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People who don't move out the way on the pavement

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EarwigO · 24/05/2023 11:12

Is it just me or is this getting worse?
You're walking along, someone (or a group of people) come the other way, you both need to move slightly to pass without colliding. Only they don't.

It used to be a thing I noticed men doing - I got so annoyed with having to step into the gutter/press myself against a wall to avoid them, I stopped doing it and let them walk into me. At which point they invariably apologised!

But it seems to happen so much more frequently now, and not with men - usually a couple or a group of women.
Do they honestly not notice you? Not care? Just expect you to disappear out their way?

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Friendofdennis · 24/05/2023 14:01

I couldn’t move out of the way of a mobility scooter fast enough due to hip pain and the woman just plugged straight into me it is funny looking back but very painful at the time

TrashyPanda · 24/05/2023 14:01

We had a classic when out with adult DD in her wheelchair.

young woman came charging towards us, like she was playing “chicken”

Walked straight into DD and ended up banging her leg on the footrests of the wheelchair. She gave an exaggerated yelp and started sort of jumping up and down on one legs on the spot. we just smiled sweetly and continued on.

seriously - have some basic consideration for folk in wheelchairs. They have enough going on in their lives already without mindless idiots treating them as if they are invisible.

MadeForFun · 24/05/2023 13:59

Unbelievable, isn't it?

I was walking along a narrow pavement today and the council, for some reason, had erected a barrier across the road that was jutting onto the pavement so one section was even narrower, only room for one person to pass.

I saw an older woman (maybe 60s?) on her bike coming towards me on the pavement so I stopped for a few seconds to allow her to come past the barrier. Next thing I know, some lad in his 20s barges past me, tutting. He gets two more paces before he's nose-to-wheel with the cyclist and they both have to stop and maneuver around each other.

Little bit of manners and common sense lacking with some folk!

CaroleSinger · 24/05/2023 13:58

People have a lack of social awareness and are oblivious of their surroundings and what's going on around them. These are usually the ones who wonder why they get mugged or have their mobile phones snatched in the street.

Vallmo47 · 24/05/2023 13:56

Agree completely OP - manners in general seem to be gone. You step and let someone past and they don’t even notice. You make way, no thank you. No pleases. People look up and spot you but then don’t move at all. Best part is when they have their heads down reading on their phones and stop/start, stop/start and don’t acknowledge that they’re holding you up and being insanely unpredictable. Oh and the many many cars parked more than half way across the pavements so you can’t get through with a child/pram/wheelchair/mobility scooter. My sister has MS for crying out loud and once fell face forward onto street because she had to manoeuvre around someone who couldn’t be bothered to move their vehicle (they were sitting in it texting!)
She has no use of arms or legs so could easily have been hit by a car, but hey, the rights of a wing mirror over a person right? Sick to death of entitled assholes.

Betterbear · 24/05/2023 13:53

Yes dog walkers are the worst offenders. When I am out with my children they expect me to risk all of us being run over all because of their annoying pet. Sometimes they mark sarcastic comments as they pass.

BeginningToLookALotLike · 24/05/2023 13:51

I dread becoming older and/or disabled. Was out in town yesterday. Groups of young people walking 4 abreast and not moving for anyone. Couples taking up the whole pavement unaware of people in front of or behind them trying to get past. People expecting you to step into the road or, if there are billboards or bins on the pavements, expecting you to be the one to wait until they have passed.

I always give lots of room to anyone who looks like they need it but I am getting so tired of inconsiderate people on narrow pavements.

LetMeGoogleThat · 24/05/2023 13:48

I have been known to just stand still when this happens and make myself an immovable object 🤣

SouthCountryGirl · 24/05/2023 13:44

fetchacloth · 24/05/2023 13:34

I've noticed this too, I used to step in the road or gutter, but I don't now, I just let them walk into me.
Also this isn't helped by people walking while looking down on their phones. Some of these people hardly ever look up and don't even walk in a straight line, so even harder to avoid a collision.

I've stepped to one side when people are on their phones. I've still been walked into. No apology just a dirty look for being in "their" way

BananaPalm · 24/05/2023 13:44

Yes, I've definitely noticed this happening much more often in the past few years. And not only in London.

What I started doing (whether I have a buggy with me or not) is to start walking more slowly when I approach such people. This way they have a couple of extra seconds to realise that they need to move a bit (or to form a single file) and if we do collide, it's not a "high impact" collision 😂 Seems to be working so far!

