To hate summer because...

I hate summer, too. I know what you mean about getting pressured into doing all the "great summer activities". Most don't get what you mean, but I do. In the evenings I always feel as if I'm wasting my life away because I'm not outside. Or out drinking. Ew. It's just all so gross. I'll be at home, too.

I love the sunshine, the light evenings, etc, but man do I hate the heat. I dread a repeat of last summer. If I had to choose between a rainy/grey summer and a boiling hot one, I'd choose rain.

I feel the same in terms of when it's light outside until 10/10.30pm and I'm indoors and think, I should really go out in the fresh air for a walk or something, shouldn't I? Just can't be arsed. At the end of summer though I regret it and promise myself that next year will different! Never is!

My cat loves the summer. He spends loads of time in the garden.He'd be a bit pissed off about having to spend all of the summer indoors.

I was about to say who on earth is wondering around in a bikini, but I guess if you live at the coast it’s more common.

Honestly, life’s too short. Wear what makes you happy and do what makes you happy. If sitting inside with your cats is how you want to spend your down time, it’s no one’s business but yours-enjoy!

I'm with you !!

I am also in a coastal town and would be bikini body ready if A) anyone else where I lived wore them which they do not and B) I was not risking getting chilblains doing so. Where are you that its hot?

Yabu; you’re the only one putting this pressure on yourself

I feel guilty hating warm/hot weather but I have a health condition that makes it utterly intolerable. In winter I don’t feel I’m missing anything if I’m indoors but I hate that I don’t enjoy being outside and doing summery outdoor things. I dread the summer months and can’t wait for autumn. Plus in winter you can put more clothes on, cover yourself in throws and keep warm. There’s only so much you can do to keep cool unless you invest in aircon. Thin clothes, fans, blackout blinds only do so much if it’s 34 degrees.

Come move to the North West - it’s pretty muggy and cloudy here, definitely not bikini weather!

OP, I hibernate most of summer! Outside of having to do the school run etc etc that I HAVE to do, I am inside with the windows and curtains closed. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you are feeling ok mentally, getting enough vit d and moving enough. I do agree with pp above who said there has to be a level of acceptance. Just do what you want to and don't worry about what is 'normal'

Big nope to bikinis over here too. My favourite things to wear in the summer are enormous kaftans, really big full length ones, with gladiator sandals and sunglasses and one of those plastic picnic glasses full of mojito, and I can waft around like a faerie. Try it, you'll love it. If you don't love it you haven't had enough mojito. 😄

Nobody has ever pressured me to wear a bikini and I don't think anyone ever will.

Oh and same goes for bikinis - I think I wore one once last year. Rarely warm enough in the days I'm free to get to the beach

Who is expecting you to prance about in a bikini when it’s barely been hitting 20 degrees?

Do what you like in warm weather, sit at home in the dark if you fancy it.

But there’s also nothing wrong with people who spend time outside or enjoy sunny weather.

Nah, normal

Enforced fun isn't much, er, fun

People expect you to go to the beach on a May evening just because the sun has appeared? Sod that! Who are they? Just say no. I also live in a lovely costal place and no chance of even dipping a toe except on the hottest of days and certainly not after a long day at work.

Where's the pressure coming from OP? It would make sense to make peace with "summer" in whatever way you can, because it's coming for you every year, and you can either hate it or get your head round it.

I always get summer blues too! I enjoy outdoor activities but definitely have the constant feeling of missing out in summer, like any night not spent drinking rosé on a rooftop is a wasted evening. Whereas in the winter, at home all cosy is exactly where you are meant to be and where most other people are too, so there is no FOMO.

Yabu. Firstly, there is no point in hating it because there is nothing you can do to change it. Secondly, ignore the peer pressure. Thirdly, find the positives eg you don't have to wrap up warm, you don't need the heating on.

Personally it's my favourite time of year because I like being outdoors and it is easier to do with the warmer weather and many hours of daylight.

To a degree maybe you’re being unreasonable because vitamin D is super important, so going out for a little walk in the daylight is really beneficial for you.

But like, no you don’t need to be out in a bikini or sweating your tits off in the hot sun.

I actually do not like sitting out in the sun in this country, I agree. I’d rather be sat indoors.

I do however enjoy a walk, I like activity and I feel much better getting daily boost of vitamin D.
if I lived at the coast id definitely go for a walk but I wouldn’t feel obliged to have to spend hours outside just because it’s nice weather! Quick 30 mins trot about listening to a podcast to get some steps in :)

Such a strange post. Don't do any if those things if you don't want to, I don't get it....is anyone forcing you? What's the point if this thread?

I prefer being indoors in the summer as our house keeps cool for most of the day.

I’m a night worker and hate summer!!

I think the bikini thing must be very specific to your apparently very warm coastal town because nobody is wearing bikinis here on the outskirts of Bath!

I was never a summer fan until I had a child. Now it means there is always the park when desperate.