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To hate summer because...

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winterbaby777 · 18/05/2023 16:14

Of the constant peer pressure to be outside in the sun, the pressure to get a bikini body and to lose weight in order to wear certain clothes, the pressure to be constantly doing outdoors activities and living life to the full.

I want to sit indoors with my cats, watch television and eat my favourite food. I don't want to go and sit in the sun. I don't want to wear a bikini and prance around pretending I love my body.

I'm a teacher and I've just finished a hard day of work but I feel that it's socially unacceptable to go and chill indoors for the rest of the evening as it's so 'beautiful' outside, and I live in a coastal town so the pressure to get out and onto the beach and into the sea is hard. I also suffer from depression which doesn't help.

Give me rain any day!

Anyone else or am I a grumpy nob?

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CurlewKate · 02/05/2024 09:55

Pressure from who?

Coolblur · 02/05/2024 08:45

The only person putting any pressure on you is you. l
Love how you look, do what you want, live for you, no one else.
Besides, you already have a 'bikini body', you only need a bikini to achieve that!

missdeamenor · 02/05/2024 08:41

Never bow to social pressure or feel the need to explain yourself. Just do you.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 02/05/2024 08:37

You've gone too soon.

LittleMonks11 · 02/05/2024 08:34

You might feel better if you get outside more to be honest.

I love summer. Can't bloody wait for it, to feel the sun on my face, to feel warm, lots of outdoors activities. I would love to live by the sea.

I hope you can find a way to manage your depression.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/05/2024 08:30

scalt · 02/05/2024 07:54

Summer? I’m still waiting for spring.

This too! I didn’t think anyone was saying it was already summer though - I agree, still waiting for Spring!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/05/2024 08:26

5128gap · 18/05/2023 16:29

Just try to see it as another option. Rainy day, what can I do? Sit in. Sunny day, what can I do? Sit in or go out. Basically like a chicken drumstick on a buffet, it's there if you want it, but if you want to stick to a sandwich, all good.

This, I think. You don’t have to do it but the option is there.

nothingsforgotten · 02/05/2024 08:24

creamcheeseandlox · 18/05/2023 16:38

Such a strange post. Don't do any if those things if you don't want to, I don't get it....is anyone forcing you? What's the point if this thread? Hmm

I agree. This often comes up on posts about summer and yet I've never felt forced by peer pressure to constantly be outside, and I've never worn a bikini in my life.

If you don't want to be outside, then stay inside. I really doubt that other people care that much about what you do.

Katemax82 · 02/05/2024 08:08

I hate summer because of all the flies, not a day goes by without flies or wasps getting in the house

scalt · 02/05/2024 07:54

Summer? I’m still waiting for spring.

ForgottenPalace · 02/05/2024 07:49

BogRollBOGOF · 01/05/2024 20:21

Who revived a zombie thread to moan about the second warm day of the year. Not hot, just warm enough to wear a t-shirt and sandals with jeans. 🤦‍♀️

No one's forcing anyone to put their hot chocolate aside, take their blanket off and frolic in a bikini all evening until it's dark.

I think I revived this thread by being the first one to reply to it in a year!

LifeofBrienne · 01/05/2024 20:30

Zombie thread - and it wasn’t even that warm today!

PassingStranger · 01/05/2024 20:27

Every year we get all this as the seasons change.
Bring on the Summer it's been cold for two long.

BogRollBOGOF · 01/05/2024 20:21

Who revived a zombie thread to moan about the second warm day of the year. Not hot, just warm enough to wear a t-shirt and sandals with jeans. 🤦‍♀️

No one's forcing anyone to put their hot chocolate aside, take their blanket off and frolic in a bikini all evening until it's dark.

Freakinfraser · 01/05/2024 20:15

Who is telling you to do this op?

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 01/05/2024 20:00

I know exactly what you mean. When I was a kid at home, my sun worshipper Mother would insist we spent all day/evening in the garden on sunny days. Didn't matter if it was 38 degrees, we had to be out. Only allowed indoors for the toilet and to get a drink. All meals eaten outside.

All I wanted to do was get out of the sun and read my books or write my stories. I hated it.

Now as an adult that translated to me refusing to go out because I "should". I'll go out if I want, bug if I want to sit indoors for a whole hot, sunny Saturday and binge watch TV goddammit I'm gonna do it!

Nannyogg134 · 01/05/2024 19:57

I totally get it, I don't really like the hot bit of summer tbh and there's always a bit of shock when I say it to my friends and colleagues😂I find sitting in the sun a bit boring and I get hot and sweaty really quickly so I don't like going for a drink in a beer garden. Actually (while I'm admitting my shameful secrets), I don't like going to the beach either!

utilitarianism · 01/05/2024 19:55

I hate what I feel is excessive heat, so summer isn't my time of year, either. But I'd put an end to feeling pressure to get out and do things you don't want to do. Tell people plainly that you're hot, you're tired, you just want to chill inside, etc, then just do what you like. If you'd like to spend time with them, invite them to do something you'd prefer, instead.

It's never a waste to live your life the way you want to live it. We don't all like the same things, but that's okay!

Whydoikeeprejoining · 01/05/2024 19:54

Summer is great for not having to wear a big coat. I have a fair few cats that aren't mine, which sunbathe in my garden, which I love to watch. They lie in some bizarre positions and look so happy.
Everything looks nicer when it's sunny.
BUT It's not great for showing up imperfections like facial hair. When you're due a wax and the sun is glaring and you can't walk round with a big scarf over your face.
The pressure to take kids on holiday because all their friends are going.
Trying to eat outside with wasps.
Sticky suncream and the morning line up to plaster it onto the kids before school.

StormingNorman · 01/05/2024 19:50

I’m a grumpy knob too. I always feel I should be drinking rose in pub garden or floating around a tennis court but all I really want to do is collapse on the sofa. I do like sailing weekends and ice cream though so maybe I’m coming round to the warmer weather a bit.

HeddaGarbled · 01/05/2024 19:45

You need different friends or to get off social media.

nadine90 · 01/05/2024 19:42

I’m not a summer person either. I like layers, blankets, cosy fires and soft lighting. Not sweating, hay fever, wasps and having to get my pasty legs out!

BlastedPimples · 01/05/2024 19:37

It's just too hot. I look like a sweaty mess all the time. Hot faced and shiny.

LadyAroundTown · 01/05/2024 19:34

Come to West Yorkshire then. It’s not summer here. We’ve barely had a few dry days yet.

SpikeGilesSandwich · 01/05/2024 19:12

Yep, I hate summer too. Today was quite warm enough thanks, I felt quite hot in my jeans, t shirt and trainers, might get sandals out tomorrow but no hotter please!

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