EmmatheStageRat · 24/05/2023 13:42

Bluebellbike · 24/05/2023 13:12

It is extraordinary how rude some people can be. I am almost completely blind. I can see shapes, coloured lights (eg headlights/traffic lights) and bright coloured things. I use a long cane. If anyone is approaching from in front I stop and they have to walk round me as I can't tell whether they intend to move to one side.

The worst are those who are looking at their phone instead of where they are going. This morning I stopped at the wall side of a pavement to let a woman with a pushchair past. She bashed me with the pushchair as she passed and said nothing.

My DD1, who is 15, is registered blind and uses a long cane - I hate and despise every single idiot who literally jumps across her cane to gain themselves a metre advantage on the pavement. It happens shockingly frequently. I dream of inventing a cane with lethal spurs at the click of a button!

dinmin · 24/05/2023 13:42

Oh God, yes, especially those groups of three or more spanning the whole pavement (usually wandering very slowly too) as others have mentioned. The other day there was a woman with I think three children on scooters across the width of the pavement and I stopped and stood right off to the side with my dog to let them pass (when they could easily have gone in single file) and not so much as a thank you. Such a bad example to set the kids.

Bluevelvetsofa · 24/05/2023 13:40

People glued to phones so they have no clue that anyone is nearby.
People holding hands who can’t separate
Groups of whatever age, who insist on walking beside each other
Mothers with pushchairs who insist on walking beside each other.
People in supermarkets who block every aisle you want to look at and then dither.

Brefugee · 24/05/2023 13:38

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your ageism is tedious. Pack it in

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/05/2023 13:38

mainsfed · 24/05/2023 13:07

Develop pointy elbows, so it hurts them to bang into you.

Yes I do this, esp with men.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/05/2023 13:35

MucozadeOnLucozade · 24/05/2023 13:31

This drives me mad on school run trying to get child to school and all those already dropped off and heading back with their friends walking right across the pavement and blocking their blocking bums in the way.

Yes - I agree those who have dropped off already should give way to those who are still approaching the school!

Terrribletwos · 24/05/2023 13:34

I find this quite interesting. Having travelled throughout Spain and Italy I used to get so irritated with pedestrians walking straight into me with no regard or foresight when I had baby in buggy and toddler beside me. After much frustration I just did what they did and walked straight ahead regardless, they soon swerved at the last minute! I realised it was just a cultural thing and actually I came to prefer it to the uk cultural thing of " you go, sorry, you go" sort of thing that happens in UK.

fetchacloth · 24/05/2023 13:34

I've noticed this too, I used to step in the road or gutter, but I don't now, I just let them walk into me.
Also this isn't helped by people walking while looking down on their phones. Some of these people hardly ever look up and don't even walk in a straight line, so even harder to avoid a collision.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/05/2023 13:34

The other thing that annoys me, and this is usually men, is when people have conversation across the pavement, one at each “edge”, if you like. So you have to walk through the middle of them to pass, and there invariably isn’t enough space to go through.

Cant they both stand next to each other, at the same side, or at least step across as someone approaches?

Brefugee · 24/05/2023 13:32

I've noticed a lot more younger women do this now. I've got pretty good at pavement chicken over the years, playing against men, so I'm really good at stiffening the arm on the side nearest them and taking one or two out as i go past.

MucozadeOnLucozade · 24/05/2023 13:31

This drives me mad on school run trying to get child to school and all those already dropped off and heading back with their friends walking right across the pavement and blocking their blocking bums in the way.

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 24/05/2023 13:24

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Generation X actually. If you’re going to get your ageist slurs in at least be accurate.

iwantmyownicecreamvan · 24/05/2023 13:24

Seeline · 24/05/2023 13:08

Thank you @Mardiarse

I was beginning to think that not only was I invisible on the pavement, but my sense of humour had also vanished!

I don't think it's your sense of humour that's vanished.

doubleoseven · 24/05/2023 13:23

YANBU. After recent experiences I think I may actually be invisible. Honestly the number of people barging right into me had me thinking I might be dead 😂.
I did recently ask someone if I was invisible when they walked right into me and they just came over all blank.

ItCouldBeWrong · 24/05/2023 13:15

When I'm out with my young children I always have them walk on the inside of the pavement in single file if somebody is walking towards us, or is walking fast behind us. If an adult has their young child on the outside of the pavement we walk on the outside so that the young child isn't next to the road.
We always say thank you to people that move, however briefly, to single file as we pass them.
If I'm on my own I walk on the outside of the pavement and will step into the road for families, disabled and elderly. If it's a group of arrogant adults refusing to get into single file I stay on the pavement.
I often feel like being rude to the next people I pass after encountering the arrogant ones, but the next ones are usually polite and I don't want to start a cycle of people being annoyed with other pedestrians.