To not let other people feed my FF baby?

Oh and if my son and soon to be born baby ever have kids I won't have a fucking obsession with giving them a bloody bottle.
I know I'm over reacting because I'm pregnant and hormonal but this thread is giving me the rage 😂😂😂

Nobody suggests taking a newborn baby bear from its Mama bear. It’s totally fine if you want to do all the feeding. Feelings about breastfeeding or not can be very powerful. It’s your baby - no one is being harmed by whichever choice you make over this. There is plenty of time for family to have a relationship as your baby gets older. It’s easier then. I had a third baby because I still wanted to nurture a baby. I don’t plan to make any of my grandchildren another baby for me. I will be just as happy sitting across the room coping and helping my child and their partner.

@PinkyFlamingo

I must be the antichrist then cause I didn't!

I actually can't believe anyone would be so mean and not let a Grandparent feed their Grandchildren a bottle.

My baby is 5 months now but both midwives I saw said try to limit bottle feeding to mum and dad. I really don't see why so many posters have a problem with that or why they are making out you are being OTT! I chose to allow people to feed my baby after about a month as I wanted a rest but you are well within your right to not all. Babies can bond with grandparents in different ways. You wouldn't stick baby on grandmas tits if you were breastfeeding!

Your baby, you decide who feed the baby. It’s that simple!

You do you and don't feel bad! I really wanted to breastfeed my first but couldn't get enough milk into him. Was really upset to introduce formula at the hospital's insistence as it felt like failure to my hormone addled brain. I mix fed until he weaned and never let anyone else feed him as I wanted to be the one providing the food like I would have been if ebf. I knew at the time it was silly but it made me feel better and I don't regret it.

I think you are completely reasonable in this. When the baby is older it will be different.

I breastfed and let others feed with a bottle, I suppose I was lucky they took a bottle! I really loved seeing my family feed my baby. My MIL is amazing, she brought round fillet steak and vegetables as I was a bit anaemic after the birth (and a bottle of champagne!), and also babysits when I work. I love the bond they have together.

Posting here was a bad idea, as you’ve come in for a bunch of criticism. Please ignore it all.

Your baby your choice, and your feelings are valid. That’s all there is to it, really.

Didn’t they already have a turn when they had kids?

@Fandabedodgy @Spicypeanuts
So was it selfish of me to breastfeed & therefore my mil couldn't give my baby a bottle. Get a grip

You've got bigger issues if you dont even like the babies Dad feeding them!

It's the advice you get now at the hospital if formula feeding.

I smiled, nodded and then completely ignored it.

If I had been able to breastfeed, then it would always be me and I really love doing it.

Not necessarily: I pumped and bottle fed DC right from when he was born because of latching issues and so he took a bottle from birth. DH fed him at least once per day. I realise I was lucky in this respect and not every baby takes a bottle (we did have all kinds of other feeding problems) but it definitely wasn’t just me who fed him. If you want to, that’s your call as your the mum, but don’t feel like you’re missing out.

WTF is all this about only the parents feeding the baby at first? Would it honestly make a difference to bonding if another relative gave a bottle now and then? Say twice a week, so 2 bottles, out of the (say) 42 feeds per week, assuming 6 feeds a day?

I find it hard to understand how precious people are about new babies nowadays - well, some of them, anyway. Though not my dd, thank goodness - her last baby was taken at 3 weeks to visit ILs and was passed around a dozen or so friends and family for cuddles. And funnily enough, she survived and flourished.

Absolutely plus I guess she's not offering to do it at 2am?

It's definitely up to you what kind of help you want from others and they should be able to go along with that especially at such an early stage. Some people might want a break from the baby so would welcome someone feeding it, others would be happier being helped with all the other tasks so they can appreciate the baby cuddles themselves.

I can comprehend perfectly fine.

And you know exactly what you said…..which was that unless she let’s the in-laws give a bottle to her baby how can she expect them to love, or even give a shit about the baby.

Thats why it made me laugh….as well as make me feel sorry for all the unloved breast fed grandchildren out there.

You’re telling the OP to choose wisely so I suggest you do the same about the words you type.

It's seems a bit unfair to not allow loving grandparents a turn.

Your baby your choice.

But it would be nice if you to share bonding activities with your child grandparents at the very least

Posted before I finish.

Apparently evolution failed me because I didn't feel like that at all. I enjoyed watching DH bond with him and accepted that we were both learning and would both make mistakes.

OP, reading your updates it seems that there's quite a bit going on here and (perhaps) that's why you're digging in your heels about MIL doing the occasional bottle feed.

You're only 9 weeks post c-section and your in-laws are on their second stay-over visit in your home. Is that correct? Of course having guests creates more work for you and DH and, reading between the lines, doesn't sound as if the in-laws are proactive about offering practical help.

Unless you really love all this overnight company you or your husband are going to need to set some limits. Having houseguests when you have a newborn can be overwhelming. I'd address that ASAP.

If you really don't want your MIL feeding the baby tell her how you feel about it and make sure she has ample opportunity to cuddle and enjoy the baby that don't involve feeding.

She said 'people', I was unsure if she was meaning just family members or also including DH.

YANBU!!!
She’s your little baby. If you enjoy this as bonding time- YOU get to choose to do it.

Depending on your plans for childcare or even just your plans for getting time to yourself in the future, it might be helpful to start getting your baby used to taking a bottle from other people. If they're going to go to nursery while still on bottles, for example, they'll probably need to be able to cope with it then.