars, all submissive guys, who get off on paying a woman, and 2 are more into being degraded. I also sell vanilla stuff like knickers etc to guys who aren't into being dominated.

The upside for me is i can work from home and pick my own hours, and making good money doing not very much 😆 although it took a lot of work initially to build up regular buyers and paypigs as the market is a bit flooded now.

It also depends what sort of personality you are, for me the domination comes quite naturally and i enjoy it, its clearly not for everyone though. But there are a few used underwear etc sites out there and might be less daunting than camming. Im nowhere near having a 'perfect body' .. just quite busty which seems to appeal 😄

Ericabro · 10/06/2023 19:46

Hi Ironing lady here £25 for 20 mixed items of clothing do not do bedding or curtains for this price which with a steam generator iron will take less than one hour, to me the upside of this is you can do this work in the holidays, at night watching tv, and when the kids are in school and in bed /on holidays. collect one day deliver next day. advertise in local post offices and do not pay for adverts which claim to be for charities as they are usually a scam maybe make a leaflet and photocopy and put on cars as you walk past car parks and schools and local businesse,s its a honest living love take care

littleripper · 10/06/2023 18:41

It's all prostitution, essentially. There is no money without suffering in this field. The selling of shoes and underwear involves producing 'content'. Often what you see is a code and not what you get.

ActDottie · 10/06/2023 18:39

Do it - if you’re comfortable doing it then do it.

Although on the dog walking you probably would be able to get a few dogs to walk as most dog walkers and doggy daycare places have waiting lists there massive demand for dog walking atm.

Soontobe60 · 10/06/2023 18:12

A friend of mine is a part time teacher, and has started a cleaning job on her 1 day off. She has got clients via word of mouth + Facebook. She says she could easily work as a cleaner all week because the demand is so high. She charges £25 an hour and works 5 hours in a day in between the school run.

Missingmyusername · 10/06/2023 18:07

growgrowinggrown · 10/06/2023 00:12

I think you should do a bit of research first, it is such a competitive and saturated market.

You don't just log on and get men throwing money at you.

It takes such a long time to develop a following, you need excellent camera and lighting equipment, different outfits/toys etc.

You have to master editing, marketing, advertising etc. And even then you can walk away making a pittence.

Lots of people (MN) assume that camming is some fall back option that you can just hop into if needs must, I promise you it isn't easy at all.

However, some practical tips for you....

Adultwork is the biggest UK site with most paid traffic, ugly interface but does the trick.
Record a few short clips introducing yourself that you upload for free.
Then record any shows you do and upload them for a set fee - useful for generating passive income when you're not online.

Come up with a niche suited to you, doesn't matter what it is, and stick to it. You cannot be jack of all trades, you'll alienate too many potential users. Weird ones might get less interest overall, but those that are into it will pay more for it.

You can sell used items on Adultwork too. Do a show, offer the underwear you wore for a price (primark is your friend here)

Phoneline is least lucrative, textchat is practically dead and only really used for punters to organise meet ups with the escorts on there.

There is a very active forum for the girls to chat and support each other, get involved you can get a lot of excellent advice.

Don't forget, with any cam site you get paid into your bank account or online wallet so it is traceable and the tax man will want his share too.
It will also show on your bank statements if you have need to show anyone (I.e mortgage applications).

^ This

Be very careful, there have been other threads on this. It’s not easy.

drpet49 · 10/06/2023 18:06

Catsmere · 10/06/2023 00:18

Being a cam girl is opening yourself to abuse and trauma. It’s online prostitution, pornography, however much anyone pretends otherwise. Don’t do it, the price you pay will be far too high.

This.

waltzingparrot · 10/06/2023 18:04

Have a look at ten2two.org - jobs that fit in four hours whilst kids at school.

metintheclass · 10/06/2023 17:26

Does it have to be from home? We also have a mother's help who does 3pm-7pm. She picks up from school/nursery, comes to the house, makes the kids tea, plays with them, tidies round a bit, sometimes takes the eldest to a class. DH and I are working from home in the house at the time.

I don't think they'd want me looking after their kids in addition to my own though!

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chipndip · 10/06/2023 17:22

If you want to make money doing cam work, you will need to put in a hell of lot more time than 3-4 hours a day. Also, you need to advertise and use social media to promote yourself, which again takes time.

Have you done any actual research to see the sheer amount of cam girls who do this for a living and work all hours of the day, and are barely scraping by?

Have you actually thought about what it will entail? By this I mean that many want personalised individual content. Others want taboo chat and role-plays.

By all means, go for this if you think it will work for you but do your research and go in with your eyes open.

BounceyB · 10/06/2023 16:00

I thought about it for a short while but unless you're in amazing shape it probably won't earn as much as you think.

Whatsthescory · 10/06/2023 15:52

Do up a few mock ups and advertise them on your local Facebook community page. Sorry I keep having more ideas!

Whatsthescory · 10/06/2023 15:51

Oh and my daughters first name was spelt out with silver letters that were just glued on to the mount individually.

Whatsthescory · 10/06/2023 15:48

No way OP. I can see that you feel desperate but prostitution/sex work is just so degrading. You're worth so much more than this. Are you creative? Have you looked on Etsy for some kind of craft you could make?

My friend made me something beautiful that cost little to make but I could have paid much more for it. It was one of those quite deep IKEA photo frames. She got a wooden letter for the start of my daughters first name and attached it to a vintage looking tag with the date of the event. These were glued to the inside of the frame beside a photo of my baby and some sparkly plastic crystal things that kind of roll around at the bottom. It sounds horrible but it's beautiful and I don't think you'd need much artistic skill to make them, just a good glue gun!if I needed some work from home style work, I'd far sooner tap into that than porn!

JeanBodel · 10/06/2023 15:44

I think a domiciliary care agency would take you on for 3-4 hours a day. And they are always desperate for staff.

wildflowerlove · 10/06/2023 15:33

God I would never lower myself to do such a job, have some self respect op.
What about cleaning, it's pretty flexible?

ManyATrueWord · 10/06/2023 15:10

Prostitution gives you PTSD. Cam girl is a form of prostitution. You could well end up with a lot of mental damage. You are objectifying yourself, and that is dangerous mentally. Your personhood is denied and that is a huge part of what traumatises people. Don't do it. It's not nice and it's not easy. It's certainly not worth the money.