Do you have a close family member that you HATE

BIL and his cunt fiancee. I wish death on them a lot.

I have next to nothing to do with my sister,she's a thief and a liar and if she had to stab someone in the back to get what she wanted she'd do it in a heartbeat.

Yep I have a brother like that he's a total wanker and have nothing to do with him. my eldest daughter is just like him so I am very low contact with her .

Maybe not hate but as close to it as possible.
I’d not run them over if I was driving by them in the street and I wouldn’t be sad or go their funeral or actively wish them dead.
But absolutely dislike with a passion and don’t want to spend any time with them or even hear their name mentioned!

I probably don't hate anyone cos that requires emotion still. For those that have really wronged me it's indifference. So for an ex close friend and my SIL it's just that indifference.

I haven't seen or spoken to my stepsister for thirty years, I wouldn't say I hate her she just doesn't enter my thoughts ever. She hated me from the day I was born and made my life hell so when I moved away I never saw her again and never contacted her either. She turned up on my doorstep about 23 years ago, I didn't recognise her (terrible eyesight), she was offering an olive branch but I said no thank you and closed the door. I've no interest in knowing her, if I heard that she'd died I wouldn't have any sense of loss and wouldn't be attending her funeral or sending a card or flowers I'd probably feel it more if the neighbour's dog died tbh.

Yep my “mother”

Yes, my nephew. He's an arrgogant, big headed, narrow minded, rascist, biggot. I cannot bear him. It's not a secret in our family that I can't stand him. I won't go to any event that he is going to. I just can't bear him and I can't keep my mouth shut when he comes out with his crap. It's best for everyone that I avoid being in his company.

As an only child I never had any brothers / sisters to hate and a small extended family as well so no-one to hate there either.
I don't think I've ever hated anyone as in would step over them if found ill on the street , or be happy if told they are dead , so I guess that's a good thing.
I do however hold a grudge against people if they've upset me , even friends if they had said something in the past , they probably never realise but at the back of my mind it's still there hanging over our relationship.

I suddenly feel so much less alone reading how other people feel as strongly as I do. Grateful for these posts

Yes. Nightmare.

I genuinely hate my brother and often think about how great I'd feel to find out he'd died. I always picture myself at his funeral wearing really bright clothes and with a big smile on my face. He's such a manipulative arsehole of a bully.

Yes. Trying not to dox myself in the very off chance my sibling is reading this, but If they can get their shit together or try to make ammends I would forgive them. Not feeling hate right now but certainly have in the past after a couple incidents. It's made family get togethers very uncomfortable lately, which is frustrating bc We've lived far away from family for a long time, and my other sibling's family makes the effort to drive for hrs and get a hotel, and we either miss out on seeing them or it's very uncomfortable bc of sibling in question, and I have to listen to him sprout his garbage conspiracy theories and pro russia propaganda. This person has avoided adult responsibility or dealing with their issues for many yrs now, although they are (very slowly) dealing with some things.

They have threatened me in a vague way and refused to clarify. I suggested to my Mom that I try to talk it out with him before the xmas get together but she said he might take off and miss xmas at the mere suggestion (after driving for hrs to visit) so nothing changed. Then last minute he came for easter to and the whole thing repeated. Super frustrating bc I ended up snubbing my other nephew (who has also lived very far away and was visiting from school) in order to not see bro. Super frustrating. Parents should have enforced consequnces but they are very elderly and I dont want to stress them out or burden them more than they already are.

Sorry for the long rant.

I used to. But I realised they weren't worth the stomach ulcer. NC for over a decade. It's been lovely.

