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People who don't move out the way on the pavement

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EarwigO · 24/05/2023 11:12

Is it just me or is this getting worse?
You're walking along, someone (or a group of people) come the other way, you both need to move slightly to pass without colliding. Only they don't.

It used to be a thing I noticed men doing - I got so annoyed with having to step into the gutter/press myself against a wall to avoid them, I stopped doing it and let them walk into me. At which point they invariably apologised!

But it seems to happen so much more frequently now, and not with men - usually a couple or a group of women.
Do they honestly not notice you? Not care? Just expect you to disappear out their way?

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Sonotlaidback · 24/05/2023 13:13

I've definitely noticed it more. I don't get why people do it. It's very rude.

If I'm walking on a narrow pavement or in a pair I always move over slightly or go single file to allow both parties to go by.

Lots of other people just won't move at all and will barge you into the road rather than move over.

What goes through their heads?

Bluebellbike · 24/05/2023 13:12

ItsCalledAConversation · 24/05/2023 11:53

Yes definitely, and on the roads too. Also in the supermarket, standing in front of things rather than standing back slightly so everyone can see the shelf.

Part of its awareness. Part seems to be just plain rudeness, people don’t tend to say thank you if you stand aside or hold a door for them, or take the door, they just breeze through as if you’re their personal footman.

My dad is newly blind and walks with a stick. He also has Alzheimer’s. (Outing details so if you know me, hi!) The amounts of people, older boomers, students, anyone regardless of age - who walk straight in front of him/towards him is crazy. My mum actually finds it very upsetting how heartless and unaware people can be. Not everyone of course, most people are considerate and some are even kind, but there are enough who aren’t to make going out a scary thing for them.

It is extraordinary how rude some people can be. I am almost completely blind. I can see shapes, coloured lights (eg headlights/traffic lights) and bright coloured things. I use a long cane. If anyone is approaching from in front I stop and they have to walk round me as I can't tell whether they intend to move to one side.

The worst are those who are looking at their phone instead of where they are going. This morning I stopped at the wall side of a pavement to let a woman with a pushchair past. She bashed me with the pushchair as she passed and said nothing.

Seeline · 24/05/2023 13:08

Mardiarse · 24/05/2023 12:50

Boomer women are the worst for it!!! You all seem to think the world owes you something. Madness. You are 50-odd, not 80-odd!

She would gen x, not boomer at 55 and it sounded like a light hearted quip, not a demand.

Thank you @Mardiarse

I was beginning to think that not only was I invisible on the pavement, but my sense of humour had also vanished!

Nanananananana99 · 24/05/2023 13:07

Apologies if someone has already said this and I’ve not spotted it but we are actually supposed to pass each other on the left when walking in the U.K. (so the person nearest the road has a view of the cars coming at them rather than cars coming from behind. The exception being to not make prams/pushchairs, wheelchairs or the elderly get forced towards the road.

Unfortunately, not enough people are aware of this nowadays.

mainsfed · 24/05/2023 13:07

Develop pointy elbows, so it hurts them to bang into you.

LlynTegid · 24/05/2023 13:04

Not my experience, except for those looking at their phone.

Greenfairydust · 24/05/2023 12:59

Men. To me it is always men who do this.

I have had quite a few instances where I was carrying heavy bags/packages only to have a guy aim straight at me and expect me to be the one to move out of the way.

Last time the guy even starting moving his hands towards me, as if he thought it was OK to physically move me aside.

I absolutely hate the entitlement...

BigBunkers · 24/05/2023 12:58

Ah yes I know what you mean. Near us is a pavement wide enough for two people to pass each other comfortably, but the amount of people that don’t move and expect you to step in the road is infuriating. More so when it’s children they are expecting to step in the road. I always say loudly ‘no DC the adults can step in the road, you definitely don’t do it’ and it usually shames them into moving.

Æthelred · 24/05/2023 12:58

sheldonia · 24/05/2023 12:54

You can't go around assaulting people because they aren't looking.

And I would not be apologising to you if you "shoulder charged" me. You'd be regretting it.

Maybe but I doubt it.

Redebs · 24/05/2023 12:57

Oh yes, and taking your dog to town when it's busy. Leave it at home! We don't want slobber and dog hair on our clothes in a crowded street? And those leads across the pavement 😖

SoupDragon · 24/05/2023 12:57

Total pain walking up the hill when parents are walking their children home from school. The pavement is just about wide enough for two people to pass but they walk in wide family groups and stay like that.

