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To ask how doctors can give such conflicting advice on recurrent miscarriage hoping someone can help me

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ivfregret · 13/05/2023 21:45

I was previously under a fertility doctor whom I paid for surgery and that didn't help still miscarrying. He told me to go straight to IVF

I then spoke to a consultant at Tommy miscarriage clinic who said try IVF in 12 months.

I've spoken to about fertility doctor after my fifth miscarriage who is saying IVF is unlikely to help and I need further testing.

I am really unhappy how can so many doctors be giving such vastly different advice, IVF either can or cannot help recurrent miscarriage?

What should I do?

OP posts:
Skyla01 · 13/05/2023 21:55

Hi OP, very sorry about your situation. Don't have any specific advice. However sometimes medicine isn't black and white- it's shades of grey and hence why you might get different opinions from different specialists. Doesn't always mean one opinion is right and one is wrong. Still makes it difficult for you though, I'm sorry.

Merryoldgoat · 13/05/2023 21:53

I sympathise but I have to solution or advice.

I was admitted at 38 weeks and saw 4 doctors over 6 hours who all had a different opinion on my treatment and no one knew wtf was going on. It’s exceptionally frustrating.

Sissynova · 13/05/2023 21:52

Is the 3rd doctor private or nhs? To me it seems like the first doctor doesn’t really give a shit whether the IVF will work for you or not and is just happy to get a paycheque.
The 3rd doctor seems the most reasonable. IVF is a brutal process and it’s a waste emotionally, physically, financially and time wise to go through it if it turns out there is a problem underlying that will result in miscarriage.
Further testing seems like the most logical option.

I am really unhappy how can so many doctors be giving such vastly different advice, IVF either can or cannot help recurrent miscarriage?

At the minute they don’t have much to go
off unfortunately and that’s the problem. If the issue is how the embryos form then that is solved by IVF in a way but if there’s an issue with you that makes it hard for an embryo to implant and thrive then unfortunately the same would be true for with IVF conception.

It’s not an easy road. I hope you get the answers you need and want soon.