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People who don't move out the way on the pavement

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EarwigO · 24/05/2023 11:12

Is it just me or is this getting worse?
You're walking along, someone (or a group of people) come the other way, you both need to move slightly to pass without colliding. Only they don't.

It used to be a thing I noticed men doing - I got so annoyed with having to step into the gutter/press myself against a wall to avoid them, I stopped doing it and let them walk into me. At which point they invariably apologised!

But it seems to happen so much more frequently now, and not with men - usually a couple or a group of women.
Do they honestly not notice you? Not care? Just expect you to disappear out their way?

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fetchacloth · 24/05/2023 21:56

Nanananananana99 · 24/05/2023 13:07

Apologies if someone has already said this and I’ve not spotted it but we are actually supposed to pass each other on the left when walking in the U.K. (so the person nearest the road has a view of the cars coming at them rather than cars coming from behind. The exception being to not make prams/pushchairs, wheelchairs or the elderly get forced towards the road.

Unfortunately, not enough people are aware of this nowadays.

That's correct, I was also taught that as a child.
I was also taught that it was extremely rude for a group of people walking together to spread out across the entire width of the pavement- it's amazing how often I see this these days and is actually dangerous alongside a busy road.

Bluebellbike · 24/05/2023 21:54

TheShellBeach · 24/05/2023 14:40

Yes, just like that cyclist who nearly mowed down Auriol Grey.................she was on a pavement.

And she ended up in jail.

I have been mowed down by cyclists coming round corners on the pavement twice now. Until I lost my eyesight I was a lifelong cyclist and never felt the need to ride on the pavement.

PrrrplePineapple · 24/05/2023 20:30

Yes...not just walking on pavements but everywhere. People standing in the middle of supermarket aisles without leaving enough room to go round either side of them with a trolley. Likewise people who bimble up aisles, can see you looking at a shelf, and stand RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU to browse even though they can see you because you're right there. Also people who decline to use roads sensibly and don't stop at an obvious passing place when they see another car coming down a narrow road, or barge on through past parked cars when it's not their right of way and traffic is coming on towards them. People have no patience.

stbrandonsboat · 24/05/2023 20:20

Yip. Arrogant students in my small city. Passed three today and one of them was standing with his hands on his hips as well, further blocking the path. They're full of themselves, but their manners make them look as though they've been dragged up. Their parents should be ashamed.

NotReallyBotheredByThis · 24/05/2023 20:19

I stick to my side & don't scrunch up as they're coming towards me. If anything I make myself look bigger!

If they don't move I just stop & if they bump me they get evils or, if I think I won't get a whack, "Twat" growled at them....

LodiDodi · 24/05/2023 20:19

Sometimes if I'm in a mood I deliberately tense up for maximun impact, fucking swines

Bobshhh · 24/05/2023 20:11

Yep I run a lot and most pavements if both of us moved to one side we’d get passed each other with no issues at all. But 100% of the time I have to jump into the road or slam myself against a wall. Most of the time it’s families walking 4 abreast or mothers with prams walking in a group

TheBerry · 24/05/2023 20:06

Sigmama · 24/05/2023 19:37

It's not something I've noticed especially, but also it doesn't really annoy me

Lol you probably one of the ones who never gets out of the way, then.

TheBerry · 24/05/2023 20:05

One of my true bugbears, and I can’t comprehend the mindset of people who don’t move slightly so other people can get past.

Sigmama · 24/05/2023 19:37

It's not something I've noticed especially, but also it doesn't really annoy me

Wearehappy · 24/05/2023 19:28

I can't get The Verve-Bitter sweet Symphony song out of my head while imagining I'm the one barging people giving no fucks!

Coronationstation · 24/05/2023 19:28

It’s definitely got worse! Last night I almost walked straight into a guy. He was with 2 other people and they were taking up the entire width of the pavement. I moved to the curb side but couldn’t step into the road (and why should I??) because there was a bus coming that was about to pull into a bus stop and he literally didn’t flinch to move across until the very last minute. To be honest I was prepared to walk straight into him just to make a point!!

xsquared · 24/05/2023 19:24

People on their phones are the worst and deserve to get bumped into.

It's not somebody else's responsibility to avoid you, if you can't walk in a straight line because your eyes are on your phone and not the path!

Bluebellbike · 24/05/2023 19:18

EmmatheStageRat · 24/05/2023 13:42

My DD1, who is 15, is registered blind and uses a long cane - I hate and despise every single idiot who literally jumps across her cane to gain themselves a metre advantage on the pavement. It happens shockingly frequently. I dream of inventing a cane with lethal spurs at the click of a button!