I always taught my children move into single file in situations like that. To do otherwise is very selfish.

changewhale · 24/05/2023 12:55

I'm so used to moving out the way that I tried to stop one day and it was so nerve wracking! Anyway. I can only assume more people are trying it. As a result no one will move for anyone

Delatron · 24/05/2023 12:54

Coaltitmum · 24/05/2023 11:22

Yes more people are doing this here and they don't say " thank you " when you've stood aside to let them by.

Yes. I shout ‘you’re welcome’ after them sometimes..

sheldonia · 24/05/2023 12:54

Æthelred · 24/05/2023 12:51

Me too. I'll shoulder-charge people who invade my space when glued to their phones. It's always funny when they apologise and immediately realise they've been jostled or shoulder-charged.

You can't go around assaulting people because they aren't looking.

And I would not be apologising to you if you "shoulder charged" me. You'd be regretting it.

Æthelred · 24/05/2023 12:51

britnay · 24/05/2023 12:36

I move slightly over and stick my elbow out. Fuck 'em.

Me too. I'll shoulder-charge people who invade my space when glued to their phones. It's always funny when they apologise and immediately realise they've been jostled or shoulder-charged.

NinjaGin · 24/05/2023 12:50

It amazes me how many people walk along staring at their phone so no chance of seeing you and moving aside.

Mardiarse · 24/05/2023 12:50

Boomer women are the worst for it!!! You all seem to think the world owes you something. Madness. You are 50-odd, not 80-odd!

She would gen x, not boomer at 55 and it sounded like a light hearted quip, not a demand.

pontipinemum · 24/05/2023 12:44

It's not new. This annoys me a lot though.

A friend at uni was that person though. I remember walking somewhere with her and I tried to slow down to step in behind her, she slowed, I sped up to get in front, she sped up. I said people are coming we need to walk single file she said 'oh'

I also move to the side if I need to send a text. I hate people walking with their head down and ploughing into you! I had recently had to yell at someone 'look look look' as she was heading right for a verge. (Not a dangerous one but she most likely would have fallen)

Danikm151 · 24/05/2023 12:41

I was always taught to veer to the left like we do on the road but a lot of people will go right and squeeze past you like you’re in the wrong.
Others just don’t move or are so glued to their phones that they are surprised when someone is there.

Don’t get me started on people that stand on the pavement talking and don’t move to let you pass.

Missedmytoe · 24/05/2023 12:38

Bloody annoying. Last week I had hurt my foot and was visibly lumping.
Two women with pushchairs were walking beside each other on the path towards me, and as they got closer, made no attempt to let me pass. I just stopped walking and they reluctantly 'single filed ' past me and then complained about "some people who don't move ". Idiots.

BogRollBOGOF · 24/05/2023 12:36

I'm sure it's worse since Covid too, which is strange after the extreme taking turns in the early couple of months. It seemed to be the winter lockdown that it got daft, particularly as it was too muddy for people to spread out onto the grass of parks. There were some parks I stopped going to because they were heaving with formation walkers refusing to change formation to let people past. I took up walking/ running in the dead city centre instead!

The other variation is using a dog lead as a whole path width trip wire. Again, feels worse due to there being more dogs, but isn't a new phenomeon.

Bonbon21 · 24/05/2023 12:36

Walking three abreast down a narrow pavement is unacceptable.
I walk normally towards them until level then stand still and force them to go into single file to walk round me.
Being in company does not give you rights to the width of the pavement!
It is just ignorance!

britnay · 24/05/2023 12:36

I move slightly over and stick my elbow out. Fuck 'em.

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BreehyHinnyBrinnyHoohyHah · 24/05/2023 12:36

Yesterday a couple were walking towards me and I moved to the side closest to the road to give us all room to pass. But then a woman who was walking fast and pulling a wheeled suitcase behind the couple decided to overtake them just as they all met me. As a result she stepped into my path trajectory.

I'm annoyed at myself because I stepped out into the road without thinking so that she could pass. Really I should have stood my ground and made her either stop and move back behind the couple or step into the road herself.

People seem oblivious to the needs of others these days. I was also walked into the other day by a bloke glued to his phone. I tried to avoid him but he was weaving as he wasn't watching where he was going.

I actually find kids / teenagers are more likely to give me room to pass.