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Neighbours letting their baby cry for hours at night

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Lifeswhatyoumakeit73 · 13/05/2023 03:37

It’s 3.30am. The neighbours 1 year old whose bedroom is clearly in the room next to mine (we are in a terrace) has been crying for 2 hours. The noise woke me up and I have been unable to get back to sleep.

Aibu to think it’s totally unacceptable to let your child scream for 2 hours. Apart from it being really awful for the child who is clearly distressed, it’s also awful to listen to and also has probably woken up the neighbours on the other side too. It’s not the first time either by a long way.

I don’t know if I should go & speak to them about it tomorrow.

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SparklyBlackKitten · 13/05/2023 05:54

@Buttonsandlace you would report this?? What the?
If it happens time after time. You would first confront your neighbours!
And if you then feel there's a case of neglect THEN you report

Not straight away jeez.
The kid could just be sick
Or the parent. Or God knows what

Some baby's even cry when you are in the room ...🤐

autienotnaughtym · 13/05/2023 05:48

It's not normal for a baby to continuously cry. It could be being left or in pain. I would report it , people have thus view of not getting others in to trouble but it's not about that. It's a bout making sure the baby is safe and the parents are supported. If there is nothing wrong nothing further will happen.

frankgu · 13/05/2023 05:24

One of mine was a screamer & if she went for it no amount of cuddling, singing, milk, etc which of course I did would soothe her. She would just stop from exhaustion.

WeekendInTheBoondocks · 13/05/2023 05:20

Put some white noise on while this is going on. Who knows the baby’s reasons for the continuous crying, it could be that she’s inconsolable and the parents are doing all they can. I would pop round and tell them how the sound is keeping you awake, you can’t get a clearer picture of what sort of people the parents are than actually talking to them. I have a six month old (who thankfully isn’t a cryer - yet!) but I would be mortified if I thought he was disturbing a neighbour like this.

Cookiecrumblepie · 13/05/2023 04:40

Babies cry because they want something or are distressed. It’s not normal to just leave a baby screaming for hours. Poor baby. Can you report this to child services if it continues?

bussteward · 13/05/2023 04:39

Are you sure they’re not doing something? DD used to cry for hours even when we were there with her. She still has night terror episodes where there’s little we can do about the noise.

SugarHorse · 13/05/2023 04:38

EllandRd · 13/05/2023 04:34

It's a baby and that's what babies do.

That's very easy for you to say when you're not in the thick of it like the OP is.

EllandRd · 13/05/2023 04:34

It's a baby and that's what babies do.

PaintingTheSky · 13/05/2023 04:32

I sympathise op, but if it's not an every night occurrence then it's hard to say just what's happening.
My youngest was a screamer, barely slept and let the world and his dog know about it through the power of lungs.
We did everything humanely possible to stop the screaming, but nothing worked, there was no medical reason for it either.
Maybe this is the case with your neighbours baby? I'm sure the parents don't like being kept awake all night either.
Maybe you could have a kind of jokey conversation with the mum to try and guage if it's deliberate or not? Something like blimey, your baby has got a pair of lungs and half, how on earth do you cope?
See what her reaction is.

Buttonsandlace · 13/05/2023 04:11

I would report this. That baby may need help. My Mum used to say when I was a baby she would leave me downstairs crying\screaming and go to bed. It took a neighbour to finally notice there was something wrong when I was around three before I was seen by a doctor. Turns out I had been in pain since birth. Anyway the last time I caught my Mum laughing and telling someone to just leave a baby to cry I let rip at her about how negligent she had been. She's not said it again.

Lifeswhatyoumakeit73 · 13/05/2023 03:47

@Dunnoburt thanks! Still going at the moment - it’s awful 😞

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Lifeswhatyoumakeit73 · 13/05/2023 03:46

@Yummymummy2020 yea maybe it’s not a good idea to say anything- I am feeling a bit unreasonable as I am knackered and it’s been constant. They are definitely not with him though as I can normally hear them too. It happens a lot but this has been the worst for ages

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Dunnoburt · 13/05/2023 03:45

You have my sympathy though BTW! I hope peace resumes soon!

Dunnoburt · 13/05/2023 03:43

Could be night terrors? I had this issue with my LO used to go on for hours at night and there was absolutely nothing I could do.

Yummymummy2020 · 13/05/2023 03:42

Honestly I can’t imagine just leaving a child cry like that(I have two toddlers). The only thing I will say, is it possible they were trying to calm the child down and you couldn’t hear that as the crying would be so much louder? In saying that they could also be doing the whole cry it out thing. You are not unreasonable to think it’s bad to leave them crying two hours though, I couldn’t do it. I don’t know About saying it to them, that could go either direction and I guess it depends on how well you get on with them and just how frequent this is happening!

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