To not let other people feed my FF baby?

Yanbu. I’m just starting my baby on solids now and prefer to do it myself. I have let others feed her but I end up hovering over them watching, so I can act quickly if she chokes.

I don’t care if it’s PFB 🤷‍♀️

Do what feels right for you. Mothers intuition.

By ds3 I'd have preferred to take the rubbish out than do yet another feed.

I always let family feed them from the start though and it doesn't seem ti have had any negative affect on bonding

Us grandma's know our place, make the tea and put the bins out...until of course proper childcare is needed or when the parents are desperate for a break...then we're useful.

It's totally up to you but just just consider for a moment what level of contact you'll like to have as a Granny in 25 years time.....

I think grandparents visit and naturally want to feed and care for the baby m, not take the bins out.
Is your Mum allowed to feed the baby?

IMO it's a real shame that you won't let the babies grandma have a go at feeding.

How would you feel if you weren't allowed to feed your future grandchild?

Why would she take your rubbish out?! That's the shit you or your husband do while she sits and feeds the baby surely?

How old is your baby? Was in having mine 8 weeks ago. The midwife said to the mums ff on discharge to try and only have themselves and dad give the bottle. This is to support the baby in developing their essential bonds with their primary care giver. An older baby, maybe 4 months + I think the odd bottle would be OK.

I understand how you feel. Am certainly not expressing so someone else can feed my baby. FF or BF some mums just want to fulfil their primal role of being sole feeder of their baby.

Redic.

On one hand it's yor baby and if you want to always do it it should be up to you, but on the other it is nice for others to be able to do this too and give you a few minutes of baby free time. The main bonus of formula feeding is that others can help with baby care more so you can have more rest so you're missing the main benefit if you always feed

Don't babies have like 6 odd bottles a day? Course I'd let mil do a bottle.

In other words, you don't like your MIL, and you don't want her around your baby. Just say that then.

Seems mean.

I've literally just come home with my newborn. The midwife who came to chat to me and sign her off before I left actually said to me that it's important that it's just me and DH who feed her for the first week at least so she associates us with food and comfort. Congratulations OP x

This, I suppose. Plenty here will encourage total me-ism on the baby front but I'm not that way inclined so I think you're being possessive. Baby has two parents I assume...and grandparents too?
Or is just mil that's not allowed?

It's one of the reasons why we decided to formula feed, the thought of being the only one able to feed him overwhelmed me and filled me with dread.

It's a real advantage of formula feeding to me.

I get this too OP. Did you want to breastfeed and struggled? This was me. I hated not being able to breastfeed and carried so much guilt I really hated seeing other people ff her, not so much her dad but MIL and my parents. It took a lot of internalising my want to scream and cry when MiL was feeding her. I never stopped her as I knew it was a nice thing for the pair of them to do, and she didn’t do it a lot. And as time went on it got easier.

Oh totally get this! The baby is your baby and you want to feed them! It's a funny feeling, you want a break and 5mins to yourself but you also can't imagine someone else feeding your child 🤣

do whatever feels right for you OP xx

You'll be doing the majority of them surely it's a nice thing to let her do one if she's visiting. I used to love being asked to feed my nieces when they were baby's & i know my parents did too.

Do you allow anyone else to feed the baby?

Your baby so your choice but I think you're being ridiculously precious and will look back at this with embarrassment

How old is baby? If she's six months old and granny has never had the chance to feed her then maybe a bit mean! I know what you mean though. I used to hate it when my mil would barge me out of the way to push the pram also on the guise of being helpful when actually I felt weird and uncomfortable not having hold of it in the very early days. Once they were a bit older then I was happy to let her crack on!

How old is your baby. My thoughts on this would be different for a tiny newborn than a slightly older baby.

I think feeding is a lovely experience, it’s not surprising other people want to do it too. However if Your baby is still newborn/very young I wouldn’t feel bad about wanting to do that aspect of care yourself.

I had the opposite issue that my breastfedbabt wouldn’t take a bottle, so no one else could feed him.

maybe you could suggest other things MIl could do that would be helpful. Eg ask her to take baby for a walk while you have a bath. So you can direct her to something she might enjoy that is also helpful. I kind of feel that with small babies guests/friends/family should be helpful and focus almost as much on supporting the parent as much as just wanting to have a cuddle with the baby.

That’s weird.

Do you suffer with anxiety?

Bit ott to have a problem with other people feeding your baby. It's only 1 feed out of the thousands you will do.

I think it's a shame not to let anyone else do it, my sister and parents really loved the opportunity to feed my son when he was a baby and thanks to COVID they didn't get that many chances to do it. It doesn't take anything away from your special relationship with your child to let someone else feed them.