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Seaside living

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Moonandme123 · 26/04/2023 17:23

A job opportunity has come up for me about 1 hour from where I live. Dream job! It’s by the seaside in an area we know well as we lived there many years ago. Problem is DH has reservations because:
He doesn’t want to take our two primary aged children out of their current school.
He worries about the problems with some seaside towns eg street drinkers etc. this wasn’t an issue when we last lived there as we didn’t have DC.

I want to accept this job and move there. DH works exclusively remotely. My parents also live near where we would move to which would be nice for DC.

AIBU to even consider removing DC? Is living next to the sea with children nice? When we lived there before we would go to the beach most days even for just a de stress after work. Now we have DC we visit the beach every weekend but I’m aware that living there might be different.

OP posts:
justprance · 26/04/2023 18:52

I would move to the seaside in a heartbeat

Willmafrockfit · 26/04/2023 18:51

i am certain worthing has good schools

Crikeyalmighty · 26/04/2023 18:47

You know the area OP, you like it - so just go for it- my son moved primary 3 times!!

Favouritefruits · 26/04/2023 18:46

I live by the sea and it’s amazing in the summer, after school trips to the beach, every sunny day of the school summer holidays building big sandcastles and swimming in the sea! It’s not great in the winter as the wind off the sea is terrible but it will mean the winters aren’t as cold. I’d go for it!

mackthepony · 26/04/2023 18:43

Oops

Sounds idyllic

mackthepony · 26/04/2023 18:43

Sounds

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Moonandme123 · 26/04/2023 18:43

We didn’t want to leave initially. The landlord decided to sell and we couldn’t find a property quick enough so we explored other areas. I got offered a job where we now live and so we moved. We now live in the village where DH’s parents are. However after a falling out, we barely have any contact with them even though we could walk to their house in thirty seconds. I have double checked that DH doesn’t want to stay here for them but he is adamant he doesn’t have hardly any contact and would rather be near to my parents as they treat him so nicely and he considers my dad a friend.

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ifancyajamdonut · 26/04/2023 18:41

We live on the Isle of Wight near the sea, it's fab and our grown up dc and dgc love to visit. So much to see and do the tourists can be a mixed bunch but at least they seem to enjoy themselves before going home again.
Love living here.

GettingStuffed · 26/04/2023 18:27

We used to live in a seaside town but we rarely went to the beach. It was too much hassle getting 3 young children sorted.

The funny thing is that we're considering moving back there as a compromise as DH wants to be the cricket, and I want to be near my dad as he's getting on a bit. If we move to the seaside town I can get a train band be there in a couple of hours.

Nordicrain · 26/04/2023 18:23

I'd love to live by the sea. Worthing is alright isn't it? I would go for it.

dudsville · 26/04/2023 18:23

The sea, and seaside living, isn't one thing. There are small quiet towns, major cities, ports...

GoodChat · 26/04/2023 18:21

Can't you commute?
He doesn't want to move so you can't just uproot a family.

Why did you move initially?

Saschka · 26/04/2023 18:19

Oh Worthing is totally fine. You can live a bit further out of town in Storrington or Angmering if he is really worried about the town centre.

chocolatehoovering · 26/04/2023 18:18

I lived in Whitley Bay for years and loved it.
It's calmed down now but when I first moved there there was an issue with stag parties and drinking and people pissing in the streets. However that was mainly in the evenings and weekends. Once in 10 years I saw a naked stag cling-filmed to a lamp-post in the middle of the day.
Plenty of beaches to enjoy and things to do during the day.
I didn't live in the centre but half an hour walk from the beach and it was really quiet.
I wouldn't let any concerns about drinkers put you off because you'll be home with the children by the time that potentially becomes an issue. I think it's lovely for children to grow up near the sea. I really miss it.

Palegreenstars · 26/04/2023 18:17

Worthing is great. Most of my friends have been priced out of Brighton and now live in Worthing with young families. They don’t regret it.

Hazey19 · 26/04/2023 18:14

100 % do it x

BishopRock · 26/04/2023 18:14

Moonandme123 · 26/04/2023 17:28

It’s Worthing, West Sussex.
we lived there initially and had chosen it as our forever place until the landlord sold the property and we couldn’t find anywhere in time. We moved to where we are now and spend so much of our time going back there!!

Go go go, OP!!!!

Wtfishappeningandwhy · 26/04/2023 18:12

Seems the only argument against it is moving your children to a new school and as they are primary age it’s really not much of a reason. I would jump at this chance

Rosesbloomingnow · 26/04/2023 18:09

We're wasting sussex also, walking distance to the sea. I love it, kids love it. As teens paddle boarding, swimming with friends etc. Go for it! Kids are young enough to settle in any new school.

Tumbleweed101 · 26/04/2023 18:09

I've lived near the sea and loved it. Two of mine were toddlers when we were there. The town was nice and the people were so friendly as you learned in winter months who were locals.

Circumstances meant we had to move way but it wasn't choice and I'd still happily live there.

Hoolihan · 26/04/2023 18:07

Worthing is great, go for it. I live in Shoreham and love living by the sea.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 26/04/2023 18:03

I would love to live near the sea .

Wouldn't have worked for us with our family and DH's work prospects all in midlands urban area - and even now with retirement looming j wouldn't want to actively move away from my DC.

In your position though yes I definitely would consider it - there is a job there for you, your family are there and your DH can work remotely . At primary age your DC will make new friends - and can still keep in touch with old friends if they wish - you are only moving an hour away .

Cheesywiggles · 26/04/2023 17:54

I live in Worthing and have 4 dc , we personally love it! The schools are excellent in this area , we are very lucky! My dc love living near the sea and we go to the beach regularly. In my opinion it's a lovely area to raise a family, I would go for it personally! Good luck with whatever you decide ☺️

Beachbreak2411 · 26/04/2023 17:54

And as above, the community is great. we all know each other and look out for each other. My dd is safe going into town with her friends (she’s 12), and within minutes I get texts from friends saying they’ve seen her. She ran out of credit and needed to phone me and was comfortable to pop into a shop and ask them to ring me. I wouldn’t live anywhere else.

HappyTrance · 26/04/2023 17:53

I live near the sea but I am 10 minutes drive from a major city. It’s also a nice area for families and there are decent schools. I would consider it if I were you especially if you will be nearer family.