I haven't (I don't think) had anyone jump over my cane. However on two occasions I have had people trip over it whilst walking from the side whilst looking at their phone. I don't grip it tightly in case this happens, or in case it catches on things; so my cane usually falls when it is tripped over.

Anothertwowilldo · 24/05/2023 19:15

What about those who are parked half bumped up a kerb and leave their car door open so no one can physically pass? I get this all the time on the school run and they take their goddam time “sorry one moment just strapping the kids in” rather than close the door to let people pass then continue.

DorisParchment · 24/05/2023 19:12

It’s just new rules for an expanded game of Patriarchy Chicken.

Tessisme · 24/05/2023 19:06

I was out for my very slooow run yesterday morning and part of my usual route is a path around some playing fields. There's enough room for two people to walk past each other comfortably. But two women were coming from the other direction and just kept on running at me without moving into single file, which to me seems the polite thing to do. I ended up running onto the muddy bank and was bloody raging with myself for not sticking to my place on the path. That's what pisses me off the most - the fact that I generally move aside for other people. I also direct my children into single file when others are approaching. Very very few do it for me.

WeAreBorg · 24/05/2023 18:54

GoodChat · 24/05/2023 11:20

I just keep walking with purpose in this situation. If we collide, we collide.

Haha this made me snort

also enjoyed @hettiethehare ’s ‘phalanx of mum joggers’

This thread reminded me of the elaborate dives into ongoing traffic people did round here when we all had to social distance haha

NumberTheory · 24/05/2023 18:35

Given increasing urban density, it’s not surprising this seems to be the case. you will come across more people you need to pass on the pavement. Even if the same percentage don’t move out of the way, you will still encounter more incidents of people not moving.

Which doesn’t mean there isn’t also a cultural change, but it may just be down to density.

justcantgetenough · 24/05/2023 18:30

I'm a cyclist and I don't ride on pavements but shared paths are a nightmare. People walking in 3 or 4 so taking up both paths, people with dogs on long leads so where am I supposed to go.

Ring my bell and get totally ignored, or the ones who jump out of their skin, your on a shared path, expect bikes! School run is a nightmare, older kids shouting abuse, parents telling kids to more out off way and the kids runs the wrong way.

RachelGreeneGreep · 24/05/2023 18:08

CatkinToadflax · 24/05/2023 16:15

A year or so ago I was walking my dog (Labrador - plenty big enough to be entirely visible) and about 20 runners came in the opposite direction in a pack. Not only did none of them move out of the way, but two of them actually stuck their arms out and forced me and my dog into the hedge!

Ugh, just reading that is making me angry. 😡

There are an awful lot of self-entitled people around. I think it's worse since lockdowns and I have no idea why.

Astrak · 24/05/2023 17:59

My major irritation is people barrelling towards me on our village's narrow foot paths whilst their heads are down looking at their mobile phones!
I'm very tempted to just stand there and let them bump into me, but I'm worried that they wouldn't even stop then and I'd be left on the floor a mangled heap! I'm thin and live with a life-limiting chronic illness, otherwise I'd do it . . .

girlfriend44 · 24/05/2023 17:59

Gormless idiots, they should go single file it's crazy.

If they were a car acting like that they would crash.

Can't stand ppl who just stop suddenly dead, do t they realise there might be someone behind.

hettiethehare · 24/05/2023 17:47

Totally! We've moved so that I have to walk in the opposite direction to a different primary school empyting out as I walk home with DD from pickup.

Most days I arrive home in a stinking mood as it is a battle to get through - DD and I walk in single file on one side of the pavement and the amount of families (the adults are just as bad) who seem to think that we need to either stop for them to come through, or should be walking in the road. I cannot believe the entitlement. Some days I take great pleasure in holding my line and seeing how many people I can hit wit my shoulder.

And don't even get me started on the phalanx of Mum joggers from the same school who come steaming through, 2 by 2 and 3 by 3 at speed - can't possibly run in single file and I've been forced into the bins by them before.

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 24/05/2023 17:27

JustBeKindItsEasy · 24/05/2023 14:45

As a parent with toddlers I always moved them closer to me and got out of other peoples way, even if we had to stand still to let them pass.
If you leap into the road without them making an effort to move too you’re letting the next generation to be entitled.

Just a thought
Id go with the PP and the Hyacinth Bouquet strategy. Thinking of doing that even if I’m on my own. 🤣

Yeah I was more thinking of a frazzled parent with a stroppy toddler! Agree absolutely that children should be taught to be considerate from an early age.