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To be pissed off by this?!

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Hye000 · 18/05/2023 23:00

So… my partner’s mother introduced me to her builders the other day when I went round there to drop my youngest DC off as I was going to work. I have met them before but only in passing. Anyway, she introduced me as “this is my granddaughters mother”

I mean, wtf?! Me and her son have been together nearly 9 years!!! Would it have killed her to say “partner”, she could have even just said daughter in law… the builders wouldn’t have cared. I felt so embarrassed as even the builder was trying to work it out in his head I could tell. By the way, they have met my partner before as he has told me he has had conversations at length with one of them. It’s really just rubbed me up the wrong way and made me question how she really feels about me

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CatherinedeBourgh · 18/05/2023 23:03

Seriously? I mean, being her granddaughter's mother is pretty important, isn't it? Is there a hierarchy of relationships that people need to refer to each other as now? Maybe she was worried that if she said daughter in law you'd correct her and embarrass her? Who cares?

I guess coming from a family which is not so much blended as whisked I'm pretty used to referring to people by their blood relationship to each other, so I wouldn't be bothered by this.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 18/05/2023 23:02

Is she very literal about everything? If she is about other stuff, it's just her, slightly pedantic explanation. If she isn't, I would find it a bit wtf.