To be upset about my sister being given a house by my parents

When you say ‘buy my house’. Do you mean you have a mortgaged property or that you have bought the house outright as a cash buyer. When you say ‘gifted your sister a house’ do you mean allowed your sister to live in it rent free or signed the deeds of the house over to her and she owns it outright?

Very unfair. I'm of the opinion that it may not be given exactly at the same time as each other but all large material or monetary gifts should be equal, excepting where one sibling is unable to earn/live independently.

YANBU to feel hurt or pissed off by this. Nothing you can do about it unfortunately

YANBU seems very unfair. Talk to them though as they may have other plans for you x

And you sister’s comment shows she must be a spoilt brat. No doubt there must be some history of your parents having a hand in raising an entitled child. Looks like that is going to continue.

You are not unreasonable. Parents who show favouritism are nothing but silly. It always ends up costing them in destroyed relationships.

For years I was told I'd inherit my parents house. They changed their will to share to one of my siblings and the grandchildren because "when we go you should be settled so you won't need it".
It sucks but, as you say, it's their property not yours. You have my sympathy.

Slaving away for years/bought a house at 25. 🥴

If your sister really said that then She shows an unbelievable lack of self awareness. Your parents sound stupid or blatantly love her more than you. She actually thinks it's fair for one sibling to be given a house because the other bought their own? And hers is fully paid off. Yours I take it has an enormous mortgage? This would break my family.

I’d definitely be annoyed if my DP gave my brother a house and not me!

My DP did let my brother live in the house they rent out, but he paid rent!

There may be a reason they have given the house to your dsis that you are not aware of. But, I agree, it’s shit

I mean you are a lot more fortunate than you think if you viewing buying a house at 25 to be slaving away saving for years.

You’re only in your 20s and your sister is only 20. Is there actually any reason to think it won’t balance out over time?
I don’t think things need to happen at complete equal times for siblings for things to be fair.

YANBU. Your scenario happened exactly to me. My parents' reasoning was that because they believed DH and I earned more than my sister and her DH, my sister deserved the house more. My sister and her DH thought my parents' reasoning was entirely sound (funny that!).

As you said, it is ultimately your parents' choice - and one I had to accept - but I never understood. I personally don't think is fair to treat one child more favourably than others - and not something I could do with my children. I almost felt I was punished for working hard and progressing in a demanding job. 15 years later, my parents haven't gifted me anything.

I'll be honest - I resent my parents but it has helped me over time to realise that my parents are quite toxic and emotionally immature. I have also realised that my sister is the golden child, whereas I am the scapegoat. I am also the one they come running to when they have problems. I don't put up with their shit any more, and feel much better for it.

Speak up now.

If they don’t want to leave it as an inheritance, they should sell the house and divide the proceeds between you.

If not, go no contact.

I’d be pissed off too.

Surely you can have a casual conversation about it? You are definitely not being unreasonable as it is very unfair. Have they helped you out in anything similar or are planning something else for you?
It is their money and I don't think its a case of you're annoyed because she's being given a house- its more that you are both their children, and fair/equivalent treatment is a basic expectation from your parents.

That's awful - unless your sister is very disabled and unable to work. My parents have always been transparent with me and my sis and generally we get the same amount of financial support. My mum helped my sister out a fair bit when she was going through a divorce and fell over herself to try and give me the same amount of money. I didn't need it so didn't 'take it' but I know if I need help in the future it's there. What is their reasoning to give her a house and not you? On the face of it is seems really unfair! Does she give them more practical support than you? (not that it would be justified!)

you are not being unreasonable, but could it be that they are thinking that you have a house so don't need one and maybe will leave the house they live in to you?

Life can be shite, but I’m not surprised you are pissed off. I would be in a similar scenario.

Speak to them. My parents let my brother live in their rental house for a bit but he paid rent etc. they might realise the unfairness when you discuss it.

Maybe they are planning to even things up somewhere along the line. Perhaps in their wills although I can understand that may not feel like a fair solution either.

Wow -
do you own your house outright? It’s not comparable at all to gift one child a paid off house while the other lives in one they worked hard for and are still paying off.

Speak to your parents about this, I would be making it clear this will cause a permanent rift between my sibling and I.

YANBU

Yanbu. I'd be gutted. I think if they just mean letting her live there for a bit thats ok. Or even selling it to her at a slightly reduced value.

I mean surely they aren't going to just give her a house? If they are then I would say thats mega unfair.