I had a brother very much like yours- if you add in a little bit of physical violence and emotional/physical abuse of the women in his life. He also repeatedly dragged me in to the chaos that he created. I went NC with him when my first child was born as I didn't want someone that toxic around my child (plus I genuinely would not have put it past him frightening or harming her to get to me). My parents made excuses for his behaviour and/or minimised it. I didn't like to go in to details about his behaviour so I'm pretty sure most people around me thought I was being attention seeking/dramatic/over-protective etc. He pretended to be hurt that I wouldn't let him have a relationship with my DC (he was annoyed about it, but because it meant he was not in control) and it caused huge arguments with my parents. I was genuinely concerned that, as my DC got older, he would try to contact them directly or other family members would arrange for them to meet him without me knowing- and I truly felt that he would be very likely to encourage them to do harmful things and/or directly hurt them. Quite a few people told me that if anything ever happened to him I would regret my stance and wish I had forgiven him. He did die unexpectedly and all I felt was relief. I still have no regrets, other than that I didn't cut him out of my life earlier. On the odd occasion that I have mentioned some of what I have posted here to friends etc in real life (other than DH) I have been told not to speak ill of the dead.

Pretty much hate the entire side of my Mum's family (not my Mum, she is great, but all her living siblings and their children) for choosing to bury their heads in the sand, ignore a paedophile in the family who has abused multiple children, threw me to the wolves and said I have mental health problems to save their own marriages and jobs. The truth will out and they will unravel and I will not feel one ounce of sympathy for any of them.

An ex that I am still friendly with has a horrible, toxic family.
His sisters managed to steal his inheritance and lied about it. He is disabled now and they have never helped him at all although they live at the end of the road. They were just dreadful.
One of the reasons we split up-I didn't want my kids to be part of it.

Sadly yes my younger sister though part of me loves her. We are NC.

She ran off with our big sisters DH and my sister has been seriously mentally ill since then. She lives in residential care now.

Flipping heck I could have written your post, haven't spoken to my brother in 10 years and wouldn't even know if something happened to him let alone care 💐

My 'brother'.

Jealous little bastard has tried to stitch me up many times over the years. Even though I had nothing to do with him, he hated knowing my career (same industry) was going much better than his. But he was never willing to put in the effort, expected it to fall in his lap. He sneered to people about the role I was in when I was in my late thirties. Yet he's in the exact same position in his mid-fifties the loser.

Final straw was when he tried to affect my daughter's career.

I had great pleasure discovering that when he split with my SIL ( who I get on with very well) she re-married and lives in a large, lovely home, and he spent months renting a grotty flat.

And others have said, I wouldn't be bothered if I heard he'd died, only think the world was better without him.

I have a sister who sounds very mush like your brother. I don't like her, I would never choose her to be my friend, but I don't think I hate her yet.

I feel like this thread has come to me at the right time.

Yes I hate my Uncle. If it wasn't for my Aunty I wouldn't even bother with him (which I don't really, he's just there). He's a horrible man child, who has tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. When something displeases him he has to keep on about it constantly. He's abusive and has always been pandered to by others so I suppose he has always gotten away with it. He has no redeeming qualities what so ever. There is far more to this but feel like it could be very identifying.

I would absolutely go NC if it wasn't for my Aunty, and after today very much plan on making it less contact.

I came to the realisation over Christmas that it was okay to HATE a family member and I'm at peace with that. I will continue to be okay with this fact and urge others to not feel an ounce of regret or guilt for hating a family member.

My stepfather, I've tolerated him for my DM's sake all my life (they got married when I was 7 and he'd been around for a few years before that) but I loathe him with every fibre of my being. He was lecherous and 'handsy' with me as a teenager and I don't trust him around my DD(15) one iota, he gets nowhere near her and never has.

My DM knows/knew and waves it away as 'just how he is' so it has ruined my relationship with her, she thinks we're close but I don't trust her anymore than I do him, it was her job to protect me and she failed. He is also completely socially inept and the most boring and irritating person I have ever met, he makes my skin crawl.

My DM should would never have looked at him twice if my biological father hadn't cheated on her and destroyed her self esteem so I would hate him too if I'd ever met him but he left when I was a few weeks old. He managed to destroy three people's self esteem (me, my DM and my older DB) when he did that so actually I do hate him too, maybe even more than my step father come to think of it. That actually felt good to get out, thanks OP!

I'm very grateful that I don't. I like all of my close family members