I am someone who likes to hear from people and are pleased when they message me. I read and respond same day.
Other people don't do this and I have friends who take a few days to get back to me and I get that they reply when convenient.
But I have a couple of flaky friends who are in touch intermittently when it suits them. I'm always the one to initiate contact etc.
So one friend I haven't contacted since last year, I messaged her recently and she ignored my message for a week before she got back to me. So I'm trying it out, this only read and reply if you feel like it thing and I'm actually finding it really hard work.
Her message has been sitting there for a week, I know what it says as I read the preview I just haven't opened it. The annoying notification dot is there every time I open my whatsapp and I keep thinking it's a new message. But no, it's just the old message that I'm studiously ignoring.
AIBU that keeping people hanging like this is annoying and actually harder work over the long term than just opening the damn thing and sending a reply?